Parents are their greatest feng shui.
Family is created by father and mother. Father's pattern and mother's mood determine the feng shui of the family.
There has always been a saying that unhappy families have their own misfortunes, but happy families are always similar, so if you want to be happy, you can definitely start with some characteristics of happy families to make your life happier and full of vitality every day.
1, the father's pattern determines the direction of the family. The so-called pattern, "case" is character, "bureau" is vision and mind. As the locomotive of the family train, the father's noble character and broad mind can ensure that there is no problem in the development direction of the family.
During the period of the Republic of China, Zhang Wuling was regarded as an "alien" among the noble children of noble birth: he hated gambling, didn't smoke and didn't drink at all, but he loved reading since childhood and was keen on running public welfare schools all his life.
Zhang Wuling has ten children. Look at their names carefully, they are all very particular. The four daughters are: Yuanhe, Yunhe, Zhao He and Chonghe; The later six sons were: Zonghe, Yinhe, Dinghe, Yu He, He Huan and Ninghe.
Girls' names not only have no lingering charm of flowers and plants, but also have two slender "legs" because their father wants them to go out of the boudoir and go to the world; The boy's name has a hijab, which is the hope of inheriting the family business, and it is also the father's hope that they will remember home no matter how far they go.
In that feudal era, he hoped that boys must have a home in their hearts, while girls must have a broad heart. Its realm and pattern can be seen.
No wonder Ye Shengtao said, "If you are a talented woman in Jiuru Lane, you will be happy all your life."
Later, the four daughters were married to Gu Chuanjun, a famous linguist Zhou Youguang, a famous writer Shen Congwen and a famous sinologist Hans Hermannt Frankel. Liu Zi is also outstanding, connecting China and the West, which has made a story in China's modern history.
People with big minds can have a big pattern; Only people with a big pattern can become a big climate. This point, China's Chinese characters have long been subtly interpreted: people standing on the mountain have a long-term vision, so they are "immortal" people; People standing in the valley have limited horizons, so they are "vulgar" people.
Father has a big pattern, and he doesn't necessarily seek prosperity. The pattern is also reflected in his attitude towards life and openness to adversity. Think of a touching article "Bring a Smile Home":
A poor family in rural areas, whose children got a poor grade of 1 point, had to pay a school selection fee of 8,000 yuan. The mother and son were worried, but the father brought worse news: "I was laid off." But when my father said this, he was laughing.
The old and frail father ran into a wall when looking for a job, but every day when he came home, his mother asked him about his situation, and he smiled and replied, "Almost." Suddenly one day, my father changed his mind and said, "I will go to work tomorrow!" " "This time, he smiled more happily.
My father started working in the only tricycle in the family, but he was accidentally injured while carrying goods. When I got home, my father still smiled and even said "nothing, nothing" ...
In the end, the family saved their tuition by their father's tricycle. The child was also infected by his father. During high school, he made up his mind to study hard and was admitted to a prestigious school.
Around us, too many families have good economic conditions, but they are often filled with smoke because of their children's temporary achievements and some difficulties in life. But this poor father can keep calm in a crisis and be optimistic. "If you want to be a big tree, don't fight for grass" is a rare model.
No matter where you are, you can't limit your inner broadmindedness, especially for men.
Only when the father has the overall situation can the wife have the determination to remain calm and the children have the motivation to go forward bravely. And all this is the strength accumulated by a family for its future prosperity.
2. The mother's mood determines the temperature of the family. If the father plays the role of helmsman and leader in the family, then the mother is the regulator and oxygen supply machine of the family. Hu Shi wrote in the article My Mother, "My mother is generous, good-natured, kind and gentle, and has never said anything that hurts people's feelings".
When I was a child, Hu's family declined. Every New Year's Eve, a large group of debt collectors go home, each holding a lantern and refusing to leave in the hall. Brother Hu Shi has already avoided it. Mother walked around, cooking New Year's Eve dinner, thanking Kitchen God, lucky money and other things, without a trace of resentment on her face, as if she had not seen this group of people.
In the middle of the night, my mother went out the back door, invited a neighbor to her house, gave everyone who was in debt a little money, and happily sent away the debt collectors. After a while, big brother knocked at the door and came back. Mother never scolded him. And because it was New Year's Day, her face never showed any anger. Hu Shi recalled that in the past six or seven years, the Chinese New Year has been like this.
Eldest sister-in-law is not sensible and second sister-in-law is narrow-minded, but Hu Shi's mother never quarrels with second sister-in-law. "They often quarrel, but because of my mother's good example, they never publicly scold each other."
The kindness of a mother does not mean that she indulges and dotes on her children without principles. On the contrary, her mother has the strictest control over Hu Shi. She is a loving mother and a strict father, but she never scolds him in front of others. If she hits him, she will punish the child and be reasonable. No matter how heavy the punishment is, she won't allow her son to cry because she didn't teach him to vent his anger and let others listen.
Finally, Hu Shi wrote: "If I learn a little good temper, if I learn a little kindness to others, if I can forgive and understand-I have to thank my loving mother."
Ms. Hong Lan, a doctor of psychology in Taiwan Province Province and an expert in brain science, explained from a scientific point of view with her own research report on men's and women's brains: from the perspective of human evolution, women's emotional energy far exceeds that of men, and their mothers are the soul of the family, and their mothers are happy and anxious.
Therefore, when you educate a boy, you only educate a boy; But when you educate a girl, you educate the whole family and the next generation.
Liao Yimei, a famous screenwriter, said: "I don't think a good wife must do housework, so I can't cook, but I am confident that what I give to my family is more important than cooking."
Today, my son is cheerful and optimistic, and his goal in life is happiness. Liao Yimei said: "I told my son that this goal is good, and I am very proud of it. I feel that osmosis is good for me and Lao Meng (husband Meng Jinghui). "
3. Family harmony is the highest realm of practice. "Whether it is a king or a farmer, family harmony is the happiest." Father does, mother Kun. The combination of dry and Kun is infinite in beauty. Father has direction, mother has temperature, and a family's fortune is bound to be smooth sailing.
A family's good feng shui and good fortune are the blessings cultivated by all family members. It is inseparable from a stable and open-minded father, a gentle and considerate mother, a good relationship between husband and wife and a harmonious and happy family atmosphere.
Everyone is a good family, never falling out in the dark, and ill feelings are frequent; It's a group of people moving in the same direction. Walking together is fate, and walking together is happiness.
Father's general pattern and mother's good mood are the best feng shui for a home.
A prosperous family needs a father's overall pattern and a mother's good mood. If home is a house, filial piety is the foundation, diligence is the beam and forgiveness is the roof. Without filial piety, families will be uneasy; Without diligence, the family will decline; Without forgiveness, families will be separated.
These three points are indispensable for a family's peace and prosperity, and a family's fortune is hidden in these three points.
"Filial piety is the first of all virtues" and "filial piety" is the foundation of being a man. If a person can't even be grateful to his parents, what noble character can you expect from him? Filial piety is the first of all virtues. In the concept of China people, any moral defect can be traced back to filial piety.
Filial piety is like the number 1. Without this "1", it doesn't make sense to add any zeros after it.
One of the "eight virtues" put forward by Zeng Guofan is "filial piety", and Zeng Guofan regards filial piety as very important. When he was an official in Beijing, he always wrote back from time to time to tell his parents about himself, and the content was very detailed, even to the scene of gathering with friends, so that his parents in his hometown could rest assured.
Under the influence of the Zeng family style, the vast majority of the Zeng family are filial people, and their families have become peaceful because of filial piety.
Zeng Guofan's wife Ouyang Shi was blind in her later years, and her daughter-in-law Guo Jun had to serve for three years. Children should be filial and grateful first.
As the main body of a family, parents have raised the next generation with selfless love, supported the heavy responsibility of the family with generous shoulders, and managed a complex home with hard hands.
We enjoy the care of our parents, but seldom think of repaying them, and even take this care of our parents for granted. Filial piety should be considerate and heartfelt.
Don't take filial piety as a burden, but as a responsibility that doesn't need a reason. Don't treat filial piety as empty talk, but put it into practice in every bit of life.
On weekdays, the phone is caring and attentive, and the company in free time is the best "filial piety". Filial piety is to add happiness to the family.
Without Zeng Guofan, there would be no glory of Zeng's family. It was his diligence that made Zeng Guofan successful. Zeng Guofan's life is a life of "taking his own flesh as a candle, cutting off two sections and four endpoints, igniting four flames, and rushing on the stone road leading to the bull".
Diligence is the first essence of life. People must be diligent if they want to live a down-to-earth, stable and peaceful life. If a person develops the weakness of laziness, more shortcomings and problems will follow.
Many people complain about social injustice, hate their untimely birth, give themselves various reasons to kill their will, and do not work hard to give up on themselves, and in the end they can only accomplish nothing.
Zeng Guofan believes that although the fortunes are determined by heaven, diligence and hard work can change the fate of themselves and their families. If you work harder, you will gain more.
There must be a pair of hardworking hands at home. Only by working hard can we get the meaning of life, the guarantee of life and the prosperity of the family. If a family is lazy and slack, even if it has Jinshan Yinshan, there will be a day when it is empty.
Zi Gong asked Confucius: Just tell me a word and learn it well, so that I can benefit for life. Confucius said: If there is such a word, it is "forgiveness".
Everyone has his own personality, and in the process of getting along with others, we should understand each other, not blame. If a family wants peace and prosperity, it also needs mutual understanding between families. In life, we often leave tolerance to others, but leave the most hurtful words to our closest relatives.
Don't be too impulsive when you get along with your family. Don't always blame your family for the trivial things in life. Treat the unintentional mistakes of relatives with a tolerant heart.
Family is not a place for reasonable argument. What is needed here is mutual respect and understanding. You may not understand or agree with some of your parents' thoughts and performances, but you can't totally deny them. If the child has any problems, please communicate politely and don't get angry in a hurry.
Goodness is greater than forgiveness, and virtue is greater than jealousy. The younger generation is filial to the older generation, and the older generation understands the younger generation. Everyone understands each other and has something to say. Why can't such a family flourish?
We should be filial, diligent and tolerant, keep filial piety, diligence and tolerance in mind, and repair happiness for our families with actions to make them safe and prosperous.