What are the customs of marriage in Xin 'an County, Luoyang?
(1) discussing marriage
In Luoyang, western Henan, a matchmaker is usually found for the man's family, and the matchmaker is invited to propose marriage to the woman's family and introduce the man's basic situation and economic situation to the woman's family. After the woman's family is satisfied, the woman's parents go to the man's "hometown". After marriage is generally agreed, the matchmaker and both parents will hold a banquet at the man's house. After the banquet, both men and women will solemnly exchange birthday stickers, and men and women will respect each other, raise a glass and celebrate together, and get married forever.
(2) Engagement
That is, Naji and Zheng Na in ancient times. After a good omen, a matchmaker is sent to a woman's house to exchange invitations. First, exchange "Geng Tie". In addition, the man will also give the woman a bride price, commonly known as the "four-color gift", mostly clothes and snacks used by the woman. The woman gave pen and ink, stationery and folding fans to the man, hoping to become a gifted scholar.
(3) Marriage
Usually we have to go through the process of posting, giving gifts, sending wedding dresses and getting married.
Post it. Also known as "sending kindness". That is, after the two parties reach the age of marriage, the man should ask someone to choose the wedding date (commonly known as "good day"), and then write the selected auspicious day (good day) in the "book" and tell the woman this auspicious day so that she can prepare for the wedding. If the woman agrees, she can accept the letter of appointment. Luoyang people often choose "auspicious day of the zodiac" or the 3rd, 6th and 9th day of the lunar calendar for their wedding.
Gift. Half a month or ten days before the wedding, the man must give the bride a bride price, including clothes, shoes and socks, suits, cosmetics, jewelry, meat, snacks, pasta and so on.
Prepare a dowry. Preparing dowry is the main thing for a woman before marriage, which has always been valued by people. The amount of dowry often determines the future bride's position in her husband's family. The woman with good family economic conditions prepares a rich and complete dowry, and the man with poor economic conditions carries it to the woman's house before marriage and carries it back on the wedding day. There are also cases where the man pays the woman to buy it.
Dowry is given on the day before or on the wedding day. Before the dowry, the man gave a plate of meat rice, commonly known as "leaving the mother's rice and leaving the mother's meat." When the dowry is carried to the husband's house, the makeup artist will give the key to the groom's mother.
Prepare a new house. The night before the wedding, the woman chosen by the man's family made the bed for the bride, and sprinkled peanuts, chestnuts, ginkgo, walnuts, red dates and other things on the bed, symbolizing the birth of a baby and the "flowering" of a man and a woman. The husband and wife's bedding, the man must let both sides have children and the husband and wife's woman sew with red thread, and the number of quilts is even. That night, the healthy boy of the man's close relatives will sleep in the new bed, commonly known as "pressing the bed", which means that the bride will soon give birth to a fat boy.
Get married. On the morning of the wedding, the bride dressed up and waited for the man to get married. The bride got into the sedan chair and couldn't land on her feet. The groom will pick her up and put her in a sedan chair. The wedding team will set off on the road with the accompaniment of the band, and the wedding will not take the same route back and forth. Whenever the sedan chair arrives at intersections, big trees, dry wells and ancient temples, firecrackers should be set off to ward off evil spirits.
When the car arrives at the door of the man's house, the man's house will set off firecrackers immediately. With the help of the hostess, the bride stepped on the red carpet and entered the door. The man sprinkled hay, colored paper and sugar, peanuts, dates, copper coins and other things on the bride, and the children earned it to express their excitement. Then a ceremony was held: a couple worshiped heaven and earth, two parents and three husband and wife, and then the bride was sent to the bridal chamber. The ceremony must be held before noon 12, and it is considered unlucky after noon 12.
Noisy Rooms According to the custom, three nights before the wedding, the whole village, old and young, regardless of generation, will gather in the bride's room to make trouble in the bridal chamber, so as to increase the atmosphere of the wedding. As the saying goes, "three days, big or small." But when the elders are more disciplined, they just look and smile to create an atmosphere. The craziest people are mainly the brothers and sisters in the neighborhood. When the new wife is most worried about the trouble in the bridal chamber, the timid and cowardly will often be frightened, and make psychological preparations a few days in advance.
The listening room is "auditory". After the dead of night, the newlyweds will blow out the lights and have a rest. The most secret and exciting thing is the excitement and shy behavior on the wedding night. Those little brothers who have never been married always ask about three or five people to hide under the window behind the house and eavesdrop.
Back to the door. The day after marriage is the day when the parents of the new wife visit their daughter. The bride's family brought four-color gifts to the man's family, and the man's family gave a banquet to entertain the gifts. On the third day after marriage, it is the day when the newly married wife goes home. This morning, the groom accompanied the bride back to her family.