Who is bad for Tomb-Sweeping Day to go back to her family?
It will have a bad influence on the fortune and reputation of the married daughter's family to visit her grave. The daughter who goes back to her mother's grave will hold hands with the good feng shui of her mother's ancestral grave; Second, when a daughter goes back to her parents' home to visit the grave, it will make outsiders feel that there is no successor in her family, so generally speaking, her daughter's grave has the greatest influence on her family.
Tomb-Sweeping Day's married daughter can only go to the grave in her husband's family, and can't go back to her family to worship her ancestors. In some folk places, the old people think that if Tomb-Sweeping Day's married daughters go back to their parents' graves to worship their ancestors, it will bring good luck and make their parents decline. So in some places, married daughters are not allowed to come back to worship their ancestors.
Don't avoid Tomb-Sweeping Day, dead old man is also a folk saying, which means that Tomb-Sweeping Day's return to her parents' home is not good for her father-in-law, but this statement is superstitious. In fact, modern people don't have so many taboos.
What's the point of burning paper for parents? My daughter is too young to go to the grave.
No matter where the custom is, it is not appropriate for a daughter to go to the grave because she is too young. Generally speaking, if a child is under six years old, it is not suitable for both men and women to let him participate in ancestor worship activities. Because the child is too young, the yang is low, and the cemetery is a place with a heavy yin, it is easy for the child to see some unclean things, and it is easy to cause some negative substances to entangle with the child (the child has a low yang and is easy to provoke evil things), which leads to the child's frequent illness. Therefore, my daughter is too young to go to the grave and needs attention.
Unmarried daughters can go to the grave.
In some places, unmarried daughters can go to the grave. For example, in many parts of Guangdong, unmarried daughters can visit graves to worship their ancestors. However, in some areas, feudal ideology is more serious. They think that whether a daughter is married or not will not affect her nature as a married woman, so even if her daughter is unmarried, she can't go to the ancestral grave to worship.
Married daughters are not allowed to go to the grave.
Rural people think that a married daughter should not go back to her mother's grave, so she can only go back to her husband's family to pay homage to her ancestral grave, but not to her family's ancestral grave, because in people's traditional concept, a daughter is married to her husband's family, and her maiden name and household registration have been adopted to her husband's family, so a married daughter belongs to her husband's family and cannot go back to her family grave to pay homage to her ancestors.
Pregnant women can't go to the grave.
Many places are taboo for pregnant women to go to the grave. Many people think that pregnant women should not go to the grave because they are inconvenient to move, but in fact, even if you are just pregnant and strong, you can't go to the grave. Pregnant women need the blessing of the fetal god when they are pregnant, and it is precisely because of the care of the fetal god that we can successfully conceive the baby. However, the fetal god is most taboo to go to some places with heavy yin, and the cemetery is not suitable for pregnant women as a place with very heavy yin.