Parents are the Feng Shui of the home, and good Feng Shui will lead to good children.
? Only good parents, good education, good family tradition and good living habits can educate good children. Parents do not look at the level of education, but their own words, deeds, and cultivation. Affects my own children
? Yesterday, after hearing a friend from afar tell the story of a teacher and his wife in their village, I felt like life was a joke to them, but it is worthy of people or as parents. While thinking deeply and taking warning, I was also surprised by the cultivation that this couple should have as teachers.
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It is said that there is a primary school teacher couple in their village. They have been teachers all their lives and have educated other people’s children well. However, they have not taught their own children well. They have worked hard to raise them. There are four children. The eldest daughter is shrewd, unreasonable and unfilial. She married from another province and made a lot of noise in her husband’s family. Later she returned to her parents’ city to live until now. All the children grew up with the help of their parents. Until now, the biological mother has left the family behind and often takes care of their children. The second daughter is also ordinary. Now she is married for the second time and has a child with her first husband. The husband's family does not care about the child after she is born and just takes care of the child. I returned to my parents' family until the child was 10 years old. The parents took the child and raised him until he was 10 years old. Later, he was taken away by the child's grandparents unconditionally. They found a grandson for free and raised a third daughter. The family was average and quiet. , he didn’t take care of his parents’ family and didn’t disturb his parents’ family too much. This was considered to be worry-free and filial. Even if he couldn’t help his parents’ family, at least he wouldn’t cause so much trouble to his parents. The fourth son was even more speechless. , has a timid and cowardly character, is lazy and thin, and is still sucking blood at the age of 35. My parents are responsible for everything at home. After marriage, they have nothing to do. They don’t have anything they want, and their living habits are in a mess. The wife he chose was a good one, but because of the way his son was, he felt a lot of grievances.
Since ancient times, there have been families of intellectuals, and their children are not far behind. Each of them is at least well-educated. However, this family broke people's usual understanding. Later I learned that After knowing how parents get along with each other, it is no wonder that they cannot teach good children. As a teacher, they have lost the image of a teacher and the admiration and respect that people have for teachers.
? I heard that the father of the children, while not caring about his wife, is also a male chauvinist. He does not understand and feel sorry for his wife. He and his wife are very clear about each other and care about each other. The father is very special in dealing with people. Poor, he often offends people by not paying attention to what he does and saying. He speaks loudly and expresses his words poorly and inappropriately. Therefore, he often speaks without listening and offends people everywhere. The details of his life are even worse. He eats loudly and in a hurry. Fast, there is no sitting posture, and eating with him is very noisy and hard. It takes an hour to prepare a meal, and he eats at the table for a minute or two. Every day, except for eating, he can sit on the stool for a few minutes. He usually holds his mobile phone. I lie in bed and watch videos, I have to go to the door to ask for food, and my words are either harsh or yelling. It doesn't matter whether I'm talking to my wife, my children, or my grandchildren, so I don't feel any moral character at all, and my relationship in the village is also very poor, basically no The relationship with neighbors, even among relatives, is as bad as enemies. There are no friends or relatives. In addition to going out to play cards every day, when I get home, I just lie on the bed with the door closed. I look like a woman in confinement, not so much a man. , it would be better to say that she behaves more like a woman, who lives a lazy life, loses her fighting spirit, and is depressed. I heard that her father is not a bad person, and is honest and sincere to people. Center, do not consider other people's feelings and do not accept other people's opinions.
After hearing this, I felt that a father is pitiful and lonely. You said that you don’t even have any relatives or friends of your own when you are old. Apart from going out to play cards every day, you just lie in bed and use your cell phone. The company, the loneliness and helplessness in the heart are heart-wrenching. You say that the child is not living up to expectations and not considerate. It is warm and good to be of the same mind as your wife and cling to each other, but the relationship with your wife is even more frosty.
? Speaking of their mothers, they have strong personalities, small minds, and are particularly stingy. They yell and have a sullen face when doing anything at home, especially when they often quarrel with their husbands. They yell at each other, they never cook at home, they don’t even know how to grow vegetables, they spend the whole day either on mobile phones or chanting Buddha’s name, and they go to their mother’s house and daughter’s house every three days. My own children are not equal in a bowl of water, especially the meddlesome and aggressive eldest daughter. But I heard that they have the same personality and preferences, so they are very compatible. Everything is good, and everything is bad in her eyes. No longer like that, so I often don’t distinguish between right and wrong, make trouble over nothing, make the house a mess, often make noises over trivial matters, and there is no warmth and happiness at home.
? I heard that since my son took a daughter-in-law After that, my daughter-in-law took care of all the housework in the family. No matter how pregnant she was, she never had a rest at night. Fortunately, my son’s daughter-in-law was hard-working, kind, smart and sensible. She worked hard every day to serve the whole family and endured their misfortune. She is a lazy and speechless son. In the past few years, I heard that she has suffered a lot of grievances and shed a lot of tears. Perhaps she struggled to give up many times, struggled on the edge of collapse many times, and every time If she had to endure it to the edge of madness, she would go back to her parents' home to take a breather. If her parents didn't educate her well since she was a child, this family would really go crazy when faced with these people.
A friend often got along with her. She once heard her say that she could not tolerate and tolerate such a family. She felt helpless and tortured. Thinking of her own children, she still chose to tolerate and constantly improve herself. Faced with such a family environment. I heard that she is a motivated woman with very good hobbies. She often runs, reads, and plays music. She keeps her home and outside very clean. Neighbors say that she is a good wife, a simple, simple and generous girl, despite the living habits of her parents-in-law. , she has never had a quarrel with the old man and is always tolerant and understanding. No matter how good she is, it takes courage to live in such an environment every day.
? It is said that poor people must be hateful. What kind of virtue they have, the children they teach will also be the same. The incompetence of their children is due to the incompetence and fault of their parents. You cannot speak of your own virtue. How can you educate your children well if you don’t pay attention to self-cultivation? Such parents are sometimes pitiful and hateful. What’s pitiable is that their children cannot be filial and worry-free when they are old. What a hateful thing. The children they teach bring harm to other families. The daughters who are not well-educated get married. If you go out, other people's sons and their families will be harmed. If you don't teach your son well, you will take other people's daughters, and you will suffer and harm other people's daughters for the rest of their lives.
When I heard what my friend said, I felt shuddering. This may be the so-called raising but not teaching. Parents like this, who are still teachers, have such poor temperament and cultivation, which really violates their status as teachers. .
? Sometimes I deeply sympathize with their children. Having parents like them is really unfortunate and a trap for their children. The fact is that parents who fail to educate their children, and parents who cause harm to their children, are cheating each other.
? Don’t blame the child for not living up to expectations, just blame yourself for the wrong model. The child is a copy of the parents, and the original version is the same. Will the printed things change?
? Sometimes if a child is not outstanding, it must be because he does not have outstanding parents. Just like this, parents are teachers in the village, but they are disliked and behave so poorly. How can their children survive in this way? The soul of the village said that they are ignorant. I think it is more selfish. They have not considered the next generation. As others said, their son was pampered since he was a child and was born short and thin. He was not allowed to study hard and find a good job. Work, he let him give up his studies at the age of twenty, and now he is an adult, without a job, and afraid of hardship. You think it is the son's fault, or the parents' fault.
Good parents do not fish for their children to eat, but teach them how to fish and be independent, consider their children's future, and do not let their children do whatever they want.
Poor parents are also poor children, so parents are the feng shui of the family. If the parents do not do well and the family tradition is not good, it will be difficult to teach outstanding children.