Carnegie said: "People are like this. When they do something wrong, they only blame others, not themselves. " Perhaps this sentence is not strange to us and is often used, but we have made some changes to it. After the change, it became, "He is like this. When he does something wrong, he will only blame others, not himself. " Seemingly subtle differences, in fact, are very small, a thousand miles away. When you say this sentence with one finger pointing at others, maybe the other finger is pointing at yourself! Carnegie hit the nail on the head by pointing out this bad habit. We always like to talk about other people's right and wrong. Why can't we compare ourselves with them and look at ourselves? When others do badly, is what they do perfect? When you realize that you will make mistakes, you will rise to a higher level and sum up an eternal truth: "To err is human." ? The root of the disease is the lack of understanding and tolerance between people. I will always remember what Wei Zi said when he interceded for the Queen in the finale of the TV series Princess Zhu Huan II, that is, "the greatest virtue in life is forgiveness". What's your attitude when we are crowded with buses every day, when we are walking on the road every day, and when others accidentally hit you? Full of resentment, swearing or forgiving others and being kind to yourself? We are always used to thinking from our own standpoint when considering things, so everything others do is wrong when it is different from ourselves, and so is it for others! But if both sides can look at themselves from the perspective of others, the result will be completely different. Seeing yourself from the perspective of others requires understanding and forgiving others' qualities and achievements. Only people who are not smart enough will criticize and complain about others-in fact, many stupid people will do so. Only when we learn to care about our friends sincerely can we win their greatest trust.
Reading this book again inspired me to prepare for what will happen in the future.
First of all, I want to change myself and learn to treat my life and work with a happy attitude. The book says, "Don't forget, happiness doesn't depend on who you are or what you have. It comes entirely from your thoughts." I believe that happiness comes from the heart. There is an old saying, hoping to encourage you: "Life is only once, so do what you can contribute now.". Don't be slow, don't neglect, because you only live once. " Emerson said, "Everyone I meet is more or less my teacher, because I learned something from him." If this is true and feasible for Emerson, it is even more true for each of us. Let's not always think about our own achievements and needs, but try our best to find the advantages of others, and then, instead of catering, we sincerely appreciate them. Praise sincerely and generously, and people will cherish your words in their lifetime memories.