What should parents pay attention to when they go to their children's homes to look after their grandchildren?

On the one hand, it is natural for grandparents to take care of their grandchildren, because of family ties; On the other hand, children generally don't go to work for a long time, so it is difficult to afford a nanny. Moreover, caring for children who are not affectionate enough is not good for their growth in all aspects. Therefore, it is still the main mode for grandparents to look after their grandchildren.

So, what should I pay attention to when I go to my children's house to look after my grandchildren?

First, pay attention to the change of identity. You used to be the head of the family, but now you are the helper of the family. One of my colleagues has profound experience and incisive exposition. She said, "Parents' home is children's home, but children's home is not parents' home". This sounds a bit harsh or cruel, but it is quite normal to think calmly and rationally.

So parents must pay attention to the change of identity, don't make decisions, just make suggestions. The new place and new cultural environment are unfamiliar to parents, which objectively requires you to be a participant and helper.

Second, looking after grandchildren, the most important thing is safety.

There are many safety problems involving children, so always put safety first everywhere. Burns, falls and swallowing foreign bodies are all very easy accidents, which need to be carefully guarded. Falling from a building and drowning are absolutely avoided. Once a child has serious safety problems, the harm to the family and the mental blow to the ancestors are unimaginable!

Third, don't make two mistakes in the education and training of children.

First, it is the most common phenomenon that love becomes doting. It's hard to tell the truth without telling it. Every generation should, but it is not good to kiss too much. It is the most common phenomenon that children say whatever they want and give whatever they want without any criticism. What's more, they act as umbrellas and safe havens, which often make parents feel embarrassed and helpless. Children are not only not well educated, but also will not be recognized by their parents. It can be said that they can kill two birds with one stone

The other is too much preaching and too strict discipline, which is a special case. This situation often happens to older people with strong parental style, which parents of children are even more unwilling to see. Too much preaching and demanding may make children more disciplined and obedient, but it may not be conducive to the cultivation of innovative ability. Regardless of the current situation of children's parents, they have the highest expectations for their children, paying special attention to the performance and effectiveness in the process. It is unwise to do what children are unhappy at the moment.

Fourth, learn more new things and try to keep up with the trend of the times.

This is what parents most want to see. It is more convenient to communicate with their children and more capital to educate their grandchildren. For example, Putonghua must be mastered, otherwise the language foundation will be broken, which is very unfavorable for children's future enrollment and study; For another example, more knowledge of literature and natural science will be very beneficial to children's intellectual development.

Taking care of children is an important and not easy task, which can only be completed with your best efforts and intentions.