Can a man marry a wife through adoption?
I used to be a door-to-door son-in-law, and I never had a good relationship with my parents-in-law. My parents-in-law didn't buy me a house or a car, but repeatedly asked me to build them a house. I decisively refused. A few days after the baby was born, my mother-in-law insisted that I go to a relative's house for dinner, but I refused. As a result, the next day, my mother-in-law called her relatives to cook for me. This incident made me ignore my mother-in-law for the next few years. Too overbearing! Imagine how my mother-in-law would feel if I called my relatives over to teach her a lesson. Through my own efforts, I bought a house and a car. We can't live in a newly decorated house. Just when my father-in-law was ill and hospitalized, my mother-in-law asked our family of three to move out immediately, saying that Bodhisattva said that the old house on the street could not be inhabited and the feng shui was not good, so it was necessary to sell or rent it. I asked my father-in-law directly, is the house on the street for my wife? I thought it was for my wife. I just moved my hukou to a house on the street? As a result, my father-in-law did not express his position. Then after I moved out, I thought about it for a long time and finally found the root of family conflicts. Because I am a door-to-door son-in-law, my parents-in-law always want to take care of me. Only by not being a door-to-door son-in-law can we avoid contradictions. Then, I proposed to change my child's name, and my mother-in-law said that I could change my name, which was equivalent to marrying my wife and taking more than 200,000 bride price. We raised 250 thousand for my mother-in-law, but her mother-in-law went back on her word and hanged herself. Because my father-in-law is in poor health (cancer plus heart disease), we have also considered for a long time whether to tell him. Finally, we think we should tell my father-in-law, not hide it from him. Then, we are fully prepared and well-founded, and why we should go out independently is clearly written. My father-in-law did not object to us after reading it. Then, we give the money to our parents-in-law. We finally became independent and the children changed their names. The family is finally harmonious and calm, and my parents-in-law and I respect each other. However, just these two days, my father-in-law suddenly proposed that we want our family of three to move to his name, let him approve a large piece of land, build a big house, and tear down the old houses in the countryside and build them again! I thought for a while and made it clear that there would be problems in building a house. The question of money. It costs a lot of money to build a house, which costs them more than 600 thousand savings. When the illness recurs, there is no money to see a doctor. They have to prepare at least 200,000 for medical treatment. Yes, I have to prepare 200,000 for my parents on both sides. Property issues. My name is written on the house, and the house is for my wife, so my sister-in-law may have a completely frozen relationship with my wife in the future. So think carefully. Health problems. Building a house is tiring. I am in poor health, and I am worried that my father-in-law will be exhausted. My wife and I thought that my parents-in-law's money would be used to support the elderly and see a doctor. Besides, my sister-in-law can buy her a car when she gets married. If a house is built, my father-in-law will have no money to see a doctor and can't buy a car for my sister-in-law. Instead, she will give the house to my wife. My sister-in-law may be very angry. Even if she is not angry for the time being, her parents-in-law and husband will consider the issue of property division in the future. My father-in-law said on the spot, don't tell my sister-in-law. Then we secretly told my sister-in-law, and told her our thoughts, hoping that my sister-in-law would put pressure on her parents-in-law to persuade them not to build a house. But my sister-in-law didn't thank her, but said she would listen to her parents' arrangements. I feel horrible. This is my fault. I didn't distinguish between the enemy and me. Then I told her, sorry, let's call it a day. My father-in-law is in poor health and wants to build a house, pushing me into a fire pit. Thought you could lure me into a trap with that little profit. I won't be fooled, and I won't have the cheek to adopt a son-in-law in their home again. I told my wife that even if I was given 6.5438+million yuan, I wouldn't move there. I calculated that the house is so big, with at least 600,000 empty shells, 600,000 renovations, 6,543,800 huts, 6,543,800 fences and at least 50,000 FRP sheds, totaling 6,543,800+0.5 million. At least 200,000 doctors and 200,000 parents on both sides have something to do, and it will cost a lot of money to hang up in the future. More than 2 million. Don't mention the second child, not the first child. After I told my dad about it, my dad's first reaction was to jump off a cliff and commit suicide. He really can't figure out why my parents-in-law are so cruel. ! The next day my father finally figured it out, and he gave me two points. First, parents-in-law should not fall into the trap under the temptation of more interests. Second, we should respect each other and live in harmony with our in-laws. Give money for the Spring Festival, and the children should also give money. My parents-in-law are really cruel. Of course I won't fall for it. I don't even want a house on the street. Do I care about the old house? They really think I'm greedy for money. Now that we are independent, we have equal relations with our parents-in-law, mutual respect and harmonious family. We should cherish the hard-won situation. After careful consideration, we made it clear to our parents-in-law on the evening of February 15 that we would not move our household registration. I thought family was harmonious. I even wonder if I can find a way to make the relationship between my mother-in-law's big brother and little brother better. I'm too kind. But at noon today (/kloc-February/8), that is, on the third day of not moving or building a house, my mother-in-law suddenly got angry and called me heartless, a liar and my wife heartless! I know. I wanted to build a house by moving to another house, so as to achieve the goal of completely controlling us. After being rejected by us, he swore. What my dad said was to ask others to move out immediately, and at the same time ask others to move their accounts and build houses. It's a mess I won't confront my parents-in-law now, because I am independent and won't quarrel with my parents-in-law again. As long as my wife and I are good and indestructible, my parents-in-law can't help us!
This is mostly a virtue.
Depends on the man's family.
There is no difference between good and bad. Of course, there is a premise that you both love each other very much, so this kind of thing can be overcome.
Two people who love each other, even if they are adopted, you are still very happy.
You can think about how much love this couple have when a person is willing to adopt a son-in-law through adoption. Nowadays, families, parents and minds are more open-minded and will not be ashamed of adopting a son-in-law. Both sides put the happiness of their children first, so even if they adopt a woman, the parents of the man will bless them.
Love and marriage are two people's business. If the choice involves too much, even if you get married, there may be trivial matters, and you will not be happy after marriage.
Personally, I think it's not wrong for a man to marry through adoption on the basis of two people's love. It doesn't mean that whoever marries through adoption will abandon his parents. No matter where you are, first, your parents will bless you. Secondly, you are the child of your parents. All virtues are filial first, and we must honor our parents.
In the past, this was a very positive word. The man lives in the woman's house, and the children take her surname. The traditional idea is to carry on the family line for the woman's family, which often happens when there are no boys in the woman's family, but there are many men and brothers adopted by the wife, and the family economy is not good. It has little to do with your own family.
Nowadays, with the rapid development of economy, young people have entered big cities to display their ambitions in order to live a better life and reflect their self-worth. Going to school since childhood, parents with good economy also let their children enter a better city. The concept of extended family, falling leaves, and the concept of carrying on the family line are becoming more and more indifferent. It is normal that young people seldom live with their parents, even thousands of miles apart.
Naming a child is also a combination of parents' surnames. I think the best name is the child of a colleague. His father's surname is Zhu, his mother's surname is Guo, and his child's name is Zhu. What a nice name. In Taiyuan, Shanxi, my parents cut in line in Anqing, and my daughter was named Anqing. Neither parent has a surname, and it is also a happy life. The name is actually a symbol, and living a good life is the most important thing.
In present life, almost all young people in the city are brought up by their grandmothers, with more surnames than their fathers, and are also called by their grandparents. It can be said that in addition to remote small places, there are several adopted daughters-in-law, and the word whole society has almost disappeared.
Two people's lives are mainly feelings, tacit understanding of life, whether they are willing to pay for one person's life. If he is ill, you will be heartbroken. Happiness is the cornerstone of two people together. It is a blessing to lay a solid foundation for a lifetime. Life is not long, why care about the name that continues for mankind?
It is convenient for four old people to live there, and they also live there. Anyone with good economic conditions can live in a community, put filial piety first and live a happy life.
In fact, it depends on the following factors:
First, the emotional foundation. It doesn't matter if two people have a good relationship, love each other very much and feel suitable.
Second, the family situation. If you have many brothers and sisters and the woman is an only child, it doesn't matter. If you are an only child, the woman is not, or both are only children, this needs to be considered, because the elderly need to be supported.
Third, ideological issues. If you adopt a husband's family, you should ask yourself if you can accept it.
Fourth, environmental factors. Looking at the geographical environment where the woman's home is located, the city is ok. If you are in the countryside, if your manners are not good or the woman's family has no prestige, no day will be too ideal, and the issue of human nature is very complicated.
Fifth, life planning. What plans do you and your wife have for your future life? What impact does adoption have on your plans and whether it is conducive to development?
My humble opinion, I hope it will be useful to you. I wish you happiness!
It's quite difficult. Be diligent.
Look at your personal feelings.
Marrying a woman is the same.
There was a difference before, but is there now?