What system in the Qing Dynasty made Xu happy but made the maids miserable?

The princess was born in the royal family, and she was spoiled from childhood. She wanted almost everything. Her standard of living was among the best at that time. They also want to live in the palace all the time and live a carefree life, regardless of right or wrong, but this is just an illusion. Reality doesn't allow them to do this. They will get married sooner or later, and they can't choose their future marriage.

The ancients got married earlier, usually at the age of fifteen or sixteen, and the princess was no exception. Every dynasty had different requirements for Xu. Generally speaking, Xu's family background is certainly not too bad. Even if he is not the son of the prime minister's family, he should at least be the son of a court official. Only in this way can we be called suitable, otherwise there will be no face of the royal family.

In the Ming Dynasty, Zhu Yuanzhang issued a regulation that the princess could not marry the minister's son, and the husband could only choose from the official position or the common people to avoid the husband's family being more powerful, but it was fair to the princess. Although the princess complained in her heart, she had to obey the rules. The husbands of Princess Anqing, Princess Hanshan and Princess Chongning have no prominent family background.

After the Qing dynasty entered the customs, in order to better rule, it followed most of the systems of the previous dynasty. But when choosing Xu's horse, he didn't marry a court official like in the Ming Dynasty. For example, Gan Long married his little daughter to Fengšenyende, the son of Xiao Shenyang. As we all know, the Qing royal family had a special system, that is, before the princess got married, she would arrange a maid-in-waiting to stay in the Xu family for a few days. The chosen maid-in-waiting called it a "trial marriage". Why is there such a system?

When the princess reached the marriageable age, the emperor would ask which minister's son-in-law was not married, and then make a decree to marry her, so that the minister in charge of the matter could look at the Gregorian calendar, choose a good day and marry the princess beautifully. Dowry is definitely indispensable. Generally speaking, there will be a period of time from marriage to marriage, and there are few cases of flash marriage.

During this period, a maid who is good in all aspects will be appointed, usually a maid around the princess, and she will be sent to Xu's palace to live with Xu for a few days. Trial marriage has a clear task, not just going through the motions. There are two purposes. One is to understand Xu's physical quality, and if there is anything wrong, it will not delay the happiness of the princess's life; The second is to find out Xu's character and not let the princess marry.

After the task is completed, the maid-in-waiting will return to the palace and tell the queen mother or queen everything. If Xu Da doesn't meet the requirements, she can find reasons to dissolve the engagement. If she thinks Xu is not bad, the princess will get married according to the set date. Xu must be very happy about the trial marriage system, but the maid-in-waiting has unspeakable suffering. Her best ending is to marry the princess and continue to serve princess Xu and her position is even inferior to that of concubines. If you are Xu, can you accept the trial marriage system?