Between neighbors

1. Neighborhood is a relatively complex relationship. People often say: "Distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors, and close neighbors are not as good as the door to the door." People often say: "Good neighbors are worse than high walls."

Just like housework, it is difficult for upright officials to resolve it, and it is also like the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which has been difficult to resolve for thousands of years. What should we do? !

In fact, in Bai Lian’s view, if you treat each other with sincerity, there will be no bad people or bad things to do! People’s auras echo each other, unless there is a past life The fate of the disaster is another matter.

After I got married, I moved about a dozen times (there were a lot of internal adjustments within the unit), and I lived with a lot of neighbors, and we all got along like one family. Sometimes I also meditate on myself, how lucky it is to have such a good life from God, and I always feel that Bai Lian is a blessed person. Therefore, whether they are neighbors, relatives or friends, whether they meet by chance or fall in love over time, Bailian treats each other sincerely. I am grateful for every encounter, acquaintance, acquaintance, and companionship in life...

2. Bai Lian has lived in the countryside since she was a child. The people are simple, harmonious and friendly. Not to mention that the children knew each other when they were playing in the street. If anyone’s pigs, sheep, cats and dogs were lost, they would know which family they belonged to, and they would drive them back. Although life was very tight, with only enough food and drink, the road was not lost, and few people lost anything.

Even if I occasionally lose something, I still have a feeling in my heart. There are so many people who have lost something! They are all from my fellow villagers. I am kind-hearted and will forgive you for the time being. I will be embarrassed to take advantage of you next time. , keep this in mind at home as well.

This kind of thing rarely happens. The motivation is poverty and forced to make a living. People who are poor and have short ambitions will inevitably have evil thoughts sometimes, but the neighbors are merciful because they understand. When people pass by, they leave their names, and when geese pass by, they leave their voices. Once confusion is resolved with compassion, I am grateful for the tolerance and generosity of my neighbors, and I will live a decent life from now on!

To be honest, there was nothing to take from home at that time. Besides, the neighbors could watch who entered whose door! You walked in empty-handed, and you couldn’t take anything with you when you went out. Bar. Of course, borrowing is another matter. As long as you open your mouth, as long as you have something, you will borrow socks and even shoes.

In Bai Lian's impression, her hometown is like the one in Tao Yuanming's "Peach Blossom Spring". The land is flat, the houses are beautiful, there are fertile fields, beautiful ponds, mulberry and bamboo trees, endless traffic, and a countryside where chickens and dogs can hear each other. Among them, men and women are dressed like outsiders, with yellow hair hanging down, and they are enjoying themselves. I have lived in such an environment since I was a child. The neighbors are close to each other, so I have naturally been influenced by it.

You must not have the intention to harm others, and you must have the intention to guard against others.

3. It is normal for neighbors to have stumbling blocks, which are trivial and insignificant matters. Sometimes the misunderstanding is too big and no one can have the shame to talk to anyone, so they can go their own way without disturbing each other, let alone hurting each other.

When a family has a wedding or wedding, they have to ask the deacon to help with the preparations in advance. At this time, no matter how generous they are, they will lose the overnight grudge. The man's family carries a pack of cigarettes, and the family goes to invite the neighbors to help them. The woman's family prepares wine and food early, with delicious food and drinks. No matter how big the fight is, you can't stand up to the fellow villagers. If the matter is serious, you have invited them all. They are still good brothers. I just took a cigarette and walked home.

After three rounds of drinking, plenty of tea and rice, forgetting all past grievances, nothing happened anymore, why can’t people laugh at you! The master came to ask for help. We have to know how to promote. We have to count on our neighbors to help each other after birth, old age, sickness, death, funerals and marriages. Every family has something to do in the future. We need to rely on our neighbors to help each other! Just get off the steps. Those who know the current affairs are heroes! Although I can't tell you. There are so many principles, what you do is to walk in an upright manner, without the slightest hesitation (dislike).

4. Weddings and funerals in rural areas are all about the harmonious relationship between neighbors!

When one family is having trouble, everyone supports it. All red events are here to be happy. The host thanks the villagers for their help and support. Eat well and drink well, greet relatives and friends. Everything is bustling and peaceful inside and outside!

White things are here. It was a little chaotic, and the grief of the host was self-evident. The neighbor next door, who had a good relationship with him, put aside his own affairs early and took the initiative to help. The sky is big and the earth is big, the dead are big, and they need to be buried in peace! Many things need not be arranged by anyone, they are all done step by step. Women help to soothe emotions, take care of the house, cook, and welcome and send off. The men set up stoves and tents, arrange the shopping, and do all their own business. If they are members of the family or respected elders, they also wear filial piety to show their respect and remembrance.

Don't let relatives from ten miles and eight villages make fun of the neighbor next door who doesn't understand etiquette.

5. In order for her children to go to school, Bai Lian moved one more time than Meng’s mother did three times. After ten years of raising people and a hundred years of raising trees, Bai Lian is just a precious girl, and she also wants to see her daughter become a phoenix. It is very hard for children to go to school. Renting out your own house or renting a house near the school is the same, and it also saves time on the way to school.

Children have grown up listening to the school bell because it is close to the school. When I was in kindergarten, I stayed in a friend's dormitory, which was the Tongzi Building of the College of Education in Dapiyuan. ***The toilet and water pipes are used, and the kitchen is the corridor, which is also very lively.

We are on the first floor, where a few young single teachers live. Every time when I was cooking, the boys and girls would see it when they came back from get off work to rest, and they couldn't help but take a few more glances. He also asked: "Sister-in-law, what are you cooking? It smells so good! There has been no smoke in our corridor for a long time. The older ones have moved to the family building, and we young singles are too lazy to cook. We just watch you cooking." I feel like I'm at home!"

I was only 27 or 28 years old at the time. After all, I was still older than them. I would also smile and respond: "I'll get you a bowl of noodles! !" Then I made more sesame seed soup, scooped out noodles, and brought bowls of them around. Sometimes I cook porridge and stew a bowl of soup. Come and go, deliver and eat freely.

The young people don’t eat for free. The work unit provides benefits. When they go back to their hometown to get specialties, they give some to Bai Lian and share them together. Once, after cleaning the electric heater, I left it under the window sill, but it was no longer there when I collected it in the afternoon. When the little girl inquired about it, she found out that the rag collector came in and thought it was garbage collected, so she asked someone to get it back for me and deliver it to my home. Come. She returned it to Bai Lian and said: Sister-in-law, this yard is old, has many residents, and is difficult to manage. It is not safe to leave things outside. If anything happens in the future, please speak up.

In Xi'an, married women who are older than themselves greet each other as sister-in-law, and Bai Lian truly becomes their sister-in-law.

It didn’t take long, and the girl was having a great time playing with the children in the front building. Books, toys, snacks, share with each other, your home today, my home tomorrow, happily together! The adults also got to know each other because of the children. Today you have some delicious food at your house and I will try it. Tomorrow I have some rare things at my house. I will also give you some so that I can learn more and have fun. Sometimes there is a small friction between children, and the adults ignore it. At most, they talk about their own children and be more generous. For every child, the dog-skin socks are no longer good, and they are fine again within two days, so there is no need to worry so much.

My daughter was as happy as I was when I was a child when she was living in the bungalow, but she lacked the wider fields.

6. After I entered elementary school, I rented a unit in the Defu Lane community. The bathroom and kitchen were all indoors, so I didn’t have to come out once I entered. The point-style building that Bai Lian rents has four apartments on the fourth floor and one staircase. A colleague from the same unit helped find it, and it is one apartment away from her home. Except for our two families, I didn’t see anyone visiting each other. I always felt that something was missing, but I couldn’t put my finger on it.

My friend said that it would be nice if you came now. The child finally has a companion. Usually after school, when I go home and finish my homework, the time is almost up and I am too lazy to go downstairs. While talking, the two girls went crazy together. The two of us also take our children to and from school together, exercise, read books, knit sweaters, go shopping, buy groceries and cook. Sometimes when someone has something to do, it is common to help pick them up and take care of the children. The eldest sister and the little sister are more affectionate than Jin Jian.

Sometimes when we meet our neighbors on the same floor, we only say hello symbolically. After all, they are older than us and we cannot be rude.

Bai Lian went to work at her child's school when she had the opportunity, and her friend's girl also moved away in junior high school. We were just like our friends before, going upstairs and entering and never coming out. At that time, my lover's workplace was far away and I didn't go home often. The girl would occasionally ask: "Mom, is dad very busy at work? Why don't you come home? I feel like a child from a single-parent family?

< p> Faced with my child's questions, I was speechless...

I told my child that my father was busy at work and could not go home on time every day to accompany her to study, eat and play. Pretend to smile and ask the child: "Isn't mother's love enough? Still miss dad? Didn't dad come back just a few days ago? "

"I don't really want to, I just feel bored. I go out to play and don't know other children. Besides, after I finished my homework, it was already dark and there were no children to go out to play.

They said that there is a big bad wolf outside at night and will take the child away!? ”

7. Defu Lane Community also belongs to the school district, 80% of which are migrant households, a mixed bag. There are three gates in a community, and chaos often occurs in the middle of the night. Don’t say I don’t know the cats, dogs, or even the children, and I don’t even know which floor or number they are on, and I can’t ask anyone about it. Where do you start talking about this, and what is your intention?

It’s just outside the community? Defu Lane is a bar street where Xi'an's nightlife begins when the lights come on. In the dimly lit and drunken world, Bai Lian goes to work with her children during the day and goes home with her children at night, occasionally going shopping, bookstores, and supermarkets. , almost at two o'clock and one line. During the day, through the bright windows, imagining the fragrance of coffee and the mood of red wine, Bai Lian knew her mission and never indulged in it.

Once, a friend came to the city and asked to go together. When we came to this quaint bluestone street, we saw the weird nightclubs and bars. Bailian joked, "You live in a good place, how lively it is." ? !" He told her seriously that he had never been to any one, and he didn't know what it looked like, let alone how happy it was!

The one he visited most often was the "Xiangzi Temple" at the end of the alley, dedicated to the Eight Immortals. One of them, Han Xiangzi, prayed for blessings and enjoyed the fragrance of the ancient locust tree. The flowers bloomed and fell, and they became neighbors for six years without knowing it.

8. During the Wenchuan earthquake in 2008, Xi'an. The earthquake was particularly strong, and there were rumors of even greater aftershocks. The epicenter was Xi'an. The time that will always be remembered is fixed at 2:28. At that time, the children were just getting ready for lunch, and the canopy bed was shaking so much that Bai Lian almost fell off it. The bed fell down. There was a crackling sound in the cracks between the windows and the wall, and it seemed that light could be seen in the cracks of the wall. Colleagues staggered out of the dormitory carrying their shoes and lunch break, and stood still staggering in the small playground. Unable to stand.

I don’t know who said it, it seemed like an earthquake! Everyone put on their shoes and ran to their respective classes to help the substitute teacher evacuate the students to the empty playground. No one hesitated, and the priority was to evacuate the children safely.

After counting the number of children and ensuring that all the children in her class were evacuated safely, Bai Lian looked around and saw that the children were leaving. The girl from the far northeast corner was running toward me. I quickly went up and hugged the girl tightly. Then I realized that their class was the first to run to the playground. The teacher said to run farther away and leave room for other classes. Every class has almost finished counting, and the teacher asked me to come to you.

Bai Lian shed countless tears that afternoon...all stemming from being moved

First, the hug. Looking at those timid girls, just like an old hen protecting its chicks, she wishes her wings could grow longer, and she could comfort and warm the frightened and overwhelmed children who are crying for their mother. Tears welled up in their eyes involuntarily.

Then I hugged my daughter who was safe and sound, listening to her talk about the teacher's broad mind, and cried quietly again

That afternoon, the phone couldn't be reached, and my lover called the work office to make sure that the mother and daughter were safe. I asked my colleague to tell me to call him back to report that he was safe. It was already seven o'clock in the evening when the last caring parent came to pick up the child. He took the child's hand and said: I also wanted to pick him up early, but then I thought about it, there is no place like school. It’s safe, so I came late. It was already dark and I couldn’t see her expression. Thank you for your great trust. You are telling the truth. No place is as safe as school.

On the way home with the child. , all the shops on the roadside were closed. When I opened the door, it was a mess, and the items high up were scattered on the ground. The children were so frightened that they started to cry. After comforting the children and doing their homework, I calmly finished cleaning up and remembered the phone. I don’t know how anxious my family must be. I took out my mobile phone and still couldn’t get through. What should I do?

9. Bai Lian thought of the neighbor’s eldest sister, who usually just said hello, but now it’s late at night. Is it appropriate to take the liberty of making phone calls at home? Try it first. It is always right to be kind to others.

The child knocked on the door, and the door opened. When she saw it was us, the eldest sister said happily: "You are back. You can't hear the door. It's worrying. Just come back. It'll be fine." OK!" My uneasiness melted away instantly! Choking with sobs, I asked my eldest sister if I could call home to report that I was safe. "Come in, come in, that's a phone. Go and make a call. Only landlines can get through!"

He walked to the sofa and picked up the receiver and handed it to Bai Lian: "Hurry up and dial the number. Family members I don’t know why I’m so anxious?”

As soon as I made the call, I heard my mother-in-law’s anxious voice calling my name. She was obviously sitting by the phone waiting to report that I was safe! I couldn’t bear it anymore. Overcome with joy and sadness, I called out, Mom! Then I couldn't say a word anymore and let my tears flow freely. The eldest sister took the phone and told her mother-in-law that she was a neighbor, mother and daughter were safe, and everything was fine at home, so don't worry.

My daughter was frightened by my gaffe. What happened to my mother? !Keep wiping my tears with your little hands. Mom won’t cry. Mom won’t cry.

After hearing the warm and kind words from the eldest sister and the comfort from my daughter, I calmed down and picked up the phone to reassure my mother-in-law. His old man kept telling me in an anxious tone: "Just be fine, don't cry. I couldn't get through the phone this afternoon, so I was anxious. I called my work and asked you to call me back. But I couldn't wait, and it became even more urgent. I just couldn't get through the call this afternoon." Don't worry! Wake up with your baby tonight!"

After making this worrying phone call, Bai Lian stepped forward and held her eldest sister's hand tightly, thanking her profusely. The eldest sister's hands are very warm, just like the hands of family members, and her words are even warmer, going straight to the heart: "If you have anything to do, come to me, we are all neighbors!"

Bai Lian was not in good health for a while, and her mother-in-law I came to Xi'an to help take care of my children and became good friends with my eldest sister. Your family and mine visited each other to chat, made delicious food to share with each other, and they became good sisters again. At the insistence of her mother-in-law, Bai Lian called her eldest sister aunt, and the child also called her grandma. My mother-in-law said that people of three generations are inferior when they are away from home. It is true that they should be smarter. Three kind words can be used as money. Your neighbor is more than ten years older than you, how can you call her sister?

Listening to her mother-in-law's words, Bai Lian felt like she was back in the village of her childhood.

When I left, I was reluctant to leave with my aunt. I still keep my contact information and WeChat, and interact and chat from time to time. During the ancient festival this year, my aunt came to the century-old oil shop to buy vegetable oil and sweet-scented osmanthus ball rice.

10. When the children entered junior high school, they moved to the Big Wild Goose Pagoda. The streets are spacious, bright, clean and tidy, and scientific research units and colleges are concentrated here. Cuihua Road is dotted with two universities, three middle schools, three primary schools, and other scientific research units. Walking on the street, everyone speaks softly and smiles. There is a lot of traffic during the day, but it is very quiet at night, with very few vehicles and pedestrians.

This is the life that Bai Lian likes very much. It is completely away from the hustle and bustle of Telford Lane and the shitty luck all over the place. She just can’t let go of my good Chinese neighbor aunt and her family.

In the morning, practice morning dance at Big Wild Goose Pagoda Square. There is a morning market at the door, so it is very convenient to buy groceries. I also enrolled myself in vocal music classes and literature classes, and met many dancing, singing, and poetry friends during my studies. In study, she is a friend she has made throughout the years, and in life, she is Bai Lian’s teacher. He is a good teacher, a helpful friend, and a good neighbor across the street and in the same hospital.

11. There is also a deep friendship between two households on the same floor. The former tenant was a friend of mine. When he came here, he specially introduced the opposite door and said that he was a very nice person. You will inevitably cause trouble to each other when raising children. Let’s get to know each other, here’s another good neighbor.

Sometimes I didn’t come home on time when I went out, and the child didn’t bring the key. My aunt’s house had all food and drinks included, and I also did my homework. As a token of gratitude and reward, Bai Lian shared her delicious food and her father's fresh vegetables with her eldest sister.

My whole family received invitations and wedding candies from my eldest sister when my son got married and my grandson was a full moon baby, and we became guests of our neighbors. The eldest sister also loves Bai Lian's life. They go to class together, dance and sing, and become a mentor and helpful friend from a neighbor. The relationship has been further sublimated.

With sincerity, gold and stone are opened. Bai Lian believes that these are the years when she has made the fastest progress since growing up with her children, and she has made a qualitative leap in body and mind. Of course, there is also the song-like accumulation of time and the tenderness of time passing by. I would also like to thank my good neighbors and mentors in Bailian for their care and help.

12. The move that happened more than Meng’s mother had to do was out of necessity. The landlord was very nice. When we moved in and signed the contract, he said that his grandson was one year behind the contract when he went to school, and they were away on their own. Don't let us worry about renting an apartment. Moving is not easy. Bai Lian remembered this love and cherished every corner of the room. Now that you have moved in, it is your own home. The clean windows are bright and clean, and there are green plants and flowers on the windowsill. It is full of life, comfortable and warm.

The landlord came to collect the rent. He looked at the clean floor and refused to come in. He said: "I have lived here for more than ten years and I didn't know that the room could be cleaned like this. It doesn't feel like my own home anymore. I'm embarrassed to go in." , I’m afraid the ground will get dirty.”

After living in the house for a long time, the facilities will inevitably have some problems. The solar power was repaired several times, the natural gas meter and water meter were replaced with new ones, and the natural gas boiler was always disruptive. Finally, water leaked upstairs and the toilet became unusable. The landlord became embarrassed: "I was thinking about renovating it after your children graduate. It seems that the plan has to be moved forward. You find a new house, and I will pay you back the rent. The children will probably not use the furniture in this house again." , if you can use it, you can take it. After all, I broke the contract first, so let’s take it as compensation for you!”

I really like this home where we can all grow up, and there are a group of good teachers and friendly neighbors. . What else can I say to a good and sincere landlord? Thank God for blessing Bai Lian with good life and luck!

13. I found a new house on Cuihua Road, which is closer to my children’s school. It’s a two-bedroom house. As soon as you enter the room, you see four doors and mottled walls and floors, giving you a sense of mission to rebuild your home. God rewards hard work, as long as there are people, everything will be there!

The child is extremely dissatisfied, and there is nothing I can do about it as a mother. This is a room in a school district! If it’s not for you to go to school, why bother with our newly renovated three bedrooms and two living rooms to come here to experience life? How can you know how hard life is when you grow up in a small honey pot! Take out the white lotus and you will have the unbeatable Xiaoqiang spirit. Hard-working hands can create everything. There are always more solutions than difficulties!

I am afraid of others. After The landlord agreed and demolished the cement pool that occupied a lot of space in the kitchen and bought a ceramic pool himself, which saved a lot of space. The walls were painted, the floors were covered with leather, the furniture was measured and placed according to size, the screens were removed, and everything was replaced.

After tidying up for more than a month, we finally have the look and feel of home, and the children no longer have disgust in their eyes. Sometimes they would tell me excitedly: Mom, our classmates also live in this courtyard, and there are many classmates I don’t know! Every day we are like time travel. When we go out, we travel from modern times to modern times. When we come in, we go from modern times to modern times. It would also be nice to travel through the portal of time and space and bring it back to modern times.

Well, it’s not because the neighbors are classmates and encourage each other...

14. After successive renovations and improvements, this time-travel home has some flavor. The flowers and plants make the room more lively and fragrant!

After tidying up the house, I started to clean the outside. I cleaned up little by little with my father, and knocked on the door one after another to ask. After obtaining permission, we disposed of the heavy dusty furniture and waste that had accumulated in the corridor all year round. Some neighbors walked up and downstairs and asked in confusion, "Are you from the property management company?" I don’t know when it was left behind, and I don’t know whose family it belongs to. This is how we live here!

Amitabha! Bai Lian doesn’t understand? Walking among a pile of garbage every day, what does it feel like to try to see people behind the curtains and walk in and out!?

Since it is a house in a school district, the neighbors are like a revolving door. They change one after another. They are all good neighbors who try to break the wall and feel at ease. They see each other but don't hear each other. I can ignore the environment of this yard, and it is good for the girl to have neighbors. Doesn’t Bai Lian still have so many mentors and friends, and they are still neighbors now?

15. I keep a discarded dustpan and broom at the door of my house all year round. Either it has some special feng shui or special etiquette, or I sweep the corridors every now and then. Bai Lian loves to be clean, but the place where she works is dirty. How can she keep her home clean?

In a public environment, who wouldn’t like to come home clean every day? When going out to do errands, your heart will be open.

I have lived here for two years and cleaned for two years. One time the beautiful woman in the unit in front of me asked me, the corridor of this unit is clean and bright, and there is no debris piled up. We also paid the property fee, why don't we clean this unit? Bai Lian was stunned for a moment and told her that she was a resident, not a property owner. The beauty turned around and left with a look of incomprehension. . .

Working is like real estate. Is Bai Lian so like real estate? Life is inseparable from material support, but not everything is based on material. Without the drive of profit, just muddle along, turn a deaf ear and live in the garbage!

Although sweeping the corridors is dirty and choking, no one understands it, but it cleans the public environment, and Bai Lian's heart was open to the family members and neighbors who came and went every day! That time, the mother upstairs took her children out, and when they met, she asked her children to say thank you, aunt!

The joy of giving is boundless! I also gained love, warmth, and harmony!

16. The smog in Xi'an was very heavy today. Bai Lian did not go out to exercise. When she was buying food in the supermarket, she saw that the corridor was dirty again. Pick up a broom and dustpan to clean up, and your family and neighbors can travel through the time tunnel in comfort.

Putting down the broom, Bai Lian's thoughts also traveled through this tunnel. Childhood memories, once good neighbors, mentors and helpful friends were all in the memories, and we met again!

In a daze, I looked up and saw the sun. It was just the right time at noon! Not too early, not too late, it was time to make lunch. !