This article is written for those born in the 1970s: Your luck and feng shui for the rest of your life starts with getting rid of these types of people

A few days ago, a friend told me something. He said that he is almost 50 years old now, but he still lives in confusion. He feels uncomfortable every day and has no freedom at all.

I was very curious, so I asked him if he was short of money or had something happened? He said lightly: "For those who don't have money, we actually have no worries about food and clothing now, and there are no big financial problems. But the most important thing is people. Those relatives who are beyond our reach always take the opportunity to come to our house every day. Not only that , and there are a lot of half-way friends who come in and out of your home all day long. You say you won’t let them in, but you are embarrassed. After entering the house, they make it difficult for us to behave.”

After hearing what my friend said, I seem to understand a little bit more. That means his life is enjoyable, and others are eyeing him. And he and his family will not refuse and will only deal with those people. So, what's the result? That is hurting yourself and harming your happiness in the rest of your life.

Many people born in the 1970s actually have this feeling, that is, most of the people around you are "some people hate others, but some people laugh". But it’s people like this who pester themselves so much that you can’t get rid of them, and you can’t be cruel to them.

For the rest of your life, don’t let those indifferent people interfere with your life. If some people make their lives embarrassing, then they should break up if they should be separated, and get rid of those who should be separated. Don't let their arrival affect your life and happiness.

Get rid of relatives who are "kidnapped by family affection"

"Zengguang Xianwen" says: "If you are poor in the busy city, no one will care about you; if you are rich in the mountains, you will have distant relatives. If you don't believe it, just watch the wine at the banquet." , Cup to cup to the rich first.”

In this “human” society, everyone is actually a stranger, including those who are slightly related by blood. Why do you say that? It's because the relationship between them and us is one of duplicity and superficiality. This kind of relationship is a money relationship disguised as blood.

This kind of relationship is especially difficult to deal with. You know, dealing with outsiders is at least a real money relationship, but dealing with relatives has more "human feelings" in it. This favor is everyone's "seven inches".

To be honest, when these relatives ask you to do something, it’s hard for you to refuse. If you refuse, you are afraid that others will gossip about you behind your back, but if you refuse, you are afraid that your own interests will be harmed. Just when you are hesitant, they will use family affection to "kidnap" you, and you will be even more embarrassed to refuse, and they will fall into the trap.

Those born in the 1970s will understand with more experience how much "family affection" there is in such relatives? It's not that relatives are bad, but that people who often use family ties to kidnap you don't regard you as a relative, they just regard you as an "accused".

In the middle age of forties and fifties, life is already under great pressure. If you don’t know how to get rid of such people, how can you live a comfortable and free life? Life is not easy, so don’t always suffer yourself for the sake of those relatives who “praise you and put them down”.

Get rid of friends who "borrow money and never repay"

I have heard this saying: "Lend money once and you will be able to see the other person's true face."

The relationship between people, people and money, and money and money is always mutual. If you are rich, you will naturally have a full house and many friends. But if you don’t have money, others will look down on you, and even treat you like mud on the bottom of your feet or grass on the riverside. This applies even to relatives, let alone outsiders who are not related to you by blood.

Naturally, one should not be too harsh on outsiders. But there is one thing that cannot be ignored, and that is "borrowing money and not paying it back". Someone once commented on people who borrow money and refuse to repay it, saying that they are like a piece of dog-skin plaster that is repeatedly posted and removed again and again.

When people reach middle age, they are already struggling to move forward under the pressure of car and house loans. You know, after many people get up, the first thing they think about is today's "three meals."

Even under such circumstances of great financial pressure, why is it necessary to lend money to those who are ungrateful?

The relationship between people is made or destroyed by money. I once had a friend who was already living in embarrassment and owed a large amount of money to others. But even so, one of his brothers came to him to borrow money. The friend didn't want to embarrass his brother, so he embarrassed himself and lent him money alone. But what was the result? It was this good brother who ran away, and my friend shouldered the debt alone.

There is an imbalance between the superficial friendship and the inner heart. No matter what stage people reach, they must understand that people who want to borrow money are not necessarily bad people, but people who borrow money without repaying it must be cynics who don't see good people. In this way, we can only break it when it is necessary, otherwise we will only suffer the disaster.

Get rid of the white-eyed wolf who "repays kindness with hatred"

The old director of the unit once told us such a thing.

More than ten years ago, the old director and his classmates went to work in a factory together. When he first entered the factory, the old director was immediately promoted by his superiors to a small manager in a certain department because of his outstanding ability and his pragmatism in dealing with people. But his classmate, because he was flamboyant, was not favored by his boss and was often scolded by his boss.

Seeing his classmates in such an environment, the old director always helped him cover up some things and did his duty as a friend. But just because of doing this, the classmates thought that the old director looked down on him, so they started to have "wrong" thoughts.

One time, the old director received a task to negotiate with a client. That day, a classmate took the old director out for a drink. The old director was too embarrassed to refuse, so he agreed to go have a few drinks. Unexpectedly, his classmates resorted to tricks and got him drunk. The old director lost this order, and the factory suffered huge losses. And his boss fired him because of his dereliction of duty.

The old director lamented that he treated his classmates with sincerity, but his classmates turned against each other and turned against each other, which was chilling.

When you reach middle age, don’t let white-eyed wolves surround you. Some people are born to be "rebellious" people, just like a wolf. If you feed it your own benefits, it will not only be unappreciative, but also want to eat you. Such people are a scourge. No matter how nice you are to them, you are just exchanging your money and blessings for harm again and again.

Get rid of relatives and friends who "add insult to injury"

As the saying goes: "It is easy to add icing on the cake, but difficult to provide help when it is time."

In the past, it was always believed that people who provide help when needed are good friends. . But after more collisions in society, you will understand that the so-called "icing on the cake" is just an illusion, and it would be nice if others don't "add insult to injury".

I once read a message from a reader, saying that he is about to run into his fifth grade this year. He has many relatives and friends around him, but there are very few people who treat him sincerely. The sentiment of "I originally turned my heart to the bright moon, but the bright moon shines on the ditch" is quite cleverly written in it.

He said that his second brother borrowed 100,000 yuan from him many years ago, but he has not repaid it yet. Not only that, the second brother also told him that he just wanted to see him live a bad life and let him have a taste of abjection. This reader is very chilled because he knows that his second brother still owns two properties and a large business. It is a trivial matter to pay back the money. But others just want to add insult to injury, so what can they do?

Even if this happens, we are still brothers. I can't help but sigh, it turns out that what the ancients said "brothers settle accounts clearly" is very realistic. Not only are the accounts clearly being settled, but some people are also stabbing you in the back. It's just this kind of relationship, no matter what the relationship is, even if they are close, they are just "enemies".

You must not have the intention to harm others, and you must have the intention to guard against others. Many people born in the 1970s will also go to Wu. For the rest of your life, you should not be the victim of someone you have paid for in vain, but you should recognize people with your eyes and distinguish between "human hearts" and "wolf hearts." In this way, the days to come will be able to "protect both people and money" and be full of happiness.

Text/There are deers in Shushan