The old man is fighting for the baby's hidden secret. How to deal with the incident of fighting for children?
First, the story case As long as your mother-in-law is at home, Ye rarely has the opportunity to be alone with her children. At first Ye thought her mother-in-law cared about her, and I hoped to give her a lot of free time. In the end, Ye realized that her mother-in-law seemed to be intentional, even taking her children with her when she went out.
Several times, I even heard my mother-in-law "instigating" her children, and Ye felt very broken. Because he found that the child seemed to have a stronger relationship with her mother-in-law, which made her feel very lost. From the perspective of leaves, otherwise the mother-in-law will "occupy" the children every day, and their parent-child communication will not be so bad.
One day, the leaves broke out and all the grievances and dissatisfaction in my heart were vented to my mother-in-law. Frankly speaking, her mother-in-law is the biggest obstacle on her way to take care of her baby, which ruined her relationship with her children. It sounds that my mother-in-law feels that the venting of leaves is particularly wronged, because the original intention is not like this.
Ye Zi and her mother-in-law are both victims of this "tangled" storm with the baby. To be precise, it is because she didn't open her heart to each other and tried to figure out others with a self-righteous psychological state.
Hearing the venting of leaves, her mother-in-law also expressed her thoughts. She actually takes care of the baby seriously, not because she wants to argue with the leaves, but because she wants to minimize their pressure. After listening to her mother-in-law's words, Ye Zi felt guilty because he didn't ask the reason for "convicting her mother-in-law".
Second, the old people compete for the baby, and there are many secrets hidden behind them. 1. Many old people want to reduce the burden on their children, but they will not express it, but will reduce the pressure on their children according to their own practices. Old people know that young people are hard, and they will want to help them take care of their babies, so that young people can have more time to relax themselves at work, or go out with good friends.
2. The "generational relatives" of the old people migrate with the passage of time, and their parents-in-law are also aging. They also miss their children when they were young. The word "every generation" itself is the transmission of maternal love or fatherly love, and the good feelings for children should be revived. After all, I seem to see my children or children in my grandchildren, so I can't help but want to take care of them.
I naturally feel good about myself, and I don't rule out being a parent. Personally, he feels so good that he always feels that he has accumulated more experience. At that time, many mother-in-law gave birth to several children and had a relative concept of parenting. Fighting for children is basically a parenting education method that young people don't like and want to take care of children in their own way.
From this perspective, in fact, it is not a bad habit for the elderly to rob children, but some of their methods are not appropriate. There is no denying that there will always be some distinctive features in this society, but most parents still cherish their children. Still an old saying goes: As long as parents are alive, children will always be children in their eyes, no matter how old they are.
Many mothers don't react until they know the underlying reasons. Mother-in-law's original intention is to help relieve stress. However, if the conclusion is not clearly expressed, it will provoke a series of oolong tea, and it will also produce contradictions and frictions. It can only be said that effective communication is very important and is the premise of family harmony.
Third, if you are troubled by the competition for children, you can try this. 1. Communication with in-laws is under the same roof, and many things are frankly said, but it is relatively easy. If you think your parents-in-law can't accept it, then change a relatively euphemistic tone and language, as long as you can communicate and solve difficulties. Of course, everyone's initial heart is for the children. I believe that as long as it is something that should make children happy, the old people like to do it.
As the main member of the family, make a plan to take care of the baby. Everyone should join the baby. If you don't want to compete, discuss it in friendship, make a suitable plan and take care of the baby together. If young parents work during the day, they will take care of the baby directly at night, so that the old people can relax properly and enjoy the good time before going to bed.
3, in the face of parenting problems in the middle of bringing a baby, the problem of parenting is inevitable. Even if a couple takes care of a baby, there will be differences, not to mention generations with very different ages. Therefore, young people should be more understanding and tolerant of the elderly. After all, chemistry education was too bad at that time.
Written at the end: Although experts are advocating mothers to take care of their babies, more young girls who work hard and enjoy life hope to remain efficient at work. Therefore, the matter of bringing a baby must be supported by the elderly. In this case, the members of the extended family discuss with each other to create a harmonious and pure scholar for the children, isn't it good?