Most of the children in the class who are well-connected grew up in such a family environment.

Speaking well is very important when dealing with others. Language is a tool of thinking. If used well, both parties can feel comfortable and their unique charm can be released. If used inappropriately, opportunities can easily be missed and relationships can be damaged. Such examples can be seen everywhere in life:

Speaking too bluntly hurts people without realizing it, causing quarrels at home and having no friends when going out; being too tactful and not knowing how to refuse, and becoming a "good old guy"; Chatting ends in silence; expressing inappropriately at critical moments leads to missed opportunities...

In an intimate relationship, speaking well is more important. In different families, we often see such a sharp contrast: some live a harmonious life and are reasonable in everything; some are quarreling non-stop, getting upset all day long, and even scolding their children in the middle of the day.

The communication pattern of family members is the feng shui of the family.

Children who grow up in different family atmospheres will also bring the communication model of their original family into their behavior and future intimate relationships.

Bad families often lack communication and are full of negative energy. Verbal violence occurs within less than three sentences. The child cannot express his feelings and thoughts, and his ability to express is also greatly restricted.

Families that talk well have these three major things in common:

1. Talk openly about their feelings. In a well-spoken family, parents are willing to listen to their children's needs and feelings, allow their children to freely express their subjective feelings, and give them more suggestions and guidance.

2. Give children specific and timely praise. The so-called percussive education is actually nitpicking and weakening children's self-confidence. Parents who speak well see the potential and characteristics of their children and reward their children in a timely manner. Each feedback greatly increases their children's confidence.

3. Active dialogue and effective communication. Parents who speak well always pay attention to the state of their children. When encountering problems, they will not just criticize and scold them, but will help their children develop their own correct way of handling problems. In this kind of family atmosphere, everyone will feel comfortable and the parent-child relationship will be closer.

People with strong expressive skills can often express their ideas correctly and get more opportunities and connections than others.

Regarding the cultivation of children's expressive ability, Lu Xun emphasized the importance of role models:

"Children often like to listen to people chatting and prefer to accompany guests. His purpose is of course to eat together. For snacks, but also for the love of fun, especially studying other people's words to see what is relevant to me - what I can understand, what I should ask, or what is advisable."

On the one hand, dads take care of their children. As people move into society, children will subconsciously imitate their father's behavior.

Dads can let their children learn their own communication methods and skills through imitation by getting along with them.

Research by psychologist Lamb in 2010 found that children who often stay with their fathers are more likely to adapt to new environments.

The game activities carried out by fathers when getting along with their children can help promote children's positive and healthy communication attitudes and improve their social communication skills.

On the other hand, fathers can train their children in oral communication through various channels. For example, take some time out of your busy schedule to be a loyal listener to your children, and let them talk about what they saw and heard throughout the day.

People who know how to put themselves in others' perspective can often see problems from multiple dimensions, and are more likely to reach mutual understanding with others and manage social and intimate relationships well.

Empathy is an important sign of a child’s transition from the “self-centered” nature of the brain to a mature state of mind that “can understand others.”

To cultivate children’s ability to think from others’ perspective, what parents need to do in many cases is not to teach but to ask questions.

For example, when a child takes away another child's toy and makes the other child cry, tell the child "What would you do if another child took away your toy?"

Among Children In essence, there is a basically equal relationship between them. After thinking about it, you will definitely get:

"If others rob my things, I will be very unhappy. So I rob other children's toys, and others Children will also be unhappy, so I shouldn’t steal other children’s toys.”