Please use the four questions about filial piety in the Analects to appreciate the Analects! ! !
Confucius said that filial piety means not disobeying.
Meng probably didn't understand Confucius and didn't answer. In short, this conversation is over. He didn't answer, and Confucius couldn't pour out the rest. So he must find another place to talk, and then he can spread the news. "Fan Chi Imperial", Fan Chi drove Confucius, and Confucius chatted with Fan Chi.
Confucius said to me, "The teacher asked me about filial piety, and I told him that filial piety is inviolable."
Fan Chi asked, "What do you mean, sir?"
Confucius said, "When your parents are here, you should be polite. When parents die, they will be given a gift. The annual sacrifice does not violate etiquette. This is filial piety. "
Confucius here mainly refers to funeral and sacrifice. If it is too brief, it is unfilial. If you go too far, you will trap your parents in disloyalty and injustice, which is also unfilial.
"Meng" is one of Dr. Lu San and the ancestor stone. He asked Confucius what filial piety was. Confucius' answer was originally aimed at him, because the "three schools" were all doctors. At that time, the funeral ceremonies of the three schools were often surpassed, sometimes it was a gift from Duke Lu, and sometimes even a gift from the son of heaven. This is unfilial and chaotic, which led to the rebellion in Lu.
Second, ask Xiao Meng.
Meng, the son of the last Meng, also came to ask Confucius what filial piety was.
Confucius said that parents only need to worry about your illness. It means that filial piety is to be able to be yourself and not let your parents worry about you. It's just that this disease is inevitable occasionally, but only when you are sick, your parents worry about you and nothing else is needed.
Today, you don't have to worry about your parents when you work, get married and buy a house, not to mention your bad habits and drugs. You can rest assured of everything, and worry about it when you are sick at most. To do this, you don't have to do anything for your parents. You have been very filial.
Third, Ziyou asks filial piety.
Ziyou, surnamed Yan, named Yan, Ziyou, one of the "Ten Confucius", was a native of Wu. Confucius praised him: "There is a depression in front of my house, and there is a south road in my house." In other words, with Ziyou, Confucius' theory can spread in the south.
Confucius said, "Today's dutiful son means that he can provide food, clothing, housing and transportation for his parents, which is also filial piety. Can't dogs and horses support the elderly and feed their offspring at the same time? If there is no respect, just raising it, what is the difference with dogs and horses? "
This is the origin of the word "filial piety" If there is filial piety, there must be respect first, respect in the heart, and filial piety in action.
So don't just send money to your parents as filial piety. You should be able to support them and respect them. Young people think they know more than the elderly, look down on the elderly, and it is unfilial to have no respect and respect.
Fourth, Xia Zi demanded filial piety.
His surname is Bu, a famous businessman, and he is one of the "Ten Confucius".
Confucius said that the hardest thing is the face! Always keep a happy expression. There are things that young people rush to do and don't let the elderly work hard. If there is wine and vegetables, provide them to the elderly first and let them eat first. Is this filial piety?
This doesn't count. Book of rites? "Sacrifice one's life for righteousness" says: "A dutiful son who loves deeply must be kind, and if he is kind, he will be happy, and if he is happy, he will be kind." A dutiful son who loves his parents deeply must first have a gentle attitude. If he is gentle, he will be kind to his parents. If he is kind, he will show a sincere smile to his parents.
Therefore, parents' faces are also emitted from the inside out, and their demeanor must be from the heart. When I face my parents, I smile with a bad face, and when I turn around, I feel disgusted: It's really troublesome. This is unacceptable, disrespectful and unfilial.
Extended data:
On Confucius' Teaching Students in Accordance with Their aptitude from "Asking Filial Piety"
When Meng asked about filial piety, his parents were already dead, so it was impossible to be filial at their parents' knees. Therefore, Confucius mainly talked about filial piety from what parents should do after death, so he got the answer of "burying them with ceremony and offering them with ceremony". As a doctor, Meng openly attacked Lu and forced him to flee, which obviously violated the ceremony of the monarch and the minister.
Therefore, we have reason to believe that the reason why Confucius emphasized "courtesy" to Meng alone on the issue of filial piety is probably to use this pun to warn Meng to act according to etiquette, which is insurmountable, so is the father and son, and so is the monarch and the minister. It is not difficult to see that Confucius' teaching students in accordance with their aptitude is not limited to "teaching" on the basis of facts, and sometimes he can express his political stance and thoughts.
Meng, the son of Meng, is said to be extravagant, dissolute and immoral, and has many unjust acts. Until today, it still has the notoriety of "breaking your word and getting fat". Therefore, regarding his filial piety, Confucius replied: "Parents only worry about their own illness", that is, parents have nothing to worry about except their health. This is filial piety.
Meng was called a "martial artist" by posthumous title. He must have been brave and enterprising before his death, and there should be no diseases that his parents need to worry too much about physically. But in other aspects, such as virtue and reputation, does he need his parents to worry about? This requires Meng to reflect.