Ask for such a book.
While eating in a restaurant in Chengdu, I heard a couple at the next table arguing loudly. The general content is that my husband complained that his wife shouldn't do something, and his passionate mouth was flying, probably because he felt that he had caught his wife's handle and tried to vent quickly. The wife frowned and said, "You are right, you are right, so what if you are right?" Then turn around and leave.
I guess going home is another blood shed.
What the lady said before she left impressed me deeply, that is, how are you?
We often care so much about right and wrong that we forget many things in life. Love is the most important thing. Otherwise, even if you take up 10 thousand reasons, you will cold your lover's heart and lose his love. What if you are right?
After all, living is not a trial.
My wife likes to change the furniture at home every once in a while. At first, I was very uncomfortable. Every time I go home, I think I have entered the wrong door. Once, I really couldn't help criticizing her: if you play with her like this, it will ruin the feng shui at home. Don't pull the dining table to the center of the room, the stools should be symmetrical.
She said: You are right, but I am willing to do so.
Looking at her smug appearance, I think it's very interesting and right. Anyway, the house is for a family. I hope she likes it. I travel a lot and spend less time at home. Why should I care?
The relationship between husband and wife is far more important than the dinner table.
I have met many people with good eloquence, who can basically talk for hours without swallowing, as if the whole world must surrender to him, and everyone else is wrong and has some shortcomings. Only by listening to his teaching can he have the final right to interpret the world.
Even so, so what?
No matter how good you study, the direction is either to help others or to show off. No matter how good your eloquence is, you will feel inferior if you don't respect others, because you are afraid that your knowledge will not be shown off and that others will be better than you. So friends, lovers, family, colleagues, as the object of conquest.
You're right, so what?
Life has taught me several things:
Live, not peer review, does not involve issues of principle. Why should everyone else be right? Every sentence is logical? Take care of your emotions in every paragraph? You just need to use it sometimes as a common word, sometimes as an inverted sentence, and sometimes as a metaphor. In the adult world, accuracy is a cruel way of life. Confusion, who says it's not a high IQ attitude towards life.
No matter how much I know, I will save face for others, because as long as the other person doesn't want to be convinced, you will never be able to convince him. People don't think you are right at all, but they dislike your people. Maturity is defined as expressing yourself and understanding each other's feelings.
Instead of focusing on judging right and wrong, we should focus on solving problems. If the other person does something wrong, do it right and help her solve it. There is no need to prove each other wrong and humiliate each other. For example, if a person can't cook, learn to cook, because if you really love, you can't starve to death. In life, solving problems is far more attractive than caring about right and wrong.