What's Jiao Zhongqing like?
Infatuation was a derogatory term for men at that time. At that time, women existed as vassals of men, and men divorced and married their wives just like changing clothes. Jiao's mother cried and advised her son, "Be careful not to die for a woman. You can see the social atmosphere at that time." Since ancient times, "infatuated woman's heart is broken" has become a statute. It seems natural that a man's infatuation can only be exchanged for the contempt of others, which shows that he is immersed in love and has no ambition. Jiao Zhongqing is Liu Lanzhi.
Think of it as a true and equal person. "It's my luck to get this woman back", and the slim career makes Jiao Zhongqing cherish the love with Liu Lanzhi even more. Although Jiao's mother is being sent to seduce her boss's daughter who is "elegant" and "pitiful", she obviously disdains "life and death" and tells Zicheng. In Jiao Zhongqing's mind, no one can replace Liu Lanzhi. Only from this point of view, Jiao Zhongqing was obviously rebellious in that autocratic era.
Secondly, Jiao Zhongqing's Dilemma accuses Jiao Zhongqing of being "weak" and "not so rigid", which obviously ignores that Jiao Zhongqing's opposite is the mother who raised him. Between Liu Lanzhi and Jiao Mu, between love and affection, Jiao Zhongqing could not make a choice. Because these two women are inseparable in his life, but fate forced him to choose only one. For everyone, there is no difference between love and affection. Many people accuse Jiao Zhongqing of not taking Liu Lanzhi's side in the conflict between Liu Lanzhi and Jiaomu. In fact, we put ourselves in Jiao Zhongqing's shoes. Can Jiao Zhongqing leave Liu Lanzhi and drive away his mother? Jiao Zhongqing also fiercely defended Liu Lanzhi: "Women's behavior is not biased, why not thick?" . This is actually blaming his mother from Liu Lanzhi's standpoint and firmly saying, "If this woman is sent away today, she will never marry again." . Just because Jiao Zhongqing's words triggered the authority of Jiao Mu, Jiao Mu was "angry on the mallet bed" and accused Jiao Zhongqing of "daring to help her". Therefore, at this time, it may be the only option for Liu Lanzhi to return to her family temporarily. In Jiao Zhongqing's view, Liu Lanzhi's return to her family is only a temporary expedient. He hopes that time can resolve the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
As for Liu Lanzhi's forced remarriage after she returned to her family, it can't be blamed on Jiao Zhongqing. Lu You, a great poet, divorced his wife Tang Wan under the pressure of his mother. His inner pain can only be expressed by poetry. "East wind evil, thin sense of joy, melancholy mood, not seen for several years!" No! No! ""The setting sun on the city draws a sad angle, the Shen Garden is not a revival pool platform, and the spring waves under the sad bridge are green. It used to be a stunning photo "(Shen Yuan). Lu You and Jiao Zhongqing have similar emotional experiences, but why didn't anyone accuse Lu You of being "weak" and "inflexible"?
Third, the choice between life and death.
William shakespeare's Hamlet once said, "To be or not to be, that is a question." The same problem has become an inextricable knot in Jiao Zhongqing's mind. We must note that death was first put forward by Jiao Zhongqing. When Jiao Zhongqing heard the news of Liu Lanzhi's remarriage, he came to bid farewell to Liu Lanzhi in despair. "He Qing has gone up. The rock is square and thick, and it can die for thousands of years. Puwei had a hard time, overnight. Qing Shengri, I went to the grave alone. " The former vows of eternal love, like a yellow leaf, fell into Jiao Zhongqing's cold heart, which is why he has no reason to yell at Liu Lanzhi. "I Go to the Grave Alone" proves that Jiao Zhongqing has the idea of dying at this time. It was under the accusation of Jiao Zhongqing that Liu Lanzhi, who was still hesitating, decided to die and "meet in the grave". When Liu Lanzhi resolutely jumped into the pool, the question of "to be or not to be" was put before Jiao Zhongqing. For Jiao Zhongqing, he should live, and he must live, because he is the pillar of his mother, but it is meaningless to live without Liu Lanzhi.