Social psychology: Principles of dealing with tomboy types
There are many types of tomboys, including those with muscular builds, strong hearts, etc. So which type of tomboy do you like?
Heroes: These are the types of tomboys? Today, "20 Standards for a Female Man" has become the most forwarded topic on Weibo. There are more and more girls who regard themselves as "ladyboys", and many girls have begun to regard "I would rather be a tomboy among men than play tricks on women" as their social philosophy. So what do psychological experts think of self-proclaimed tomboys? How do "female men" come about?
Online version of tomboy standards
1 Mineral water bottles cannot be unscrewed and they will compete. Rather than asking for help
2 When the weather is too hot, he will "run around naked" at home
3 Often express the feeling that "being a girl is so troublesome"
4 Like to admire Pouring the potato chips in the bag into his mouth without hesitation
5 He likes to swear in daily life or when chatting online
6 He is also willing to eat old hot pot without air conditioning in summer
7 Can change the water dispenser bucket by himself
8 Loves to play online games such as Warcraft and League of Legends
9 Will go to bed without washing if it is too late
10 I don’t like makeup and rarely take selfies
11 It’s easy to become “buddies” with boys
12 I like to cross my legs or shake my legs when eating out
13 I think Shopping is a hassle
14 I rarely go to barbershops, nail salons or beauty salons
15 When eating apples, I usually wash them and eat them directly
16 At home I often don’t wash my face or hair when I go out
17 Carry your own luggage when traveling
18 I can’t stand girls who are shy and coy and think they are pretentious
19 Even if they wear high heels I dare to run hard to catch the subway bus
I dare to order a large portion when the opposite sex is present
Is there such a "female man" around you?
The fierce type
Carrying heavy luggage by himself to register for school, he climbed to the sixth floor and refused help from boys to register for new students. The "female man" Xiao Li "became famous in one battle" because he was "as strong as an ox" . Xiao Li's dormitory is on the sixth floor. When the new students are checking in, the seniors will naturally take the initiative to show their courtesy. But Xiao Li, a tomboy, doesn't buy it. A rather confident boy took the initiative to help carry things. Most girls would hand over their luggage, but Xiao Li politely declined the help of his seniors. She grabbed handfuls of hair and tied it up. She said without raising her head, "Thank you, I can do it by myself." She picked up her luggage and started climbing the stairs. The senior's pride seemed to be hurt, and he forcibly snatched Xiao Li's luggage. However, when the luggage was lifted into his hands, he realized that his hands were heavy. Obviously, the senior had underestimated the weight of the luggage.
After arriving on the sixth floor, after cleaning up the dormitory, Xiao Li took out a large bag of garbage. The attentive seniors wanted to help again, but Xiao Li once again shocked everyone with her amazing move. She raised her foot and kicked the package directly to the next floor, leaving the onlookers stunned.
All-rounder
Change light bulbs, repair water pipes, repair printers, do everything yourself without asking for help
Work non-stop at work, go to the market to buy groceries immediately after get off work, and go home Immediately afterwards, I did laundry, cooking, vacuuming and mopping the floor, collecting and folding clothes. Office workers "Jiajia wants to be a tomboy" live such a "seamless" life. "I can't help it. The soft girl who rented the house with me doesn't like to do anything, so I have to do it all." Although Jiajia said it helplessly, she still couldn't stop her inner pride in her words. Not only basic housework, but also water and electricity problems such as changing light bulbs and repairing water pipes are all taken care of by Jiajia. "When I called the plumber and waited for the plumber to come, I had it fixed!"
Jia Jia said that she was once a girl who couldn't talk when she was hungry, but the training in the workplace has allowed her to achieve a big transformation. She also changed her Weibo name to "Jiajia wants to be a female man", constantly challenging her own subjective initiative. On Jiajia’s Weibo, the reporter saw the latest content, “I was lying on the table for a nap at noon. The guy from the next door department came over and said that the printer was broken. I went over to fix the printer, wiped my hands and continued to lie down all afternoon. sleep.
Please call me a tomboy. ”
How is a “female man” made?
Netizens say that “female men” are actually young people struggling alone
Fan Bingbing, who looks charming, calls herself “ Fan Ye", fresh female artist Liu Shishi is called "Shi Ye", and even Zhou Dongyu, the little lolita in "Hawthorn Tree Love", has begun to be ranked as "Uncle" in recent entertainment news. "Female Man" The popularity on the Internet is far beyond imagination. On Sina Weibo yesterday, a comparison table titled "20 Habits Related to Women" was spread by netizens at an exponential rate. . In this comparison table, "I can't unscrew the mineral water bottle, I will struggle instead of asking for help", "I like to tilt my head to pour the potato chips in the bag into my mouth", "I can change the water dispenser bucket by myself", etc. are straightforward and vivid. The "female behavior" is so funny that people can't help laughing.
According to the comparison requirements of this table, more than 10 matching contents are "quasi-feminine", and more than 15 are "standard tomboys". , if all 20 are "shot", he can only be called "brother"
Netizens happily compared the number of entries they matched while complaining about the content on Weibo. "A 'female man' is actually a young man who works alone, okay!" One netizen argued, while "Meow Genius_angladevil" simply revealed his privacy, "I only missed two, and I am indeed a fighter among the tomboys." "Return to Route 61" said, "A female man is not a rough guy who doesn't care about cleanliness and pays attention to the details of life." Being able to bend and stretch is what counts. It is impossible for a female man to have a bottle cap that cannot be unscrewed. It is no problem to change the bucket? Changing the toilet. ”
The formation of “feminine” character is related to heredity, environment, etc.
Yuan Yonggui, director of the Department of Psychology and Psychiatry, Zhongda Hospital Affiliated to Southeast University, told reporters that the definition of “female” can be divided into There are two types, but netizens are more controversial about girls who weaken their femininity and strengthen their masculinity. "The formation of personality is related to genetics, environment and other related factors. Everyone has masculine and feminine parts in their personality. Gender. Identity allows us to understand that we should bring out the part of our personality that is consistent with our biological gender. "
Yuan Yonggui said that there are many reasons for claiming to be a "female man", but many of them are influenced by the external environment and lead to changes in personality. "Many girls have been used to playing with boys since they were young, and their personalities have changed. It is easy to be influenced, which can explain the criterion of "being brothers with many boys" among the standards passed down by netizens. "Changing the water dispenser bucket by yourself" and "carrying luggage by yourself when traveling" are more forced by the environment and the current situation. "If a girl finds that reality forces her to take care of herself, the masculine temperament in her character will disappear." will be mobilized. ”
Female celebrities calling themselves “grandfather” and “brother” can greatly reduce the chance of being disliked by other women. But why are so many girls in life willing to call themselves “female men”? Yuan Yonggui told reporters with a smile that there are also elements of self-mockery and psychological comfort. "Girls who can laugh at themselves like this often achieve psychological comfort by calling themselves 'feminine men', which is actually a manifestation of their mental health. If you get caught up in it, it is likely to cause psychological problems. ”
There is also a kind of physiological “female man”
The “female man” with a beard is endocrine disorder and excessive androgen
In real life , some young women often suffer from such distress. They have heavy hair and obvious beards on their lips. Have they really become "female men"? When patients with this kind of symptoms go to the hospital for examination, androgens are often found in their bodies. If the level is too high, you may be diagnosed with polycystic ovary syndrome.
Experts from the endocrinology department of Nanjing Gulou Hospital said that polycystic ovary syndrome is a disease that will slowly change the unique physiological characteristics of women and affect fertility. disease. It often starts in adolescence and is characterized by menstrual disorders and hyperandrogenism.
Androgen is an important sex hormone in women. It plays an important role in promoting normal growth and development of women and maintaining normal reproductive functions. However, if women have endocrine disorders, excessive androgen secretion in the body will occur. , ovarian function is suppressed, causing menstrual disorders or even amenorrhea, affecting normal ovulation, causing polycystic ovary syndrome and leading to infertility. In addition, patients are also prone to symptoms such as obesity, hirsutism, and acne, and may even show some masculine characteristics, such as some "female men" with beards at the corners of their mouths.
Muscular "female man"
In fact, it is difficult for girls to build muscles
A 17-year-old Russian girl developed an "angel face" because of her hobby of fitness. "Macho body", but after the photos of "the cutest female man" were exposed, many female friends were a little worried. Will sports make them look like this? In real life, even if there are no such examples, many women are very afraid of sports games. Turn people into muscular women. So, will exercise make people become muscular women?
In fact, women have hormonal disadvantages in muscle building. Hormone levels can affect the state of muscles, and the male hormone testosterone is considered to have a significant effect on muscle growth. Testosterone promotes protein synthesis and inhibits protein breakdown. Muscle training will further stimulate the secretion of testosterone, but this stimulating effect is not obvious in women. Therefore, in terms of innate conditions, even if girls want to build muscles, it is more difficult than men.
Love Chapter
Firstly, generally female men often have their own firm standards in choosing a mate and choose the one they like. Therefore, it is often difficult for suitors to succeed, which also reflects the side of female men. Those with a more independent and stubborn personality may be a bit controlling;
Second, they would rather be alone than choose what they like.
Third, when you meet someone you like, you will boldly pursue him.
Compared with "traditional" women, let's see which one is better:
First, ordinary women often do not have fixed standards for choosing a mate, and often choose not what they like, so Suitors are often easy to succeed, which also reflects from the side that women are more dependent on men and have a low social status;
Second, in order to reproduce, they would rather choose something they don't like.
Third, when you meet someone you like, you will not pursue them boldly, but will often let the other person pursue you through hints.