Everyone should find their own balance.

Last Saturday, I finally went to see a teacher I liked very much in college.

The teacher who once had Dink's idea because she was worried that she could not educate the next generation well is now a mother with twins and has a good life. Have a few classes a week, and still have time to practice yoga, read books and take care of children. Although there are inevitable bumps in the family, they are all within the acceptable range and get along well.

Nowadays, teachers can say that they have to work, family, life and life. I didn't give up my life because of family chores. Even if you see such a happy teacher, you will never think that she has postpartum depression.

But just like behind everyone's bright side, there must be a lot of unknown efforts. In fact, teachers' better living conditions have gone through a running-in period.

On weekdays, the teacher who is used to being alone suddenly came to help with the children. It's not just two more people in the family. There are many people, and there will definitely be differences in personality, so no matter in lifestyle or emotional expression, it is no longer as simple as the world of two people. After all, this is already a matter for three families.

Some time ago, I read Jiang Xun's Six Lectures on Loneliness, which mentioned that in Confucian culture and ethics, a person is regarded in society. "Jun Jun, minister, father, son", a person was born in a framework, not independent.

But in fact, when we play many social roles, we are first an independent person and a self-conscious individual.

Therefore, even people who have been close for a long time can still see the differences in their personalities and lifestyles. It is said that there are no two identical leaves in the world, so after understanding each other's differences, it is natural to understand and tolerate each other if you want to live a comfortable life.

The teacher and her family did it. Everyone has reached a state of division of labor and their own space. In other words, each of them has found a lifestyle that suits them, so their lives are relatively comfortable.

For example, the teacher's mother is introverted. On weekdays, in addition to taking care of the children and doing some housework, she will also use the IPAD to watch TV or play mahjong to entertain herself. Not to mention the teacher's mother-in-law, who is extroverted and has a high happiness index, has become one with her neighbors. In addition to children and housework, she chats and plays with "friends" everywhere on weekdays, as if this is her home, without any discomfort; After the birth of the child, the teacher's husband is said to have a much better temper. He helps to take care of the children when he comes back from work every day, and his eyes are often full of happiness.

Because everyone has their own life, after getting to know each other's habits, there is little noise and they get along well. I think it is understandable to use the word "happy" to describe it.

It's really touching to see such a family, and I'm happy from the heart. Not only do I think such a good family environment is good for children's future growth, but more importantly, I understand that everyone should find their own balance point.

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Life, positive energy and negative emotions are always turning. There is no eternal sunshine and no absolute despair.

I was also very negative some time ago. There is no special reason, it may be that all kinds of inconspicuous small emotions in family, work and life piled up together and then broke out.

that this is not the important question. The point is that the positive energy baby is back.

How did you transfer back? Let yourself get busy, so busy that you don't have time to think about unnecessary emotions, and naturally it will be fine.

When I say busy, I don't mean to become a workaholic every second, but to find something new to do for myself and arrange my time to the full.

I try to run, listen to songs, read and write, learn to cook some healthy soups and vegetables, eat less snacks, eat more, brush more friends and sleep more.

Of course, everything is adjusted at its own pace. For example, when I run, I don't have to run at 65,438+00, but at my most comfortable pace. By the way, I also commented that Spirited Away had a big fight with three stupid men in Hollywood. You don't have to specify what topics to read, you just have to look through what you are interested in. I finished reading Bi Shumin's Love Yourself, a birthday present from my friend last year. Try to cook two favorite dishes every meal and listen to your favorite music while eating. It feels good to be full. Have a cup of tea slowly after dinner, and put it down for a while while drinking tea. The whole person is lazy but comfortable.

Take your time, take your time, and your heart will be enriched again

In fact, as a typical Scorpio woman, when she is really sad, she will bury herself deeply in the sand like an ostrich. I don't want others to see my sadness, let alone find someone to talk to.

But this time, I tried to analyze the causes of my discomfort with an open mind, learn to talk to myself, try to accept my imperfections, and quickly rejoin the embrace of life with a comfortable mind, adjusting faster than ever before. While I am very happy, I also realize the importance of accepting myself.

People still have to learn to accept themselves. If you don't love yourself, who do you expect to love yourself? In addition, it is always said that girls should be good to themselves.

I don't ask myself to live a poetic life like Li Jian's wife. But I firmly believe that as long as you love life, everything is expected.

Now I live with the attitude that "all I have is luck, and all I lose is life".

So I also told myself that no matter how uncomfortable it is, I still have to express my love for life.

Because I look at myself more thoroughly, it is easy for me to reach the state of "independence from the world" when I am alone now. Therefore, I am still suitable for people who live in their own world.

This is a poem I have always liked, in order to express my present leisure state. With all of you.

I hope you can also find your own balance point, hold your own sky and see your future.

I wish you peace.