A mother’s character is the best feng shui for a family
“The competition of a nation is the competition of its mother.” Froebel, the famous educator, also said: “The fate of the nation is not so much in the hands of those in power as it is in the hands of the mother. . ”
Mother represents tenderness, beauty and happiness. Mother is the beacon on the child's growth path and the signpost on the child's life path. The closeness between mother and child is far greater than that between father and mother, because the child and mother spend ten months of "intimacy period", a true "fusion of flesh and blood."
Every move, word and deed of the mother is a role model for the children to imitate. The mother's cultural and moral qualities directly affect the children's conduct. A kind mother's children are likely to be popular people, and a well-organized mother's children are likely to have successful careers and broad-minded people.
Don’t underestimate the influence of the mother on the child. The mother’s thinking and habits have a “subconscious” influence on the child. The world in the mother’s eyes determines the world in the child’s eyes, so high-quality mothers achieve high-quality children.
Below we learn about the story of Hu Shi’s mother educating her children, and I believe it can bring us some thoughts.
Hu Shi (1891-1962), named Shi, also named Shi Zhi. Famous modern scholars, poets, historians, writers and philosophers. A Chinese university scholar who has won 35 American doctoral titles. A native of Shangzhuang, Jixi County, Anhui Province. He became one of the leaders of the New Culture Movement because of his advocacy of literary revolution.
Hu Shi's father was Hu Chuan, also named Tiehua, who was a tribute student in the late Qing Dynasty. He served as magistrate of the three eastern provinces, Guangdong and even Taitung Zhili Prefecture in Taiwan, but later left Taiwan due to the Yiwei War; his mother, Feng Shundi (Xixian), was His father is 30 years younger and is a woman from a good family in a rural area. When Hu Shi was 3 years old, his father died of illness. The 23-year-old widowed mother became the matron of a large rural family. She carefully educated her only son. She followed her husband's instructions and insisted on letting him study, and worked hard to train Hu Shi to become a talent.
Hu Shi received education with his mother in his hometown of Shangzhuang when he was 3 years old. When he was 13 years old, he left his mother and went to Shanghai to study.
Nine years of rural life had a huge, profound and irreplaceable impact on his life.
In the article "My Mother", Mr. Hu Shi talked about his mother and said with emotion:
My mother has a great spirit, a good temper, and is the kindest and gentlest to others. There was never a word that hurt anyone's feelings.
She pays attention to everything and tolerates everything. My eldest brother’s daughter is one year younger than me, and her diet and clothing materials are always the same as mine. She and I had small disputes, and I always got the short end of the stick. My mother always blamed me and asked me to give in to her in everything.
Later, the elder sister-in-law and the second sister-in-law gave birth to sons. When they were angry, they would beat and scold their children to vent their anger. While beating, they would use harsh and thorny words to others. My mother just pretended not to hear. Sometimes she couldn't bear it anymore and quietly walked out of the door...
Feng Shundi paid even more attention to Hu Shi's childhood studies. When Hu Shi was living in Taiwan before he was three years old, his parents asked him to recognize square characters and he learned about 1,000 characters. When he returned to his hometown in Anhui, Hu Shi was only 3 years and a few months old, but his mother saw that he was eager to study, so she let him study in a private school run by his fourth uncle. Because he was too small, he had to be lifted up and down from the high stool where he studied. However, Hu Shi had been interested in reading since he was a child. Of course, Feng Shundi's good intentions played a great role in this.
The tuition fee for other children to go to private schools is only 2 yuan, but Hu Shi’s mother wanted him to study, and she also hoped that Hu Shi could have a good enlightenment education when he was a child, so the scholarship for his husband was particularly generous. First, The gift will be 6 yuan every year, and will increase every year thereafter, increasing to 20 yuan in the last year.
My mother asked her husband to "teach the book" to him. Every time he reads a word, he must tell the meaning of the word; every time he reads a sentence, he must tell the meaning of the sentence. Understanding the meaning of the book will avoid the "little monk chanting sutras - talking with words but not thinking". This makes Hu Shi more solid in learning than ordinary children. He can read "Water Margin" at the age of 9, which opened up "the history of children's life" for him. A new world."
Not only did he "read" a large number of novels, he was also able to "tell" the novels and tell stories to the sisters around him.
This kind of "telling" forced him to translate classical Chinese stories into Xixi dialect, which enabled him to better understand the literary theory of ancient Chinese.
Feng Shundi was not only a loving mother and strict father, but also a "mentor" and "strict teacher" to Hu Shi. She never doted on Hu Shi.
"My Mother" is the work of Hu Shi, a famous modern scholar and writer. It says:
My mother has the strictest control over me. She is a loving mother and a strict father. But she never scolded me or hit me in front of others. I did something wrong, and she only looked at me. I saw her stern eyes, and I was frightened. It was a small mistake, but she waited until I woke up the next morning to teach me a lesson. The offense was serious. She waited for people to be quiet, closed the door, scolded me first, and then punished me, either by making me kneel down or twisting my flesh. No matter how severe the punishment was, I was never allowed to cry out. She taught her son a lesson. This is not a way to vent your anger and make others listen.
When Hu Shi was 13 years old, his mother resolutely sent him to Shanghai to study. Huizhou people have a custom of sending boys out to apprentice in business at the age of thirteen or fourteen. Although Hu Shi was the only son of his mother who was young and widowed and lived with him day and night, her sensible mother did not shed a single tear in front of her son and everyone when she sent her son off.
After arriving in Shanghai, Hu Shi first entered Meixi Academy, then Chengzhong Academy due to the incomplete curriculum, and then transferred to China Public School. Hu Shi, who accepted a lot of new knowledge and new concepts, went through many twists and turns and was admitted to study in the United States in the second year of Xuantong of the Qing Dynasty (1910) with the official scholarship of the Boxer Indemnity.
He was only 19 years old at this time. Because the travel date was decided by the government, he was unable to return to his hometown to say goodbye to his mother.
Hu Shi first studied agriculture at Cornell University in the United States. After a year and a half, he changed to politics and economics, as well as literature and philosophy. Later, he went to Columbia University in New York to study philosophy. During the seven years of studying in the United States, Hu Shi and his mother could only maintain correspondence. The mother would not let anyone tell her son when she was seriously ill, lest he interrupt his studies. Not only that, the mother also borrowed money to buy books for her son.
Hu Shi once wrote in "Diary of Studying Abroad": "When I got a letter from my family, describing my poverty, my mother even used jewelry to pay for the New Year. Not only this, Song Huan's family also has a collection of books. Now that the family is poor, I was willing to sell it at a reduced price to eighty yuan. My mother knew that I wanted to get this book, so she borrowed money to buy it for her son. My mother was in this embarrassment, and she always thought of this for her son."
By July 1917, Hu Shi returned to China after studying in the United States and was hired as a professor by Cai Yuanpei, president of Peking University. In December of that year, at the order of her mother, she returned to her hometown to marry a rural girl Jiang Dongxiu. In July of the following year, Jiang Dongxiu went north to reunite with Hu Shi until she grew old.
In November 1918, Hu Shi's mother died of illness. The next day, Hu Shi received a telegram and went home with his wife to attend the funeral. Hu's mother worked hard all her life and was relieved to see her son become a talented person.
But the grief in Hu Shi's heart is indescribable. In "The Journey of My Late Mother", he wrote these 36 words: "I have not been able to take care of my life, I have not been able to take care of my illness, I have not been able to work hard all my life." Even if you can't share the responsibility at all, you will never see each other again. Life is miserable, why is it like this!"
An ordinary rural woman tries her best to let her children study and learn knowledge. Hu Shi's achievements are inseparable from the silent support of his mother Feng Shundi. The growth of children is always accompanied by silent maternal love.
The great educator Suhomlinsky once said: "Every moment you see your children, you also see yourself. When you educate your children, you are also educating yourself and testing your own personality." Because children are instinctively dependent on their mothers when they are young, the mother's personality, language and behavior will affect the child's life.
Hu Shi’s mother was strict but lenient in educating Hu Shi, and was tolerant but not indulgent. This method not only protects the child's self-esteem, but also allows Hu Shi to have a sense of right and wrong and learn to take responsibility. If you make a mistake, you must bear the consequences yourself. Hu Shi's mother did not directly instill much knowledge into Hu Shi, but she valued virtue and set an example, and used more scientific methods to always encourage her son to devote himself to learning and spur him to achieve success in his studies.
Hu Shi had a gentle temperament throughout his life and "looked indifferently" to the world. The formation of this personality has a great relationship with the influence of his mother. Some children are impatient and some are stoic; some are quiet and some are noisy; a child's personality is closely related to his parents.
As parents, we all hope that our children will have good personality traits, be peaceful, loyal, and strong-willed. Parents should start from themselves and set a good example for their children.
Similarly, Mo Yan confessed: My mother is the person I miss the most at this moment. It can be seen how tall his mother's image is in his heart and how huge his mother's influence is on him! He once used three words to describe his mother: kindness, strength and tolerance.
Therefore, we can say that the bigger the mother's pattern is, the wider the child's life path will be. From childhood, mothers have been subtly guiding their children to understand themselves, the world, think about life, and think about the future. Therefore, in a sense, mother's education is the most "root" education.
The amount of maternal love a child enjoys determines how happy the child will be throughout his life; the amount of education a child receives from his mother determines how high his achievements will be throughout his life. As the closest and most important person in your child's life, mother should use your gentleness, wisdom, words and deeds to light up your child's life.