What are the taboos after the death of the elderly?
1. Taboos on burial of the deceased
1. It is taboo to use satin fabrics for the clothes of the deceased
Old people are accustomed to calling the clothes worn after death " "Shroud", after the age of sixty, some old people start to prepare shrouds.
The number and texture of shrouds are very particular. The number of pieces is usually odd numbers such as five, seven, or nine, rather than even numbers; the material is mostly silk, because "silk" and "chouzi" are homophonic, which means that future generations will have many children. Satin is taboo because "satin" is the same as "satin". "Duanzi" is homophonic.
2. It is taboo to use willow in coffins
It is taboo to use willow in coffins. According to legend, it is because willow trees do not bear seeds and they are worried that they will die.
2. It is taboo to choose the date of the funeral on the day of heavy mourning
Double mourning means heavy, repeated, and double. It means more than one funeral, which refers to the time after a person's death. Within a hundred days, or as far away as about a year, someone in the family or relatives dies one after another.
According to customs, the day of the funeral must be avoided on the day of heavy mourning to avoid the death of a loved one in the family again.
3. During the period of mourning, it is taboo to visit relatives and friends, especially to participate in happy events
Within 100 days after the death of an immediate family member, it is best to observe mourning at home. Unless necessary, do not travel or visit relatives. Friends, etc., so as not to bring your own sadness to others.
It is best not to attend especially happy events such as weddings, openings, and celebrations of the birth of babies.
4. During the period of observing filial piety, children should not wear red and green.
During the period of observing filial piety, children in ancient times paid attention to wearing linen and wearing mourning clothes. They wore white mourning clothes within a hundred days; after a hundred days, they wore black, Wear blue and other dark-colored clothes to observe mourning. It is taboo to wear red, green, and heavy makeup.
In modern society, although many friends do not wear filial piety clothes for such a long time due to work and life reasons, but wear the word "filial piety" instead; however, red and green are still not allowed.
5. During the period of observing filial piety, children should not participate in entertainment activities
In ancient times, when a parent passed away, the children generally had to observe filial piety for three years. During these three years of observing filial piety, no marriages could be held. , and no auspicious celebrations are allowed.
In ancient times, "ruling the world with filial piety" was emphasized. No matter how big the official position was, officials had to take leave and return to their ancestral home to observe filial piety after the death of their parents, which was called "Ding You". If an official does not return to his hometown to observe filial piety, he may be impeached by the censor and punished. In serious cases, he may never be hired. If an official engages in any behavior such as getting married, having children, dividing families, having fun, etc. during the period of Dingyou, it will be considered unfilial and will be impeached. In modern society, many people shorten the time of filial piety to one year or even less, but they are taboo on their children having fun.
6. In the first year after the death of an immediate family member, it is forbidden to post red couplets in front of the door during the Spring Festival
It is a custom in most areas of our country to post red couplets during the New Year.
But if an immediate relative in the family dies, it is taboo to post red couplets in front of the door during the first Spring Festival.
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Taboos after the funeral
1. Do not go home directly
After everyone attends the funeral, the first thing to do is Don’t go home when it’s time. You can go to places like temples to get rid of bad luck, and then it’s not too late to go home. If you don’t like going to temples, you can also go shopping, shopping, or eating on the streets. , in short, don't go home directly, do some things outside before going back, this can also cleanse the bad luck on your body.
2. Avoid visiting friends
Do not visit friends after attending the funeral, because at the funeral, you may meet friends you have been very good with before or friends you have not seen for a long time. If you go to a friend's house after attending a funeral, this is not acceptable. You may bring the bad luck you carry directly to your friend's house. This will affect the feng shui and fortune of your friend's house, so you should avoid going to your friend's house.
3. Avoid visiting the elderly and the weak
The elderly and children are more sensitive to unclean things, so you should not meet the elderly or children directly after attending the funeral. Bad things about them can easily affect them.