Su Mingcheng: Why is it obviously my fault to get hurt? -Taboos in the workplace
Su Mingcheng, who was angry at the moment, said directly to the boss: "You are a liar, you lied to us! ..... "Pour all emotions and indignation on the boss Zhou Jie. Zhou Jie is not an easy woman. After this incident, she found that Su Mingcheng's mistakes were everywhere. Su Mingcheng made a hullabaloo about, not only failed to help him recover 300,000 losses, but was also resigned by Zhou Jie on the grounds that his uncle was making trouble. Although Su Ming's adult left, his dinner guy was firmly controlled by Zhou Jie. All his colleagues are afraid to hire Su Mingcheng, so he can't get along in this business.
Su Ming was the victim. His wife left and he was cheated of his money. He pointed the finger at the leader, Sister Zhou. I gave you money because I believed you. You let me down, didn't you?
He was angry with Zhou Jie before, and there may be some truth. Zhou Jie will feel that she owes him, and she will be blessed in the future. However, Su Mingcheng's impatience made him even unreasonable. The outbreak of this emotion, on the one hand, put all the responsibility on others, on the other hand, it is also very important that he did not give his boss face in public and said something that was detrimental to his face.
Which boss can accept his employees, stand up to himself in public, and point at his nose and call names. Even normal people have a feeling of losing face and their dignity being trampled on. Then I have to look at this face every day. Can I not hold back my bad breath? It's uncomfortable to look at him.
So it led to all kinds of difficulties for Zhou Jie afterwards. You didn't make me feel better, and I won't make you feel better.
Behind Su Mingcheng's angry boss, I saw indignation at his incompetence. His arrogance and blind trust caused his own losses, but also because of self-deception and self-hypnosis, putting all the responsibility on Zhou Jie, the person in charge of the cause of this incident. If he can clearly realize and accept that he is the real culprit, this scene of employees confronting their bosses will not happen.
He didn't see his own problems and didn't handle them well. It's hard for him not to suffer!
In the workplace, we will more or less meet some people who seem to have been hurt, and then angrily seek the main argument. But think again, are you really not at all wrong?
Lao Li is an old employee who has worked in the company for ten years. He goes to work on time every day and works hard. Recently, due to technical needs, the company hired a newly graduated high flyers. It's no big deal at first, but the salary of the new college students is twice that of Lao Li. This made Lao Li suddenly unbalanced, recalling that he had paid so much in this company, but he was finally compared by a fledgling boy. I couldn't swallow this tone, so I went to the leader to make a statement, and also wantonly incited other old employees to ask for a raise, otherwise I wouldn't do it!
When leaders see this situation, they not only want to make trouble themselves, but also lead other colleagues to engage in disharmony and things that are not conducive to the company. Leave that man at once. Other employees also know that this young man who just came in is not qualified, but his mind is very lively and he thinks quickly about what he has learned. He has just worked for the boss. How can the boss let this good talent go? So he offered a higher salary than ordinary colleagues, hoping that young people could work here with peace of mind.
But old Li Can couldn't see this reality clearly. He only thought about how hard he worked, how tired he was, and how badly he was beaten, but he didn't think about whether his attitude towards things was correct or really objective. It is not so much the salary increase of the newcomer that causes Lao Li's rebound as his one-sided cognition, thoughts and emotions that make him feel hurt.
When Su Mingyu learned from Lili that her second brother was unemployed, she was banned by Zhou Jie and couldn't find a job. I met Zhou Jie through her boss, Manager Xiao.
As soon as I came up, I praised Sister Zhou as the most attractive female supervisor. If it is ourselves, we may not really have such tolerance to speak. My brother was fired by his boss and resigned. He can't be calm. He changed her position directly through his relationship or used his position to get the other party to cancel the ban on his brother's small circle. But people didn't do that, but talked and laughed.
The formal conversation also pointed out that she was Su Mingcheng's sister, and Zhou Jie suddenly turned hostile. Want to go, Su Mingyu also don't say what truth, carrot and stick that old saying. Instead, simply let the other person listen to the story for two minutes.
I said I didn't know I had offended the leader before, but I didn't know until I wore little shoes for half a year. Of course, I didn't care too much about it, so I ran a few more businesses and became the boss of the leading boss through my own efforts. Let Zhou Jie also get involved and ask if there is any way to deal with the leaders who make a fool of themselves.
Sister Zhou didn't comment, just listened to how she made her choice. One: extreme retaliation; Two: tolerance and forgiveness. From the perspective of human nature, I am not a great saint. I must retaliate, but by what means? Then the voice changed, and I was already ahead of others. Now I am better than others. I don't need to deal with him. I don't need to do it myself. He's already a loser.
Dig deep into the topic, thirty years in Hedong, thirty years in Hexi. What if the tables turn? Give others a chance to breathe, and also give yourself a chance to breathe, leaving room for yourself to be a man, so as not to be cornered in the future. Put forward a sentence to sum up the promotion: "If two people confront each other, they will only lose each other in the end, and it is meaningless without a winner."
Anyone who listens to this will choose to let Su Mingcheng go automatically. People care most about their own interests, and only when their own interests are not lost will we consider others. Su Mingyu just caught this pain point of human nature and let the other party care about their own interests and take a step back. In addition, Su Mingyu used story communication to clarify the interest relationship, which not only achieved the expected effect, but also saved the other party's lining and face.
1. Don't always immerse yourself in the identity of self-victim, but jump out of the environment and look at it from a long-term perspective. How can I walk better and longer? Facing any bad things is a lifelong growth mentality.
Protect the interests of others first, so that others can consider your interests.
3. Don't make enemies in the workplace. Confrontation can only hurt both sides.
Tillage 3 (hairless in the middle)