Real success is family happiness
What is the best state of life for a person?
Writer Yi Shu has a sentence that is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people:
"When I was forty years old, I was in good health. Having savings, a considerate husband, obedient children, and a job that you really like is success, and you don’t have to be famous or rich.”
It’s true. Halfway through life, I gradually understand:
No amount of wealth can buy a healthy body, and no matter how big a house is, it is not as good as having a complete family.
When you reach a certain age, you lose your desire for fame and wealth, put aside glitz, and have a happy family, which is the greatest success.
With a good family tradition, no matter how poor you are, you can still make a fortune
As the old saying goes, you can know a person’s character by looking at his family tradition. One or two.
Family tradition may seem invisible, but it affects every child all the time. After being passed down from generation to generation, it has become the most stable cornerstone of a family.
Mr. Cai Yuanpei mentioned in "The Cultivation of Chinese People":
"The family is also the first school in life. . The so-called invariable character throughout life is probably embryonic in the family."
A good family tradition is passed on to the next generation through the words and deeds of the parents, and this positive result will be passed on to the next generation. If you continue to pass it on, you can make a fortune no matter how poor you are.
A few days ago, there was an incident that became very popular on the Internet.
In Yixing, Jiangsu, a 2-year-old child broke a glass bottle while playing by a pond in a community, and the glass fragments fell into the pool.
After the child's father learned about it, he immediately entered the pool with bare feet to pick up glass fragments. Although the pool was cleaned regularly, he was still worried that he would cut others.
The most important thing is that he wants to let his son understand through this small detail: he must learn to take responsibility when encountering things, and he cannot let it go.
The so-called good family tradition is probably the power of such an example.
Every word and deed of parents actually subtly affects their children's outlook, character, and cultivation, just like a mirror, showing their truest appearance.
Guo Degang once talked about his educational philosophy in a program.
Now 47 years old, every time he sees his father, he is still well-behaved and respectful. He will not do any frivolous behavior, and he will always sit down even when he is sitting. Remind yourself not to cross your legs.
It is precisely because of his teaching and example that his son Guo Qilin behaves the same way when facing his elders, and these are the traditions of their family.
I remember at the end of the show, Guo Degang said: "There are no parents in the world who don't love their children, but if you dote on them, people outside will not. You take good care of your children." No one outside will talk about him."
Family tradition is the foundation of family happiness.
A rich family is not as good as a good family tradition. If the family tradition is correct, blessings will come.
Only through generations can we prosper and prosper.
A harmonious family will prosper no matter how hard it is
How is the temperature of a home measured?
I saw a short and powerful answer: the relationship between husband and wife.
Cai Kangyong once mentioned a point in his book:
"There is an emotional account between people. The first time you make the other person happy, the deposit will be a little more; every time you make the other party sad, the deposit will be a little less. ”
If the atmosphere in a family has become extremely cold, the relationship between the couple must have been so cold. The "deposit" in the account is already zero.
Family discord is often caused by two people blaming more than comforting each other, and quarreling more than hugging each other.
In the variety show "I am a Speaker", the speaker Kou Naixin told a personal experience.
Once she and her husband had a quarrel over some trivial matters. Seeing that she was about to be "defeated," she immediately picked on her husband's sore spots and hit back: "Huang Guolun, what do you mean? You are worthy of me, do you know that you are divorced and are second-hand goods, you are not worthy of me at all!"
After she said this, her husband He was silent, and after a while he went to pack his luggage and prepare to leave.
Before leaving the house, her husband said: "Naixin, you know, there are some words that cannot be said."
After that day, Kou Naixin was deeply moved. After deeply reflecting on herself, she suddenly discovered that language is a weapon that can hurt people, and it can even be said to be a kind of violence, and she might be a domestic abuser.
As the saying goes, home is a place for love, not reason.
Sometimes, when you argue with your family, you think you have won, but in fact you have lost everything.
On the contrary, those who are accompanied by the tolerance of their family members often have infinite strength to resist difficulties and obstacles.
I can’t help but think of the man who was drunk and crying in the subway station. In order to sign a contract, he drank with his clients until late at night. In order to survive, he collapsed in an instant.
But fortunately, his wife hurried over after hearing the news. Even though her husband was very embarrassed at the moment, she did not blame her, she just hugged him distressedly and said, "It's okay."
In the world of middle-aged people, there are so many grievances and patience, and so many difficulties that cannot be avoided. Only going home can cure them.
Husband and wife understand each other, support each other, and the family is harmonious. No matter how hard the days are, there is always sweetness.
If your family is well, you can still be happy no matter how difficult it is
Writer Zhou Guoping once said a very heart-wrenching saying: "No matter how old a person is, if he loses his parents, He became an orphan. ”
The saddest thing about being over 40 is not that you don’t have good living conditions, but that you have everything, but your parents are already sick. Or pass away and no longer be able to enjoy a good life.
"A child wants to be taken care of but his parents won't wait for him" is never an empty talk. You can understand it after losing it once.
I watched an interview program in which the most unforgettable memories were discussed. Actor Zhang Qiuge said frankly:
When I was young, We think that by getting wealth, we can get everything;
When we are old, we finally understand that complete happiness is when our family is safe.
Parents’ good health is their children’s greatest wealth. Only when their parents are healthy can their children be worry-free.
A person’s greatest confidence is that no matter how hard or tiring life is outside, there is always a way out, and this way is the direction of home.
Perhaps the most profound experience of middle age is as the author Zaifeng said:
"When you wake up When you wake up, you find that on the battlefield of life, after a round of machine gun sweeps, the elders who once stood in front of you like buildings have fallen one by one. You have no choice but to bite the bullet, because at this time. You are already standing in the first row of the queue."
Go home often and take your parents for a walk to talk about their current situation. As long as they are fine and happy. There is no end.
Moore has a saying full of philosophy:
A man travels the world in search of what he needs, and returns When I got home, I found it.
A place with a house is not necessarily a home. A complete home is when a family is together.
The partner who accompanies you throughout your life, has experienced daily necessities together, from strands of green hair to gray hair, is still by your side.
The child I miss most in this life has watched him stumble countless times, from a young and wild boy to a mature and steady one, and I still care about him.
Parents who give you a stable life will always give you the confidence to move forward. From caring carefully to waiting silently, they are still waiting for you to come home.
In the second half of your life, the happiest time is:
The family sits leisurely, the lights are friendly, and life is slow-cooked. The years are deep.