Feng shui xian sheng LAN yuan
I saw a piece of news not long ago, which made me very sad.
A mother in Zhejiang took her 17-year-old daughter to the ophthalmology emergency department. The doctor found that the retina of the daughter's right eye fell off and her vision was 0. 1.
And this was "beaten" by my mother.
Mother and daughter quarreled over trifles, and the mother took the charger and hit her daughter right in the eye! After that, my daughter's vision became more and more blurred, but because she was angry with her mother, she kept dragging her feet and never went to see a doctor.
1 month later, my daughter found that she couldn't see clearly, so she explained the situation to her mother and came to the hospital for examination in a panic.
Doctor's diagnosis: retinal detachment, and missed the golden treatment period of retinal detachment, even if surgery, the result is not optimistic.
After listening, my mother burst into tears, and her emotions were out of control, which led to her daughter's lifelong blindness, which was embarrassing. I believe many mothers have said this after losing their temper: "I didn't hold back when I was emotional."
Emotions can be restored, but the damage done to children can never be made up. Children who live in bad emotions have long been riddled with holes.
Mother's mood determines the temperature at home.
Think of what Zheng said: "Mother is influence."
Whether a family is good or not depends on the mother's mood. Not long ago, I saw a shocking news that the 60-year-old son strangled his 84-year-old mother! After learning the truth of the case, I felt a little sympathy for the murderer's son.
The son's name is Lu Jinsheng, and his mother has a strong desire to control him. My son is not allowed to close the door of the room. Once Lu Jinsheng closes the door, my mother will slam the door violently. If she can't open it, call 1 19. In short, she must save her son. Her son can't go out without her consent. If her son goes out, she will even call 1 10, falsely claiming that her son is missing and asking the police to find someone immediately.
Sometimes, when mom is angry, she will shut Lu Jinsheng out all night, so Lu Jinsheng can only go to the park near her home for the night.
Even in order to keep his son around, he drove his daughter-in-law out of the house.
After a quarrel, she scratched her son's hand, knocked off his glasses and shouted, "Lu Yusheng killed someone!" " "
Lu Yusheng, who just wanted to shut his mother up, lost his mind on impulse and strangled her.
His mother lost control and left his wife in the street. Now, he lost his temper and killed his mother. Mother's mood not only affects her own behavior, but also determines the temperature of the whole family.
There is a saying in psychology that once a mother loses control of her emotions, it will leave a serious shadow on her children's psychology. Such a shadow will accompany children to adulthood, and even become the source of their emotional pain for life.
Because in a family, adults will unconsciously vent their inner dissatisfaction on their children. But children are just children after all. They don't have the ability to solve problems and don't know how to deal with their mother's emotions.
The only thing a child can do is to suppress his feelings and endure everything silently.
The girl whose mother beat her retina off endured for a month before telling her illness; Lu Yusheng, tortured by her mother, endured for 60 years and finally broke out, which eventually led to tragedy.
Hong Lan, a professor at the Central University of Taiwan Province Province, put forward:
"Mother is the soul of a family: mother is anxious and the whole family is anxious; Happy mother, happy family. "
Mother is in a good mood, home is a warm harbor, a booster for children to feel happy and confident, and a booster for children's progress;
The mother has a bad temper, and the home is a cold cage, which makes children feel depressed and inferior, which is the fuse to promote their depression and degeneration.
Mom's good mood is hidden in dad's high emotional intelligence.
If mom's mood is the thermometer of the family, dad's emotional intelligence is the switch button of the thermometer.
No mother is born to yell. But the children are in a constant state, and the father is in a phantom, living a life of chicken flying and dog jumping. ...
All kinds of confusion and helplessness are enough to turn any carefree woman into a violent and anxious mother. If you want your mother to be in a good mood, you need her to try to restrain herself, and you need her father to turn on and off the mood thermometer.
A scene in the public service short film "Please Love Me" is very sad: after the mother finishes cooking, she calls her father home for dinner. Dad doesn't understand mom's hard work, and he doesn't explain why he came home late. He just said impatiently, "I'm busy!" " "
My mother, who was angry with her father, turned her head and scolded her daughter for eating well: "You can't even eat a meal well, you are a pig!" " "
The way my daughter sobbed with her head down was distressing.
A warm home must be that the father understands the mother, and the mother's heart is full, so that she can always love the child tenderly and firmly.
A close friend is a famous good temper in a circle of friends. It was not until some time ago that several girlfriends asked to play together that I discovered the mystery of her good temper.
My best friend and her husband arrived one after another. Before sitting down, grandma dialed the video, and the child cried. Because she didn't do her homework, grandma turned off his favorite cartoon. My best friend hates her eyes and wants to go home and educate the rabbit. A storm is coming.
Seeing the anger in her brow, my best friend's husband immediately took the phone around to educate the children. I don't know what I did, but when I came back, the child spoke into the phone and promised his best friend not to watch cartoons or do his homework.
Looking at the obedient child, my girlfriend breathed a sigh of relief.
A father with high emotional intelligence can keenly perceive his mother's emotional changes and will use his wisdom to lead her out of bad emotions. Dad cares and supports mom, so mom can be less excited and keep a good mood, and children don't have to face hysterical mom.
If a woman is irritable, there must be an irresponsible man behind her; Women feel sorry for themselves, and there must be a man who loves to shirk responsibility behind them; If a woman is kind and gentle, there must be a proactive and family-oriented man behind her.
The mother's mood determines the child's future, and the father's emotional intelligence determines the mother's mood.
Parents have love, which is the blessing of children's life.
If a child is indifferent, he must have grown up in an indifferent family; If a child is enthusiastic, there must be a warm family behind him. Dad's emotional intelligence is high, and mom is in a good mood. Such a loving family is the blessing of a child's life.
Not long ago, I saw a warm video.
Dad and the children hid behind the car with flowers in their hands, waiting for their mother to come near. Mother saw them and was stuffed with a big bunch of flowers unconsciously. Three people laugh together and can feel their happiness through the screen.
The best family education is actually that dad loves mom. Because there is love in the family, children can feel love.
One child said, "Go on with the performance. I feel very happy when my parents are happy. "
Psychologist Wu Zhihong said: "Father, mother and child are in an emotional triangle. If parents love each other and the family is harmonious, then children will inherit a very healthy love model and will project this love model into their love and family when they grow up. "
Happy children repeat happiness, and painful children repeat pain.
Children who grow up in a warm and loving family with their parents have learned warmth and love since childhood, and it will certainly not be too bad in the future. I remember when Athena Chu was pregnant, Paul Wong gave an answer, which changed everyone's view of him as "rough and fierce".
In this way, their children, bathed in the love of their parents, also grew into a warm little sun. Seeing other children being held by their father, Paul Wong asked little oriole if he didn't like me to hold you.
Little oriole said, "No, I don't want you to be so tired." The little oriole suddenly had a nosebleed. The doctor told her it was because it was too dry. She immediately turned and told her father, "You should drink more water, too."
Sensible and warm-hearted, this is probably the best appearance of a child. Dad's high emotional intelligence and mother's good temper will turn into the sweetest energy to accompany children to grow up happily all their lives.
I once read a sentence: "Husband-wife relationship is the anchor of family relationship." A clever father knows how to share his mother's worries and make her happy. Beloved mother seldom loses her temper and is full of peaceful atmosphere.
Mr. Qian Zhongshu and Mr. Jiang Yang's daughter Qian Yuan said a profound sentence: "I always think that a child who is loved by her parents is very lucky, because she has seen what good feelings are, so she has a keen love for health and then knows how to run in the right direction.
Mom and Dad are like children's right-hand men. Only Qi Xin can work together to protect children from going further.
Author: Lear. New Oriental Family Education (ID: xdfjtjy) conveys professional family education concepts, provides information on family education at home and abroad, and shares absorbable and operable methods and suggestions. Let continuous learning become a family habit.