Experience the natural virtues of all things with your heart!~What does this sentence mean?

It means to use your heart to understand the emotions and existential meanings that God has given to all things that transcend nature.

Based on the composition of words such as "genius", "natural conscience" and "talent", I made up the word "natural sentiment".

What is genius? According to the author's understanding: 1. Natural innate talents and endowments. 2. Extraordinary talents as big as the sky. "One" is innate, innate; "two" already includes acquired factors. Supernormality is a basic characteristic that is manifested externally regardless of nature or nurture.

So what is Tianqing? Natural emotional endowment in terms of personality type and quality, that is, innate emotions, spontaneous emotional and emotional characters, extraordinary and sky-sized strong emotions that permeate the universe.

Not everyone has such a strong, deep, and bone-crushing emotional experience. Not everyone has or may have such innate and innate feelings. The pain, or it might as well be said to be such happiness.

This is Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu, and this is the love between Baoyu and Daiyu that has made readers sigh for generations.

Of course, Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu are both smart. Their "smartness and grace" can be seen in their reading, poetry writing, speech, and communication. Their cultural, especially artistic accomplishments, Among them, Daiyu is particularly outstanding.

But their touching is not based on wisdom and writing. Nor does he complete his character with courage, benevolence and morality, cruelty and insidious evil, nor does he complete his character with his physical constitution or strange encounters. The first chapter of "Dream of Red Mansions" opens with a clear meaning. It is said by "Kong Kong Taoist": "...this story...does not contain the good governance of the great sage, great loyalty, court governance, and customs. There are only a few strange women in it, either because of love or infatuation." , Maybe they are small talents, but they are not as good as Ban Gu or Cai Nu..."

First of all, this passage cannot be fully believed, because it contains elements of protective color. From the beginning, Cao Xueqin had to stay away from anything that might lead to literary inquisition. The second is also a true confession. The main theme of this book is about love. Although the book tells many valuable stories about the rise and fall of governance, the author looks at the world and the rise and fall of governance with a pair of "emotional eyes". Cure. As for the objective reading effect, some may hold the main line of love and believe that the charm of the book lies entirely in the love between men and women, and even yawn and skip past non-romantic descriptions of family affairs; or hold the main line of rise and fall and regard "A Dream of Red Mansions" as a class. Some textbooks on struggle and political struggle even denounce the theory of love as reducing the ideological significance of the novel; some hold a warning and transcendence theory, believing that the whole book only teaches people that it is empty of all four elements. This is entirely up to you. Without these differences, how could the charm of "Dream of Red Mansions" and "Red Studies" still be there?

Bao Dai’s love has a fatalistic quality.

As soon as the two met, they became "super" "normal". Baoyu and Daiyu hit it off immediately, "I have seen this sister before", it may not be unusual to write like this. But then Baoyu asked and threw jade, and the quarrel started, which made Lin Daiyu "sad" and "crying", and said, "I just came here today, and it made your brother crazy..." The relationship between these two people and their fate are very strange. Could it be that the two of them are really "grievances" from the previous life, and they "fire up" with each other as soon as they meet, and they are shocked and shocked by each other as soon as they meet? As soon as the two people met, there was inexplicable excitement and waves deep in their hearts? Sure enough, the words "enemies will never get together" became a verse weighing a lot, and the two people chewed it up, recollected it, and thought about it like they were in Zen enlightenment.

Behind the Baodai love story, which is very realistically described, there is also a strange, hazy, and should be said to be incredible mythical story.

Only because on the bank of Sansheng Stone on the bank of the Ling River in the west, there is a plant of Annatto japonica. From time to time, there is a waiter from the Chixia Palace Shenying, who irrigates it with nectar every day. This plant has been able to prolong its life for a long time. Later...he had to change his human form, only to cultivate a female body, and swim outside the Lihen Heaven all day long. When he was hungry, he would eat honey and green fruits as a meal, and when he was thirsty, he would drink the sea of ​​sorrow as a soup. Just because the virtue of irrigation has not yet been repaid... there is a lingering meaning. Just recently, the waiter of Shenying... wanted to go down to earth to create an illusory fate... The Fairy Jiangzhu said: "... But I can't repay him more than I can give him all the tears in my life.

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It is indeed a natural emotion! It comes from the other side - the Sansheng Stone on the bank of the Western Ling River!

Instead of understanding Bao Dai from the perspective of the conceptual system, it is better to understand Bao Dai from the perspective of the intensity of the emotion. The "natural love" nature of love. The strange story of returning tears, but Cao Xueqin clearly did not tell it "seriously". In Zhen Shiyin's dream, the monk told this story clearly, "It sounds funny, but it's actually true." This is a rare thing that has never been heard of in the ages." After hearing the story, the Taoist also expressed his feelings and said, "It is really rare" and "I have never heard of anyone returning tears." Cao Xueqin knew clearly that the story of returning tears was not true, but there was only this Only stories can summarize the most extraordinary, touching and distinctive nature of Bao Dai's love. Moreover, it is beautiful, profound and moving. It is a load of emotion and a lyrical substitute, rather than a real record. It is a kind of emotion. A phantom expression rather than a real existence, it is an unexplainable explanation of Bao Dai's love tragedy rather than an insight. It is the reason why literature is literature and the reason why "Dream of Red Mansions" is a dream, not history and not theory. It's not textual research. Only Dr. Hu Shi, who was so overwhelmed by knowledge that he lost his basic artistic imagination and emotional resonance mechanism, would criticize Cao Xueqin's story of "the reincarnation of Shenying's waiter" (see Hu Shi's "Book with Gao Yang"). , "Complete Essays on Hu Shi's "A Dream of Red Mansions"" published by Shanghai Ancient Books Publishing House, page 289)

Marriage in feudal society was not free, so there was the "Old Man under the Moon", making the marriage union a The result of the action of a supernatural force. But true love is and will always be free, including the most unsuccessful heartbreaking love and those that appear to be inferior due to the low quality of the parties involved. Having an affair is actually their own choice. This is especially true for Bao Dai's love. They have chosen each other more and more clearly.

However, this choice cannot be scrutinized and does not need to be thought about. The mutual attraction and impact between the two never weakened or wavered once they met. This choice was incomprehensible. The two only knew it but didn't know why. They even felt it but didn't understand it at first. As soon as he saw Sister Lin, he asked her "Is there any jade?" When he heard that Daiyu had no jade, he immediately "went crazy". How much truth could this make? Baoyu had never seen anyone ask this before, and fell like this. Have you ever been so "crazy"? If Baoyu always asks if there is a jade when he sees someone, and gets angry when he hears that there is no jade, then Baoyu is not "seemingly stupid" but outright mentally ill. Why does he act "stupidly" when he sees Daiyu? "Being like this, being excited like this, what is it if it's not fate or destiny?

And this choice has an irreversible and irreplaceable nature. Baoyu and Daiyu are not only in Legally and morally, they have no obligations to each other. However, their tacit understanding seems to be destined to be eternally loyal to each other. They are as loyal as a "fool". Therefore, Daiyu repeatedly confessed that she did not ask Baoyu. She is far away from other sisters, and on the one hand, she actually believes that she has the exclusive right to Baoyu's feelings, and has the right to endlessly criticize and criticize Baoyu's emotional life and emotional performance. However, Baoyu accepts all this willingly, or In Shi Xiangyun's words, it means accepting this kind of "administration".

Woohoo "rule"! No matter whether emotions come from the free choice of both parties, once they become strong, bone-eroding, irrefutable (cannot negotiate prices), incomprehensible (explanation with logical reasoning cannot solve anything) problem), irreversible and irreplaceable but permeating one's entire life, even after the "rule" that determines one's entire life path, is it not as majestic as fate, as iron-clad as fate, and as supreme as fate? Supreme, comes from the supreme heaven like destiny?

Supremacy is another characteristic of Bao Dai’s love. Here, "love first" is not so much an outlook on life or an argument that is not necessarily desirable or has a reason, but rather it is the only way for two extremely smart young people who have fallen into a spiritual black hole to rely on themselves. A straw to distract themselves and comfort themselves. This straw actually became the Noah's Ark of their young lives.

Jia Baoyu is a "rambunctious" and pampered son-in-law. He is favored by the top figure old lady Jia Mu. The picturesque environment, in particular, has become the center of favor for so many young and beautiful women. Coupled with the beauty of the image and the good intelligence, it still gives readers the feeling of being lucky. Maybe there are many young women in ancient and modern times. Male readers secretly envied Jia Baoyu and had many daydreams about him. But Baoyu's spiritual life was very painful, and a very abstract but certain ominous premonition always oppressed him. A native, pervasive, inexplicable sadness and despair at the intersection of the metaphysical and the physical has always permeated him. He repeatedly confessed to Xiren Zijuan and others:

For example, if I were lucky at this time... I would die while you were here. If you could cry, my tears would flow into a big river and drain me. My corpse floated up and was sent to a secluded place where no bird can reach, and it disappeared with the wind. From now on, I no longer need to be reborn as a human being. This is because I died at the right time.

In the section where Daiyu buried flowers, Baoyu heard Daiyu’s lament:

I didn’t want Baoyu to hear it on the hillside... Unconsciously, he fell down on the hillside... Just imagine that Lin Daiyu's beauty and beauty will no longer be found in the future. I would rather not be heartbroken! ... If you compare it to others, such as Baochai, Xiangling, Xiren, etc., there will also be a time when no one can find her. . ...then I am safe? ...Ze Si Chu, Si Yuan, Si Hua, Si Liu, and I don’t know whose surname it should be! - So I tried one, two, two, three, and tried again and again. I really don’t know why I am so stupid at this moment. , knowing nothing, escaping from Dazao and coming out of the dust net, so that he can explain this sadness.

It is a sincere sigh, but it is also a general groan, which is not surprising. It's just that these things appeared in Jia Baoyu, a young master who had enjoyed all the glory, wealth, tenderness and tenderness possible at that time, and was only a teenager. Moreover, he was so thoroughly sad and heartbroken that he not only hoped to "die at the right time" in this life. , and hope to turn into ashes and smoke, "disperse as soon as the wind blows", "disintegrate with the wind", and "no longer need to be reborn as a human being"... This is quite amazing. Jia Baoyu's vision and pursuit of the final destination of this life is zero. It can be said that he has a "zero point concept" or has reached a "zero point conclusion", which is in line with the Chinese tradition of not only cultivating this life but also cultivating the next life, and not only taking good care of In this life, I have to take care of my descendants for generations. Not only do I want to enjoy happiness during my lifetime, but I also have to arrange my own tomb during my lifetime, arrange my body so that it will not rot after death, and arrange the feng shui of my tomb to bring good luck to future generations. Quite different from the concept.

Here we also know it but don’t know why. It can only be said that Baoyu's experience of life was too painful, which led to such an empty and cold "zero conclusion", but it is impossible to explain why Jia Baoyu was so painful. "Dream of Red Mansions" does not directly describe the reasons why Baoyu formed this concept, but only uses words such as "crazy" and "crazy" to cover up Baoyu's ideas half-mockingly and half-smoke-screen. Or it can be explained as the premonition of the decline of the declining class. This is certainly reasonable. For a member of the declining class, the smarter he is, the more disappointed he is, and the more sentimental he is, the sadder he is. Generally speaking, this is not bad. But no matter what the reason is, we can judge that Jia Baoyu, who enjoys all the favors, has not been able to satisfy his spiritual and emotional needs from the favors he has at his fingertips (in fact, he has them at his fingertips and there are more than enough). . It can even be said that his gains in life were completely different from his emotional needs. Jia Baoyu's spiritual life in the midst of wealth was actually very sad. Speaking conversely, this further proves that Baoyu's requirements for love are as high, as big, and as boundless as the sky.

Jia Baoyu is easy-going. To Jia Zheng, to Mrs. Wang, to Xue Pan, Qin Zhong, Feng Ziying, to Jia Lian, Jia Zhen, Jia Rong, to Aunt Zhao, Jia Huan, to Xiren... he was not out of place. There is no lack of admiration for Baochai and no lack of respect for Xiangyun, Qingwen and Fangguan. They can also be regarded as youth partners. Playing with them is lively and enjoyable, and they can fully enjoy the joy of youth and give full play to their abilities. conditions of favor. Whether it is reciting poems and eating crabs and venison with the sisters, accepting birthday congratulations from "Qunfang" in Yihongyuan, or accepting the favor of the Imperial Concubine Yuanchun or the King of Beijing with Jia's mother, Mrs. Jia Zhengwang, it doesn't matter. He also seemed to be laughing. But on the other hand, in the depths of his consciousness and emotional life, he was so lonely and painful.

In this deep level, the vast sea of ​​people and beautiful women are all irrelevant and unimportant strangers that are difficult to communicate with. Only one person can share this deep loneliness and pain with him, and enjoy this with him. To others, it seems that he is just stupid, just crazy, just unworthy, just incompetent, just stupid. The great sorrow, regret and emptiness of life. Of course, this person is none other than Lin Daiyu.

Lin Daiyu is Jia Baoyu’s only "confidant". To be more precise, it is Baoyu's only "knowledge of sorrow". "Shou Yi Hong Qun Fang holds a night banquet", all the master and slave girls who are happy with her can be Baoyu's "knowing play", "knowing happiness", "knowing nobleness" and "knowing leisure". Lin Daiyu is not conspicuous in such entertainment occasions. protrude. The reason why Lin Daiyu is Lin Daiyu is that she is the only one who dedicated her life's tears to Baoyu. Baoyu also hoped to get the tears of love from these girls, but in the end, only Daiyu's tears were the only ones that could be said to be obtained. What are tears? Tears are love, true love. When "God" created human beings, he created human beings with well-developed tear glands, so love turned into crystal tears that were sour and bitter, hot or cold. Whoever gets more love will get more tears. Whoever gets more tears proves that his life is not in vain. It seems that only in the tears of love of a girl, Baoyu can feel some reality and comfort of life. Otherwise, there will be only passing smoke and the unacceptable lightness of existence. This is in line with the main theme of the story of the Crimson Pearl Immortal Grass and the Shenying Waiter repaying tears.

As for Baoyu’s status in Daiyu’s mind, it seems that it is not enough to describe it as supreme. It should be said to be “only”. This kind of supremacy and uniqueness has more practical content and basis than Baoyu. For example, Daiyu's "orphan" situation and her sickly and troubled body can easily explain her monistic view of love as the supremacy of love. But just saying this doesn't get to the point. If we only take the factors of situation and health as the starting point, why can't Daiyu go to a bleak business and strive for improvement? Why can't we move towards a lower level and be contented and contented? Why can't we even move towards the ancient Buddha with a green lantern, where all thoughts are gone? But Daiyu did not take these paths, but devoted all her enthusiasm, hope, sorrow, intelligence, and reverie to Baoyu. She has reached the state of living for Baoyu and dying for Baoyu. No matter how much research or criticism there is on Gao E's forty sequels, the scene in the ninety-sixth chapter where Daiyu goes to find Baoyu after hearing that Baoyu is about to marry Baochai is still very touching, and it is completely consistent with the first eighty chapters. The main theme of the description.

Daiyu ignored him and walked into the room... Daiyu sat down by herself, but she also looked at Baoyu and smiled. The two of them didn't say hello, didn't speak, and didn't give in. They just smiled stupidly at each other's faces... Suddenly they heard Daiyu say: "Baoyu, why are you sick?" Baoyu said with a smile: "I'm sick because of Miss Lin." ." Xiren Zijuan's expressions changed with fright, and they quickly used words to interrupt. The two of them did not answer, but continued to giggle... Then Daiyu stood up, looked at Baoyu, just smiled and nodded...

Woohoo, each of them found themselves and proved themselves in the other. The love that destroys one's own existence also has the destructive power to make each lose himself and lose his nature. The Crimson Pearl Immortal Herb, whose mission is to return tears, is only smiling now, and has run out of tears! The author made a saying when talking about humor back then, saying, "When the tears are gone, there is joy." When the tears are gone, "just laugh" or "just nod", what do you mean? It's a pity that Daiyu doesn't know what "humor" is. Xiren and Zijuan are neither humorous nor silent because they are difficult to completely detach. Only "Qiu Wen smiled and said nothing..." is somewhat humorous.

Fighting against the loneliness and pain of life, and against the filth and darkness of the environment, Baoyu and Daiyu chose the path of mutual dedication, mutual pursuit, and mutual alliance based on true feelings, but in fact they ultimately sacrificed their lives for love. This is nature. Not everyone has such feelings. The same chapter is Chapter 96. It describes that Daiyu heard a man sobbing at the place where she and Baoyu were buried together, "I just suspected that these big girls in the house had something unspeakable, so they came here." Vent and vent. When I met this girl, it was funny because I thought about what kind of love this idiot could have..." From this we can see that Daiyu is conscious about the concept of love. She believes that "love" is after getting rid of stupidity. A kind of "spirituality" is a kind of "human consciousness", which is a very high-level human psychological activity.

After the excitement of meeting each other for the first time, through the laughter of childhood sweethearts, through all kinds of sour and jealous criticisms and hardships, especially through the relationship between mother-in-law and mother-in-law burying flowers together and crying together. The tragic mutual understanding and mutual recognition, after Baoyu was beaten, that is, the "perverseness" of Baoyu's character became more clear, by the thirty-fourth chapter "Giving a Handkerchief and Writing a Poetry", Baoyu's love has already Confirmation was obtained, and the extraordinary relationship between the two was clarified with an old handkerchief as a symbol. The meaning of the three poems Daiyu wrote on the handkerchief at this time is worth chewing:

The eyes are empty and the tears are empty,

Who are you giving up for?

The sadness in the first two lines of the first poem has an abstract and general quality. Even when the "for whom" is not yet clear, it has already been "hidden" and "idled". The so-called Ansa Xian throws away, in addition to the meaning of crying secretly and not daring to mourn, it also means the untitled, atonal and pure sadness of self-sorrow. Therefore, the eyes holding tears are empty, and the tears weeping are empty. Empty means nothing, no origin, no object, and no purpose. Tears that are inactive and do nothing, have no reason, no object and no purpose, that is, tears of sadness for everything, with everything as the origin and object as the purpose. This kind of tears certainly comes from Tianqing. Baoyu has a general love for girls, but Daiyu does not. Daiyu has a general sadness about life, which is very strong and self-conscious. Baoyu has overflowing sadness, but it is not so intense, often not so conscious. The so-called "pink stains, grease stains and stains on the treasure's light", that is, the enjoyment of sensuality and material desire, often blinds Baoyu's path to natural feelings, to sorrow, and ultimately to the appreciation of life. This is the path of spiritual wisdom to enlightenment. It is often through Daiyu's inspiration that Baoyu enters the door.

"A shark with a size of a piece? I will give you a gift for your hard work. How can I not be sad for you!" The last two lines of the poem were written for Baoyu. After all, nature's emotions are elusive. Only when nature's emotions turn into human emotions can they become tangible and traceable. They can be lamented, felt, evaluated and described. Here, human feelings are the expression of natural feelings.

The second and third poems, whether it is "Throwing beads and rolling jade, I only steal the water", "I have no intention of spending the day in leisure", or "It is difficult to collect the beads on the colorful thread" , written all about the unwarranted tears of a passionate daughter. These tears are the materialization of Daiyu's natural feelings. Shanzai Daiyu's tears, physical tears contain metaphysical sadness. It's just that: tears are shed for no reason, and there are always sad sentences!

Bao Dai's love is a great tragedy.

The tragedy lies not only in the ending, but also in the fact that the lovers never get married. The tragedy is that this love that was stronger than life became a real disaster. This love itself, this love process is neither a full and hearty communication and joy, nor a small sweet and tender relationship where we stay together, but it is full of suspicion, criticism, blame, sorrow, jealousy, resentment and Fear can be called the mental torture that two young men and women inflicted on each other.

It is a tragedy of life, full of the unique experience of the emptiness and loneliness of life. It is a social tragedy, showing an ominous foreboding that the Hu La La building will collapse. This is a tragedy of character. Daiyu's narrow-mindedness and nobility are often incompatible with Baoyu's "busy with nothing" and "rich idler" easy-going and comfortable nature. This is a tragedy of fate. "I only care about the alliance between wood and stone", but there is a "gold and jade marriage" with the Sword of Damocles hanging high over their heads. It is also a tragedy caused by the disharmony of the situation: Baoyu, who is at the center of favor, is in the power of male-centered ethics and customs. In fact, Jia Baoyu enjoys the male privilege of having multiple wives and naturally having multiple loves. No matter how much he analyzes his heart and soul, and understands the plight of Daiyu who is unrealistically lonely and has "no one to decide", he cannot get rid of the doubts and fears deep in Daiyu's heart. Even if Baoyu spends all his life and all his passion to love Daiyu, Daiyu still can't let go and can't feel at ease, it's so painful!

[Wang Ningmei] sang: "One is a fairy flower in Langyuan, and the other is a flawless jade." Write about the beauty of two people, write about their The beauty and purity of love, Langyuan fairy flowers and beautiful jade, what a perfect match! "If you say there is no romance, you will meet him again in this life; if you say there is a romance, how can you end up with lies?" This is the fundamental problem. , this is unexplainable pain. The joy of encounter proves and verifies the long-destined romance by the Sansheng Stone. It is not the verses about enemies not getting together and the similar experiences that enrich and develop their romance, but meeting by romance does not mean that they are destined. They finally got married, and the romance was fully developed but there were flowers but no fruit. After "meeting him again", after experiencing all the ups and downs of being with him, the two of them could only break up, be separated, and become a monk.

Why do romances often have beginnings but no endings, bringing hope followed by disappointment? Why do romances often become de facto pranks and deceptions, at best, just a flash in the pan? Countless romances have become countless hopeful beginnings, but they may not have the results that God wants. Countless romances have become flowers that bear no fruit or only bear bitter fruits. Isn’t the romance in the world always like this, and why is Bao Dai’s love so unique!

[Wang Ningmei] then sang: “One is complaining in vain, one is worrying in vain, and the other is the moon in the water. , one is a flower in the mirror." This goes back to the "old" proposition and big proposition that "color is emptiness, emptiness is color." It is in vain and in vain, just from the results and the effect of marriage, it is indeed in vain. However, if life is regarded as a process and love is regarded as a process, then Baodai's love is not "in vain" and "in vain", but their youth and the most beautiful and unique thing in their life experience. The most fulfilling, the most exciting, the most emotionally charged and many heart-warming things of gratitude and intoxication. It is important for people to know each other. When Baoyu told Daiyu about the rat spirit in Linzidong, he smelled a faint fragrance coming from Daiyu's sleeves. He stretched out his hand to scratch Daiyu's armpits and under her ribs. This kind of Isn’t the joy of childhood sweethearts enough in itself? Is it "in vain" and "in vain"? When Baoyu expressed the firmness of his love to Daiyu through Zijuan, saying: "When we are alive, we live together; when we are not alive, we turn into ashes and smoke together." Isn't it clear that things are clear? Living in one place is not "working in vain" and "wasting oneself". If one does not live and turn into ashes and smoke, and hope that "a strong wind blows all directions, it will be dispersed immediately, then it will be good!" But it still has to "turn into ashes in one place." "Smoke", still persistent, still dependent, still not empty and cannot be ignored! It is not "in vain", not "in vain", but extremely precious and unforgettable!

Such a persistent thing However, the emotion failed to get the happiness it deserved, and the shock of such regrets continues to this day! It is said that in the late 1970s, when the "Gang of Four" had just fallen and the Shaoxing opera film "Dream of Red Mansions" had just been resumed, there was an incident involving young men and women in love watching They both committed suicide after the movie. Of course we don't want this to happen, but such a life-and-death love not only makes the characters in the book, the parties involved in the book, Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu, go crazy and stay in death, but also makes the readers and viewers still come to life. How is it? It’s amazing! It can be described as a true love, a natural feeling! It’s more precious than life and stronger than death. [Brows in vain] The concluding sentence goes: "Imagine how many tears there can be in the eyes, how can autumn flow to the end of winter, and spring flow to summer!" Not only spring, summer, autumn and winter, these tears will continue to flow from generation to generation!

In this sense, Baodai's love has a classical romantic tone.

The Buddhist view that troubles arise from love is not without basis in reality. Take Daiyu as an example. Although ordinary people such as Miaoyu commented on her, "Miss Lin also likes to be mean. "I'm thoughtful", but overall, there's nothing difficult about interpersonal relationships. Except for the seventh chapter when Daiyu looked at Baoyu in front of Baoyu and said with a sneer, "I know that if others don't pick the rest, they won't give it to me either." They are all very nice to Aunt Xue. They joke with Xiangyun, Sister Feng, etc., and sometimes act "annoyed", which is actually harmless. The third chapter describes Daiyu's first arrival in Rongfu. "I saw that many things here were not in line with the family style, and I had to change them one by one." This included drinking tea immediately after meals or "drinking tea after a while, so as not to hurt the spleen and stomach." They all follow the local customs, and would rather change the habits they have developed since childhood and the rules set by their father (such as not drinking tea immediately after meals), and follow the crowd. Chapter 34: After Baoyu was beaten, Daiyu choked with sobs for a long time, sobbed and persuaded Baoyu: "You can change everything from now on!" This also shows that Daiyu's "loneliness and arrogance" mainly lies deep in her heart. As for shallow interpersonal communication, she is not just eccentric and sexual. However, it was precisely with Baoyu that she could almost be said to have never been satisfied or easy-going.

Is this what love feels like? The above-mentioned gossip about Zhou Rui's family when sending the palace flowers was not so much directed at Zhou Rui's family as it was for Baoyu. She did not vent her unhappy emotions in front of Baoyu, venting the resentment and criticism of an orphan girl in the hope of getting Baoyu. His sympathy and compassion at least attracted Baoyu's attention, but who can he make irresponsible remarks in front of? Her words that made Zhou Rui's family "speechless" can almost be compared with Baoyu's behavior of throwing jade as soon as he saw her. Love evoked a kind of suppressed pain. After that, Baoyu gave Daiyu a string of "fragrance beads given by the Holy Father" from King Beijing, but Daiyu threw it to the ground and said "What a stinking man's thing". This may indicate that Daiyu is more noble, but more noble. It illustrates Daiyu's special willfulness in front of Baoyu. We can definitely say that Daiyu threw this move to Baoyu intentionally or unintentionally, in order to convey two messages to Baoyu: 1. I, Daiyu, am extremely noble and have no closeness to any powerful people; 2. I, Daiyu, value men. Being "stinky" and not having any direct or indirect give-and-take relationship with them - wouldn't it in turn prove that Daiyu particularly favors Baoyu and regards Baoyu as a "not smelly" confidant?

How much love requires as much response. The love promised in life demands the answer promised in life. The only love demands the only response. Books may have described one-way, devotion-only love, but rarely in reality, at least Daiyu's love for Baoyu is not like this. The love between Daiyu and Baoyu is both romantic and realistic, highly quotidian and even trivialized at times. It is rare at all times and in all countries to write about love in such a romantic and everyday way. Reading Daiyu's critical complaints about Baoyu in the first forty chapters often makes people feel that they are logically contradictory and simply cannot be justified. Chapter 20 "Lin Daiyu's charming words and charming voice" first writes that Baoyu and Baochai went to Jia's mother to visit Shi Xiangyun who had just arrived. Daiyu was standing by and sneered: "I say, it's (Baochai)'s fault. It's stuck there, otherwise it would have flown here long ago." After Baoyu explained, Daiyu said, "It's none of my business whether you go to Baochai's place or not." Then she got angry. Go back to your room. Baoyu chased after her to apologize, but Daiyu replied: "I ruined my body, what does it have to do with you if I die?" He also said: "I am talking about death, but I will die soon. You are afraid of death, but you will live a long life." "How is it?"... Later, after Baoyu made it clear that he and Baochai were estranged from each other and became close to Daiyu, Daiyu spat: "Did I ask you to alienate her because of me?" "My heart!" Baoyu also said: "I am doing it for my heart..."

It's so true. You have a sincere heart and I have a sincere heart, but it gives rise to many troubles and Daiyu's disorderly behavior. Logic! Jealousy arises from love, and ugliness arises from beauty. This is also the dialectics of emotion. Cao Xueqin did not idealize or purify the love that he was most sympathetic to and attached to, and he did not avoid the numerous isolated trivialities in this love that did not seem beautiful or poetic.

On the other hand, Daiyu’s jealousy is illogical, unreasonable and unrealistic! In the end, it was not the good relationship between gold and jade that destroyed the former alliance between wood and stone, but the real interests and interests crushed the world. Love? This can also be called "man can conquer nature".

Seeing the jealousy, suspicion, pickiness, temptation, irony, and ridicule of Bao and Dai, especially Daiyu... Sometimes we can't help but ask, is this love? Isn't love the most beautiful flower of life, the most beautiful gift from God, the most beautiful splendor of youth, but a series of mental torture, psychological trials, eternal mutual distrust and eternal futility?

However, this is true. Not only in front of career, in front of knowledge, in front of truth, but also in front of love, it is like facing hell. Any timid and wise avoidance will be useless and will not allow you to enter. True life, true career, true knowledge and true love can only belong to fearless people, people with a certain "idiot" temperament. Perhaps love is so painful mainly because of the feudal ethics that go against human nature or because of Daiyu's lonely status. Perhaps taking love so seriously and being the only one makes love become a cup of bitter wine or a cup of poisonous wine. Is there any easy and happy love in the world? Free combination, free separation, when you are happy, you can hug each other and have fun as you please, when you are unhappy, say goodbye and wave away... Is this a much more reasonable love model? Now that we are truly relaxed and indifferent, is there still such a thing as love?

Of course, the state of love and even customs are inseparable from the development and progress of society and social trends of thought.

Baodai's love tragedy may make us "remember the bitterness and think of the sweetness", which is not without comfort; the deepness and unforgettable love of Baodai makes us even more moved and even envious: Those who can love like this are blessed, he has tasted enough love The pain, he truly and only belongs to love. At least in love, he was not "brought into the mortal world in vain, experiencing separation, joy, sorrow, and the desolation of the world..." (Chapter 1). The experience of nature’s emotions is just like the experience of genius, talent, and the experience of heaven’s conscience, it is extremely and extremely precious!