Today’s children are spoiled and pampered, and there are new concepts for children’s education.
Today’s children are pampered, and there are new concepts for children’s education
Parents must have correct education methods for five different types of children
First of all, education must start from Get to know the child, understand the child, strengthen emotional communication with the child, and establish good family interpersonal relationships. To understand is to understand the child's personality, interests, hobbies, what is on his mind, what he usually does, and what kind of people he associates with. Understanding means not to ignore the role of children in the family. They have a place in the family to express their opinions, and you cannot say "what do children know?" Their opinions should be listened to on major family matters and family democracy should be built, that is, the rights and status of every member of the family should be respected. Respecting children's rights and status in the family does not mean pampering and pampering children blindly and placing them in the status of "little emperors". Being obedient to your children is not respect, but doting.
Secondly, education should focus on teaching by example rather than by words. In the family, children grow up under the influence and education of their parents and understand the world around them. Parents' attitudes towards life, career, life and other people all have an important impact on their children. Therefore, parents must constantly improve their own quality.
Based on the above-mentioned knowledge and understanding of children, while emphasizing teaching by example rather than words, and paying attention to the education method of "one key opens one lock", you can achieve good results. Below, list the common types of children’s performance and main education methods:
Category 1: Children with excess energy.
Children of this type mainly love to play, love to fight, love to fight, and are difficult to discipline. However, they are smarter, more active, quick to respond, and have strong receptivity.
The main methods of education: First, establish good interpersonal relationships with children and let them understand that they are not a "disobedient child", so that they can easily accept psychological education and guidance. Secondly, we must let go appropriately and discipline appropriately. If the discipline is too strict and does not suit their character, it will be counterproductive. Give him a certain amount of freedom, a certain amount of time and space for activities. Thirdly, patient teaching: that is, patient education and guidance. Through reasoning, children can understand that some of their "opinions" are not so good and do not conform to social morals and norms, so that they can voluntarily give up their "opinions" and overcome their own problems. shortcomings, and gradually move towards the road of growth.
Category 2: Children who do not pay attention in class.
Children of this type are mainly hyperactive, playful, talkative, and even absent-minded when studying at home. Regarding the education of such children, some parents say, "That's the school's business, it's not my responsibility, and I can't sit next to the child." In fact, training children to listen attentively must start with daily life, because life Habits and study habits are closely related.
The main methods of education: First, parents should train their children to do it immediately after listening once; secondly, in life, parents can consciously train their children's obedience ability, such as arranging three or four things, What to do first, what to do next, what to do last, parents observe whether their children are like this; Third, parents should consciously train their children's attention, and when talking to their children, they must look at your face and listen; fourth, parents can still Tell your children some tips for listening; fifthly, parents should try to ask their children to retell the class content or talk about the most impressive issues in class
The third category: children who pursue money and material enjoyment.
The main manifestations of this kind of children are that they "want brand-name clothes and high-quality food" and pay attention to food and clothing. Some have to ride motorcycles or tricycles to go to school.
The main methods of education: First, parents themselves should set an example, live in hardship and simplicity, and tell them their life experiences and stories as children; secondly, parents should tell their children the family income and expenditure plan, and properly solicit their children's opinions. Opinions; Third, effectively educate children about money planning and use typical examples to educate children.
The fourth category is children who have an indifferent attitude towards the education of their elders.
Such children turn a deaf ear to the education of their parents and teachers.
The main methods of education: First, let the children understand the painstaking efforts of their parents and understand that any educational method used by parents and teachers is for their healthy growth; secondly, it must be carried out in an emotionally harmonious atmosphere. Education to eliminate their "hostility" so that they are willing to listen to teachings; third, give children the right to speak, let them tell the reasons, even if they are incorrect or untrue; fourth, be more tolerant. After education, If you still do something wrong, you should be given a chance to correct it, be patient, and wait; fifth, the tone of educating your children should be firm, and both parents should speak in the same tone. Some parents are joking, some are casual, some are understatement, and some are Everyone sings their own tune, which is not conducive to education.
The fifth category, children with severe laziness.
The main symptoms of such children are passive learning, incomplete homework or plagiarism, resulting in blank papers or cheating in exams, and a sloppy life.
The main methods of education: first, start training with daily housework, and do not let children open their mouths for food or reach for clothes; second, help children make plans and strengthen supervision and inspection; third, parents should lead by example , set an example in everything; the fourth is to cultivate the habit of hard work from the daily small things within the child's ability, and persevere and persist in training.
In short, in family education, parents only need to adhere to the educational principle of "moving with emotion, understanding with reason, guiding with action, and perseverance", and pay attention to tutoring methods on the basis of understanding and understanding the child. , we will definitely be able to cultivate a qualified next generation. Why do today’s parents like to pamper their children, but don’t understand the harm of pampering to their children?
First of all, let’s clarify what pampering is.
Whatever is in line with the child's psychological and behavioral development, adults should appropriately adapt to it. This is not doting.
Any behavior that is based on coaxing a child for adult purposes, or behavior that is indulged in knowingly that it is not good, is doting.
I found that many parents around us are completely the opposite.
By not allowing babies to suck their fingers, we completely ignore that the child’s oral period is before the age of two. Thumb sucking is a completely normal behavior. For fear of being unhygienic, parents try their best to provide him with a clean environment and wash his hands frequently. This is not doting.
To let your baby watch TV in order to let him finish his meal safely, this is pampering.
There are many factors why the baby does not eat well, such as the combination of food, whether he has just eaten snacks, whether he is uncomfortable and has no appetite, and he deliberately goes against you to see your reaction because he wants to try it himself. Being refused to eat, etc. may all show up as not eating. Parents, don't be afraid of trouble. As long as you observe carefully and try to communicate, you will always find the reason and solve it. (Of course, there are times when I lose patience due to my own reasons, and I have to use the trick of watching TV and eating... and it really works...
But this is a temporary solution, not the root cause) Children's desire to explore should be Satisfaction, adults spend more time to guide and protect, this is not doting. Because you want to be the most loved by your baby among all your closest relatives, you lose all principles to satisfy your baby, feed him a lot of sweets, and let him hit others as he pleases. This is doting. The child will have some bad behaviors, and he does not know what is right or wrong. He can only know whether it is right or wrong only if he implements it and gets feedback. When he hits someone and you say it's okay, then the message he receives is that it's okay to hit someone. It's harder to overturn the situation after it's formed than when it was first formed. This is the disadvantage of spoiling. Today's exam-oriented education is too strong and does not allow spanking of children. How to deal with spoiled primary school students?
Going to the countryside to exercise and participating in summer camps and other group activities should be used and managed.
In an environment where children are generally pampered, how do you educate your children?
When raising children free-range, don’t lecture them, encourage them more, do your parents’ things well, respect your parents, run the house diligently, don’t quarrel or curse, teach by words and deeds through your own actions, a mother who indulges her children blindly will do it. Will it not cause the child to be spoiled?
It will definitely cause the child to be spoiled
and will have a negative impact on the formation of the child's character
Educate the child with a relaxed attitude
The most pampered people nowadays are not urban children, but rural children?
Not necessarily, but most rural children do not have strict requirements on their children because their parents have low educational levels. What will be the consequences if the nanny aunt spoils the child?
It will be difficult for the child to be independent, and it will be more difficult to take care of him when he grows up. It is recommended that the nanny not let the child be pampered in a bad way. The child can adapt to his father's The days when mom is not around?
If it is "adaptation", it is possible, but it is more difficult, but you should learn a lot in the process. In short, I support letting go, otherwise it will be bad if you continue to spoil your children. It means "you cannot spoil your children" What are some famous aphorisms? When you encounter something that cannot be solved, ask your child. The opinion that the child blurts out is often the most accurate and practical answer. -- Sanmao
A spoiled child cannot become a great person.
A smart and sensitive child, when it comes to exploring life and the value of life, often fails to get the answer because he is too persistent and pursues it desperately. Therefore, a sadness that cannot be underestimated may occupy him for many years in the future, and may even never be transcended. ——San Mao's "The Rainy Season Will Never Come Again"
A child who cannot stand up for himself will only be a coward when he grows up. —— Khaled Hosseini, "The Kite Runner"
A garden of radishes and a garden of vegetables, one's own children love themselves. Children raised by weasels are fragrant, while children raised by hedgehogs are light.
Girl, you have to be thick-skinned, otherwise you will not be able to face the big storms in the future; Girl, don’t act coquettishly in front of boys all day long and expect others, you will not be able to live without others in the future; Girl, don’t stay up all day long If you are complacent and think you are lucky, you should know that the tides will turn around; girl, don't think you are smart but don't work hard, you should learn to learn this not easy lesson; girl, don't always spend a lot of money on your parents' hard work Then show off your money. Only when you can support yourself and have spare money to give to your parents will you be proud of it. Girl, don’t get sad when you are wronged and then habitually find someone to talk to or even lose your temper. You have to know that no one has the obligation to be responsible. Your emotional outlet; girl, don’t put on too much makeup and don’t wear too much perfume. It looks good and smells good, but that’s not you. You must know that makeup can only change your complexion, but not your temperament. ; Girl, don’t mess around, no one will like you if you have nothing; Girl, don’t daydream all day long, the truth is to be down to earth.
My child, for the first time, I am not telling you in the name of the Lord, but in the name of your uncle, when you encounter small things, you can count on others; when encountering big things, you must not tie your own destiny. to others. ——Liu Zhenyun's "One sentence is worth ten thousand sentences"
A strict father produces filial sons, but a loving mother often fails.
When all boys make a vow, they really feel that they will not break their promise, and when they regret it, they really feel that they cannot do it. ?So something like an oath cannot measure fidelity, nor can it judge right or wrong. It can only prove that at the moment it was said, each other was sincere. ——Jiu Yehui's "The Year in a Hurry"
Socrates smiled and said sincerely: "Children, this is life - life is a choice that cannot be repeated."? Facing the inability to Looking back on life, we can only do three things: make a serious choice and try not to leave any regrets; if you have regrets, face it rationally and strive for change; if you can't change, accept it bravely and don't regret it. Keep walking forward.
——Socrates
Reality is such a cruel thing. It always destroys your faith bit by bit when you are not aware of it, and destroys the promises you thought you could give. ?What is growing up? A child grows up when he knows that diamonds are more valuable than beautiful glass balls. ——Xinyiwu "To Our Perishable Youth"
Not using sticks means doting on children.
Strictness is love, tenderness is harm.
Being spoiled is like killing a child.
If a spoiled man is unfilial, his fertile fields will reap shriveled rice. The child's name is "Spoiled". What are his parents' names?