What books are suitable for you to read when you are confused and miserable?
I know my father wants me to leave it here, but I pretend I don't know and wait for this day. That day he told me that he would go to the collection and come back in the afternoon, and we would go back to our hometown together tomorrow. I know, he's going to slip away quietly.
I got up early in the morning, hiding behind an old tree in the village while my family didn't know, watching my father, sneaking out of the village like a thief, crossing the river, getting on the highway and leaving.
At this time, I had two choices: one was to rush down with a yell and go back with my father anyway-I was only seven years old at that time, hundreds of miles away from my hometown, and I came to such a completely strange place. I thought of the Woods where I dug wild pigeon eggs and the hillside where I cut wood in my hometown. I was particularly sad and felt that my father had betrayed me ... but I gritted my teeth and held back. Because, I think I'm old enough to go to school, and when I get home, my father can't provide for me to go to school. Although tears swished down, I gritted my teeth and didn't go with my father. ...
-Lu Yao recalled being fostered to his uncle's house.
Lu Yao told his good friend before he died that his father led him from his hometown in Qingjian to Qingjian County. The next morning, his father bought him a bowl of camellia oleifera for only ten cents. After drinking, he looked at his father and said, "Dad, you have a bowl, too." Dad said, "I'm not thirsty." Before he died, Lu Yao said, I finally figured it out. At that time, my father had only a dime in his hand.
-Houfu
Lu Yao used his own experience and works.
Tell us:
"Young man, you should go!
You have to hold on! "
Now is the era of the Internet, and mobile phones dominate our lives. Almost everyone is playing with his mobile phone while riding in the car, but I have been reading since I saw a man sitting in the car yesterday. I have been observing him since I was fascinated by his temperament. Reading can make a person shine, and people who study have unique charm. Reading can increase knowledge, improve self-cultivation and cultivate sentiment. Reading has many benefits. Now when I see that young man reading a book on the bus, I feel that I have been crushed by him. I'm hungry and need a lot of spiritual food to supplement. I suggest reading these four books.
When we are confused and miserable, we suggest reading some books about philosophy or profound life mapping. The so-called confusion and pain must be caused by our cognitive problems. Only by opening our cognition and broadening our knowledge and thinking consciousness can we perceive the world, instead of narrow conscious thinking, our spiritual world will be broadened, and then confusion and pain will be resolved by themselves.
Recommend two books that you can read.
After reading it alive, the soul seems to have spent a lifetime, and many things will be relieved in an instant. The world is big and there are too many miserable people and things, but we are just ordinary people, the most humble among many sufferings, but we still regret to love, feel and play our roles well. As time goes by, we won't regret it, so we won't waste our life.
"Ordinary World", there are always many misses and departures in life, because life is doing multiple-choice questions. These choices are not right or wrong, but they can lead us to different life trajectories. We will be curious and fantasize about what the other road of life will look like at the fork in the road, but after the fantasy, we still have to take the road we choose.
When life is confused and painful, don't read Mr. Lin Yutang's The Art of Life. If you cherish your life, you will treat it well! Be kind to life, and you will live well. All the rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea in your life will become poetry hops! Take Zhuangzi in the book lightly, while enjoying the moon, listening to the rain, smelling the wind and accompanying the moon, the so-called boring heart has also become practical and substantial. When you read it carefully and savor it carefully, you will unconsciously realize it seriously and do it seriously. What you see is that life is really trivial, but there is endless fun in these trivial things. When you take it seriously, well, I might as well sit by the window in the afternoon and open the book The Art of Living. Enjoy your life during this seclusion against the epidemic!
Rereading "Ordinary World" does have a certain influence on your own thoughts. This book expresses the author's thoughts and values in love, outlook on life, values, world outlook and friendship. For spiritual things, although human beings have a history of thousands of years, the evolution of this aspect is very slow. Therefore, if you feel that you want to be the protagonist in the author's book after reading this book carefully, then this book has already had an impact on you, and it is a positive impact.
Let me talk about the interpretation of several "viewpoints" in the article.
Love concept: between Sun Shaoan and Tian Runye; Between Sun Shaoping and Tian Xiaoxia; Between Jin Bo and the Qinghai-Tibet girl; Between Jinxiu and Gu; Between Tian Runsheng and Hao Hongmei; Between Sun and Wang Manyin; There is also the love between Sun Lanxiang and the son of the deputy secretary of the provincial party committee, and even the love and marriage between some farmers. In this era, we can think about what kind of love we want and what kind of marriage we want.
Outlook on life and world outlook: Harmony, as well as Tian Fujun, the Henan master of Daya Bay Coal Mine, and even Tian and Sun Yuting, the roles that the author has been complaining about can actually be pondered. Do you want to have rich experience and broaden your horizons in the outside world, or do you want to be a worker and live in a small place for life?
Values: Sun Shaoping, Sun Shaoan, Hu Yongcheng (if you forget your name, you can look it up yourself), Tian Xiaoxia, and Henan Ge (Sun Shaoping's master in the coal mine), thinking about why a person lives, how to live, how to seek his own happiness, and how to convey personal values. After reading this book, there should be some gains.
Friendship view: I really remember it deeply. Sun Shaoping and Jin Bo, Tian Xiaoxia, Sun Shaoan and Tian Runye, Sun Lanxiang and Jin Xiu all reflected the same phenomenon: giving friends the most timely and meticulous care when they need it most, which may really explain the true meaning of friendship.
There is another problem that can never be ignored: reading and education have changed a person, not only in that era, but also in that era when knowledge and talent were scarce. At present, education has an increasingly important influence on a person, a family, even a society and a country. In the movie world without thieves, Ge You once said a classic: The biggest competition in 2 1 century is talent competition. I think talents must come from education, but how to receive education varies from person to person.
Finally, if you are not from northern Shaanxi, after reading this book, you may have some imagination about the local customs, topography, high loess slopes and farmers' casual travel here. In this work, Malanhua is also used to represent love.
The above does not involve my personal thoughts. After reading it, let me interpret it. The above is just a rough classification of the works. Because I don't want my thoughts to have a preconceived influence on readers who haven't read this book yet. If you are compatriots who have read this book, you can communicate carefully in the back.
Lu Yao's: Life
This book is a masterpiece of Lu Yao. The novel is simple in structure and tells the love story of Gao Jialin and Qiaozhen.
A person's confusion and pain sometimes come from unimportant things outside, but often ignore the most precious things.
There is nothing wrong with Gao Jialin considering going out of the countryside, but it is a bit foolish to abandon Qiao Zhen who is infatuated with him just because he is out of the countryside.
When Gao Jialin decided whether to abandon Qiaozhen, he felt very confused and painful. The root of this pain lies in Gao Jialin's unclear understanding of the nature of life. Grandpa Shunde's understanding of life in the book is much deeper than Gao Jialin's.
Yesterday, I read a passage from Zhou. People, inner richness is the most important thing. As long as the internal enrichment, even if the external conditions are a bit bitter, will be very happy. For example, a couple's life, sincere love, even if the material life is a little bitter, can be very happy. But if they don't love each other, even if the material life is rich, it doesn't make any sense. For example, some rich people are fooling around outside, and the women at home are definitely not short of money.
As Grandpa Shunde said, pure and sincere feelings are the most precious.
If you are confused and painful, you should think about where your confusion and pain come from, deeply analyze and cherish those truly precious emotions, and your heart will be much more stable.
Everyone will be frustrated sometimes. I recommend you to read The Little Prince.
The Little Prince is a warm book. Follow the little prince's footsteps around different planets, see the arrogant and poor king, see the diligent officials who light the lights dozens of times a day, and see the vicious lies. ...
Feel the little prince's love for that rose. It is so pleasing in the glass cover that people need to take good care of it and try their best to make trouble with the little prince. This is the only thing that binds the little prince.
Touch the fox. It just follows in the little prince's footsteps because of his hair color like wheat ears. It is eager to be domesticated by the little prince and has a special connection with him. Unfortunately, he already has his own rose. Even though there are countless roses like it on this earth, it has become the unique rose of the little prince because I watered it, fertilized it and sheltered it from the wind and rain.
Therefore, the little prince is willing to be taken in by poisonous snakes. No, I hope the little prince really returned to his own planet and his roses. Because this trip made him understand that he shouldn't leave willfully. He doesn't understand Rose's love for him, so he must go back, and he will definitely go back.
I think in the process of reading this book, you will slowly heal your pain and find your original heart!
If you are anxious every day, feel confused about life and don't know what kind of person you want to be, I also suggest you read this book.
What is the main content of this book?
Allen de Botton, the author of this book, graduated from Cambridge University and is regarded as a genius in English.
De Botton quoted the views and works of artists, thinkers and writers, dissected the root of identity focus, and discussed the ways to alleviate and release this anxiety from the perspectives of philosophy, art, politics and religion.
I read this book when I was most anxious after working for a year or so. I'm glad I met this book at that time, otherwise I would be worried about my hairline now.
How has this book changed for me?
1, don't lock yourself in other people's opinions.
Psychologically speaking, our understanding of ourselves depends largely on what others think of us.
This may be the root of our identity anxiety. After all, Sartre said: Others are hell. Just listen to this sentence and don't take it seriously.
I am actually a very sensitive person. Not only do I care about what others say about me, but I am also easily influenced by these comments.
I realized that I had this problem a long time ago, but I couldn't get rid of it.
When I read this book, the situation has been greatly improved.
Using a case in the book, a passerby saw Socrates being criticized in the market and asked him, "Don't you care about being insulted by others?" Socrates replied, "Why care? Do you think I will hate a donkey after kicking me? "
As the author said, our identity should be determined by our reason and conscience, and should not be influenced by the temporary thoughts and feelings of others.
If someone speaks ill of me today because I'm in a bad mood, I'll be silly.
2, read more books, see more of the world, and people with rich hearts will be more calm.
This truth sounds nothing. In this regard, I just want to say: knowing a truth and practicing a truth are worlds apart.
After reading this book, I found that many times I feel anxious about my identity, which stems from my lack of knowledge and judgment and is easily biased by the outside world.
In the first half of this book, De Botton discusses that the causes of anxiety may come from:
Eager for recognition
Snobbish tendency
Excessive expectation
Elite worship
restraining factor
The solutions he later gave involved philosophy, art, politics and so on. Maybe you think it's ridiculous and ungrounded.
In fact, if you want to read a book full of chicken soup for the soul, this book is really not for you.
This book discusses people's identity from philosophy, art, culture and even "Bohemia" (in the book, it refers to a state of mind).
After reading it, I finally saw the Pacific Ocean one day, just like a person who has never seen the sea. This feeling can't be given by the river: vast, magnificent and unusually calm.
Therefore, how important it is to read more books, enrich your spiritual world and enhance your understanding of the whole world and yourself.
What is the inspiration of this book?
We only envy people at our level, that is, our comparison group. Perhaps the most unbearable thing in the world is that our closest friends are more successful than us.
Self-esteem = actual achievements/expectations of yourself. If you expect too much from yourself, but your actual achievements are small, then your self-esteem is more vulnerable and you are more likely to feel dissatisfied. Therefore, it is very important to know yourself and your life correctly.
Do you have any reading suggestions for this book?
This book is ***29 1 page, which is divided into two parts: the causes of anxiety and the solutions.
Yes Zhang Haidi's autobiography "Song in a Wheelchair" was published in the 1980s. However, Zhang Haidi was brave and optimistic when he was paralyzed from childhood. Facing all kinds of pains brought by life and relatives and friends with disabled bodies, he made constant efforts to overcome unimaginable difficulties for ordinary people. He taught himself many foreign languages, writing and medicine, and finally realized his personal value and inspired generations.
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Pushed forward by pressure, information and speed, confusion is the normal state of life.
This kind of "separation" is not an outlet for you to vent your emotions or get out of confusion, but to let you see yourself again in a subtle way.
This book was written by Eiko Yamashita, the founder of Shesheli. The idea comes from yoga "breaking the thread, giving up the thread and leaving the thread". The author put these ideas into practice in his own life and popularized this way of life all over Japan, which was well received. Later, he collected his experience in this book and shared it with everyone.
In modern life, people's demand for materials is getting lower and lower, and materials are flooding, but there is no better export. When we are surrounded by more and more things, our spiritual life will inevitably be negatively affected.
The author advocates changing the invisible world by cleaning up the visible surroundings and creating the most comfortable space for everyone. At first, it is a living space, and then it naturally extends to the spiritual space and interpersonal space.
The principles and methods described in the book are easy to understand, with the surrounding environment as the axis and daily life as the guide, and guide everyone not to lose themselves in a dazzling array of items, with high quality and low burden, and live a life under their control.
When you are confused and miserable, let go of your messy thoughts, don't think about your own goals, and start with the little things around you. There will be surprises. Come on!