After my divorce, I realized that the sister-in-law I had raised for 6 years was actually the daughter of my husband and his ex-girlfriend. What should I do?
Fortunately, the sister-in-law whom I have raised for 6 years is only my husband’s ex-daughter, not his ex-girlfriend, so it’s not too bad. Raising a child is just raising a child. It can be regarded as accumulating experience. You have not suffered a big loss yourself. Then you can keep your eyes open and beware of similar situations in the next relationship. 1. The husband used the excuse that his parents had given birth to a second child and called the 2-year-old girl his sister
Let me introduce this story first:
Xiaomei just met herself When her husband Zhang San got married, Zhang San's mother took a 2-year-old little girl with her. Zhang San explained that this was the second child born to her parents.
Xiaomei didn't pay too much attention to this. After all, the second child was already open, and it was reasonable to have a younger sister who was the same age as her daughter.
However, when Xiaomei married Zhang San, she found that her husband was particularly interested in her sister-in-law, as if this sister was his own daughter.
It wasn’t until Xiaomei and Zhang San gave birth to their own daughter that Xiaomei realized the seriousness of the problem. Her husband’s attitude towards his sister was closer than that of his own daughter. The husband always deliberately favors his sister-in-law and scolds his daughter indiscriminately.
As things went on like this, Xiaomei finally couldn't bear it anymore. She filed for divorce in the 6th year after her marriage. A month after the divorce, Xiaomei discovered the truth from her mother-in-law's circle of friends. The so-called "sister-in-law" is actually the daughter born to him by Zhang San's ex-girlfriend.
In this way, it is equivalent to Xiaomei raising a child for another woman for 6 years, and letting her own daughter suffer from it. This situation is really a "shrimp and pig heart".
Furthermore, there is no way to file a lawsuit in a situation like this. People who are not familiar with the law have no idea whether this is fraud. But what if she gets mental damages? It's really a shame that I dedicated my best youth to this man, but didn't get the emotional return I deserved. 2. You must be cautious before getting married, and get to know the other person thoroughly before discussing marriage
The pace of life in today’s era is so fast that it seems that there is not much time left to fall in love. Many people rely on blind date. Especially young people in rural areas, who work abroad all year round, only return to their hometowns during the Spring Festival for blind dates, and then get married in a flash.
In this situation, it is difficult for both men and women to truly understand each other and their families. After getting married rashly, it is tantamount to relying entirely on luck and the conscience of the matchmaker. Obviously these things are unreliable.
Finally, even if there is no major conflict between the man and woman, there will probably be trouble in their families. It would be okay if a child is not born, but when the child lives, if you want to divorce, you have to consider the child. Again.
Especially for the woman, who is willing to take over a divorced woman with children? Even if someone takes over, the woman has to consider what the other person’s motives are? Is he really willing to be nice to me? Will he harm his children? Can his own children accept him?
Therefore, marriage matters must be carefully considered and comprehensively examined, and we must remember that it is better to have less than to waste.