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Up to now, the cumulative box office has broken 800 million.
Douban netizens who have always been ruthless also gave this domestic youth film a high score of 8.5.
It's just that the scenes in the movie are so real,
In addition to the depressed college entrance examination, the dog days of youth, innocent first love, campus violence, a neglected stubborn disease, is exposed to the world.
People who have seen it can find their own shadow more or less.
For example, Zhou Dongyu's Chen Nian was bullied by Wei Lai. In order to hide, she got into the smelly trash can and didn't dare to cry.
On the way to school, Chen Nian was surrounded by Wei Lai and her classmates, cutting her hair and taking nude photos.
These seemingly impossible fragments are just cruel pictures that may happen in reality.
On Douban, some netizens commented like this:
"It's hard for people who have experienced school bullying to get out, but they can have a good cry in the movie."
In the movie, Chen Nian is lucky. At least in her dark youth, there appeared a boy named Xiaobei, who could warm each other.
But the reality is that there are countless Chen Nian struggling in pain, but only one Xiao Bei appears, still a just policeman Zheng.
Chen Nian has Xiao Bei, but those bullied children only have themselves.
campus violence
incurable disease
With the popularity of movies, a word that exists in the dark side of society has re-entered the world's field of vision, that is, campus violence.
Campus violence is always a heavy and profound topic.
Statistics show that one in every 65,000 children commits suicide because of bullying.
In June 5438+10, a junior high school in Xi 'an, several boys pushed another boy to the corner of the corridor, kicked his feet and hit his belt. In the video of the beating, even the wooden stick was broken.
Afterwards, the student who caused the accident only got the informed criticism of the school.
This is just the tip of the iceberg. In places we can't see, similar scenes may be staged every day.
We often say that children are angels, but angels are synonymous with demons.
In this most innocent age, they may be engaged in the activities of the devil.
Xunzi said: human nature is evil.
At the simplest and purest age, the criteria for children to judge likes and dislikes often depend on personal preferences.
Therefore, there is not much interest dispute between the bully and the bullied.
There is no other reason for bullying. You look different from others, or you see people bullying him. If I don't do it, it seems that I am not suitable.
Here, I think of a passage from the year of the mob.
"Once an individual becomes a member of a group, he is no longer responsible for what he has done. At this time, everyone will show his unconstrained style. What the group pursues and believes in is never truth and reason, but blind obedience, cruelty, paranoia and fanaticism, and only knows simple and extreme feelings. "
As a result, when a child is hated by a group, he will always become bullied by a class or even a school.
Then the bully was tortured to death.
In fact, the most common sentence we hear about school violence is that he is still a child and knows nothing.
But it is this little knowledge that makes them make mistakes with impunity, and the evil they finally commit is even more hateful than a mature adult.
This is the most unforgivable.
The most terrible thing about campus violence is that you can't find the murderer, because everyone is a murderer.
Every school violence
The witness is a criminal.
I once read a research report on school violence.
In school violence, 8% are bullies, 12% are victims, and the remaining 80% are witnesses.
Therefore, when the witness does nothing, the bully's behavior will inevitably intensify;
All indifference to inaction is equal to a silent recognition.
When you choose to ignore atrocities, you have stood on the opposite side of good.
Only when bystanders stop being indifferent and choose to stand up will bullies become a minority, and those so-called bullies will naturally disappear gradually.
You may not have the courage to stand up and stop it, but at least you can help the bullied children and ask their teachers for help.
A scene in the movie made me feel a sore throat.
Hu Xiaodie, the first bully, cried and questioned the onlookers before choosing to end his pain with death: "They are bullying me. Why don't you do something? "
But the next day, the school was bustling as usual, and the dead Hu Xiaodie was selectively forgotten.
Then, there is the next victim of collective bullying.
We often say that no snowflake is innocent during an avalanche.
Bullies do evil, witnesses ignore them, but never repent.
But in school violence, bystanders are only survivors, and no one can predict whether the next bully will be himself.
Some people may say that as bystanders, we have nothing to do with ourselves, but we are afraid, even afraid of retaliation.
But what I want to say is, even if you dare not do anything, please don't indulge.
I read such a story in Zhihu.
Xiao is a victim of school violence.
After being bullied, his experience was talked about by his classmates as a talk, and he talked about it unscrupulously. Some onlookers will take the video of him being beaten and ask him with a smile: "Are you a man after all?"
In my memory, the most unforgettable thing is that the day after the school violence, a male classmate came over and told him:
"I heard that you were beaten?" "You were beaten, and the whole school knows, hahaha."
Maybe we can't stop campus violence, at least don't be silencers or even participants.
Just like in the movie "Sadness flows against the River", Yi Yao, who was bullied, once said in despair:
"You didn't kill anyone, did you? You will never admit what an evil thing you have done. What you did is the same as what you didn't do. You are not a good person. "
If the perpetrator is a knife, then these tireless bystanders are stabbing the knife deeper.
The indifference of teachers and parents.
This is a silent indulgence.
Behind most campus violence, there are parents' connivance, school indifference and the so-called "he is still a child" excuse.
In the Japanese drama legalhigh, after the bullied boy accidentally fell from the building, the school blindly covered up his mistakes and turned a blind eye to the students who caused the accident, making the whole tragedy even more distressing.
At the end of the film, lawyer Gu Meimen said, "The essence of bullying is atmosphere."
This is a fact.
In many cases, silence is the catalyst of disguised violence.
And if even the school is perfunctory, we can't afford it.
As the old policeman said,
"The school always wants to make peace, the class teacher is afraid of taking responsibility, and parents feel that it is not serious. Schools and families also lack education in this area, and all parties have no ability to restrain the evil of minors. "
But when it comes to school violence, it is never a trivial matter. Once started, it won't end easily.
In recent years, schools have taught students that you will become an adult as long as you study, take exams and go to college.
But "being a man" is rarely mentioned. It is normal to teach infertile people.
So, there is the sentence that Chen Nian said.
"You all say that you will be an adult after the college entrance examination, and you will be free when you are an adult, but there has never been a lesson to teach us how to be an adult."
Just like in the movie, the girl who takes the lead in bullying is Wei Lai, a girl with a superior family and excellent grades.
In fact, "Beautiful Days" shows not only endless campus violence, but also a kind of vigilance.
After the film was released, I woke up with a stick, and I was still hypnotizing teachers or parents with words like "These bullying are all fights between children".
In fact, campus violence is far from as simple as punching and kicking, and there are verbal insults, physical humiliation, and so on. These bullying that touches the soul is more like purgatory for an immature child.
Ma Dong, the host, once talked about being bullied as a child in "Qipa Shuo".
He said so,
"If I hadn't been beaten, they would have taken me to a mysterious roundabout among the bricks and pressed my head and said,' Say a cross talk'."
When he complained to the teacher, he got a boo from the teacher. "Come on, say a paragraph first."
In a school bullying where teachers don't even think so, how can students really realize the seriousness of the problem?
As mentioned in the editorial of People's Daily,
"Violence in the corner of the campus is a childhood nightmare for many people, and even a cage that is difficult to get out of for a lifetime. Children are ignorant and fearless, and society can't let go. "
Small things that are not important to adults are probably reminders of bullied children.
The slackness of schools and parents has just become a hotbed of violence.
Facing campus violence
No more silence.
I saw a video on Weibo some time ago.
In a coffee shop, a shy and introverted boy was humiliated by two classmates next to him, laughing at his sissy and even pointing to an orchid.
The humiliated boy didn't dare to answer, but cried silently.
It wasn't long before the two students left, and the girl who was drinking coffee next to her finally couldn't stand it. She went up to comfort the boy softly and encouraged him, "Don't put it in your mouth, say it, don't be afraid."
When the two students came back again, the onlookers were no longer silent, but chose to sit together and form a protective circle to protect the boy.
Seeing someone protecting them, the two humiliated students had to leave.
In fact, the whole process is just a fragment of a social observation program, the purpose of which is to observe what onlookers will do.
Afterwards, the reporter asked the first girl who came forward: "Why don't you go away? Why do you care about him? "
The girl's answer made people cry. "I can't leave. If I leave, I don't think this student union will be ruined. "
In the face of school bullying, if what we do is not silence, but stand up bravely like this girl, otherwise many endings will be rewritten.
The silence of onlookers is only one aspect, and more importantly, the victims themselves come forward.
I remember in the movie, in the face of the intimidation and inducement of the policewoman, Chen Nian shouted out in despair, "Do you dare to let your children come into this world?"
I believe that no parents are willing to let their children suffer mediocrity and connivance for no reason.
Then, as parents, we should teach our children to stand up and resist.
Professor Li Meijin once shared the story of his granddaughter being bullied with the topic of school bullying in his lecture.
My granddaughter was hit on the head by a boy when she was in kindergarten.
Professor Li Meijin said to his granddaughter, "If this happens again, pull another person's ear with both hands. He will put you down as soon as it hurts! "
This example does not support the practice of "fighting violence with violence".
I want to make it clear that no one is born to be bullied.
To settle for second best blindly, a person will be insulted repeatedly.
Therefore, children must be warned that they must have their own attitude in the face of bullying. Even if he can't solve it by himself, his parents and teachers are behind him.
At the end of the year, Chen Nian finally broke out after countless silences and patience, pushing the perpetrator Wei Lai down the stairs and dying.
But is the so-called ultimate violence really a perfect ending?
If so, that is the saddest thing.
I remember in the movie, in Chen Nian's English book, there is a sentence that reads:
We all live in the gutter, but there are always people looking up at the stars.
In other words, school violence is a chronic disease, but at least, the parties involved should try to stand up.
The result of blind tolerance will only be more humiliation.
Don't wait until after the tragedy, and then trigger public criticism.
After all, it is the most cruel ignorance in the world to fill the world's indifference to campus violence with a few young and vivid lives.
I hope school violence stays away from our children.