When dating, boys insisted on AA and were rejected by girls. Are you a man, dating or AA? what do you think?
Regarding blind date, it is estimated that many people have had similar experiences. Nowadays, the circle of life and work is getting narrower and narrower, so that the problem of marriage and love can only be solved through blind date.
Many people don't like blind date, a fast dating mode of marriage and love. They think that blind date is to get married for the sake of marriage, more to satisfy parents' desire of "looking forward to getting married", or to bow their heads reluctantly because of reality.
Most blind date partners meet for the first time, and there is no emotional foundation between them. Such couples are just cohabiting marriage partners.
Having said that, the pace of life of young people is faster now. They are busy with work every day, and there is no extra room for dating in their two-point and one-line lives. It seems that blind date is the most direct and effective way to get rid of the order.
But blind date will also bring some contradictions and controversies to everyone. Take paying the bill as an example. Some people think that it is a symbol of a gentleman to pay the bill by a man in the process of blind date. Some people think that since the two sides are here for blind date, they should adopt AA system, which is fairer.
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After graduating from Wang Bo University, he joined a company to do finance, and was busy with various reports every day, so that he was still alone in his thirties.
Some time ago, his parents arranged a blind date for him. He is four years younger than him and works as a clerk in a company.
Parents praised the girl as a fairy tale, so Wang Bo did not refuse their blind date arrangement, and went cheerfully.
After he went, he only looked at each other and didn't mean to continue dating.
The other party's appearance condition is average, and the visual height is less than1.65m, which is not Wang Bo's favorite wife's appearance.
In the subsequent conversation, Wang Bo felt that the "generation gap" between them was too deep to communicate effectively.
As far as education is concerned, Wang Bo graduated from university, while girls entered the society after graduating from high school. The cultural backgrounds of the two are quite different. When chatting, chickens talk to ducks.
Economically, Wang Bo's monthly income can reach more than 12000, while the income of girls is only more than 4000, which is a big gap.
Wang Bo thinks that if two people want to get married, they should at least be suitable for each other. At worst, the conditions of both sides should not be too bad, which is obviously inappropriate.
Since there is no possibility for the two sides to continue to develop, Wang Bo immediately proposed to end the date and put the expenses incurred by blind date AA.
His proposal obviously surprised the girl and made her very unhappy.
In the eyes of girls, it is natural for men and women to pay for blind date together. This is not only a gentleman's demeanor, but also a practice in blind date. How is the money for a girl's blind date reasonable?
The girl's resistance to AA system made Wang Bo think it was too wise to terminate the blind date.
There is not only a huge economic and cultural gap between him and this girl, but even the three views are not consistent.
Since we decided not to continue our relationship, and things have reached this stage, Wang Bo is not afraid of each other's embarrassment. He simply said bluntly: "We are not suitable in all aspects, and dating AA is the fairest choice!"
It is inevitable that girls will feel a little embarrassed when they meet this kind of thing.
In order not to let things continue to ferment, she stared at Wang Bo silently for a few seconds, watching him unmoved, and directly threw the money on the table and said, "Although I didn't make much money, this meal is on me. Leave your money to the next blind date girl AA! "
Then the girl strode away.
After returning home, Wang Bo was scolded by his parents.
His parents think that his way of dealing with problems is very inappropriate. Even if he doesn't want to pay the bill, he shouldn't talk to a girl like that.
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Blind date is knowledge divorced from textbooks, and it is also the biggest test of people's emotional intelligence.
Obviously, in this blind date with the girl, we can see that Wang Bo's emotional intelligence is worrying, although theoretically, it is really fair and reasonable for him to do so.
However, EQ is different from IQ. When dealing with people, dogmatic "fairness and reasonableness" is the biggest inhumanity.
Perhaps, his emotional intelligence is not low, but he doesn't want to come clean with people he doesn't like.
But even if you think you are superior in all aspects, you can't trample on the dignity and face of others without restraint.
In this matter, besides being outspoken, being tactful will make you more reasonable.
For boys who kiss occasionally, it's nothing to invite girls to dinner, but for boys who meet, the cost of this blind date banquet is really enough for him to drink a pot.
If men think AA system is better, they should tell each other before blind date. If the other party can't accept it, then you don't have to be busy meeting. Everyone will be happy if they agree.
Besides, everyone should pay attention to what they say. No matter what happens, don't attack each other personally, because it is a very rude and ill-bred thing.
Even if two people can't get along, they don't intend to continue to communicate, but they should respect each other and try not to embarrass each other.