How do champions get married?
If every champion goes to be Xu, why are there so many princesses? Therefore, even the top scholar usually follows the six etiquette of ancient weddings-"receiving gifts", "asking names", "concubinage", "receiving gifts", "inviting parties" and "welcoming relatives". To get married
I don't know Cai
Commonly known as marriage negotiation or matchmaking, please ask the matchmaker to go to the woman's place to find out her mind and see if there is any hope of success in this marriage. When a matchmaker proposes marriage to a woman's family, he usually takes a live goose as a gift to symbolize loyalty.
Ask. name
Ask the name: commonly known as "eight-character combination", the matchmaker first sends the woman's eight-character wedding card to the man's house, which reads the date and time of her birth. The man must put it on his ancestors' box for a few days. If everything is safe at home these days, the man's character will be sent to the woman's house. Within three days after the woman accepts the male constellation, she will burn incense in front of the Buddha at home every morning and evening. In these days, if anything ominous happens in a man's or woman's home, such as theft, damage to goods, or family illness, then marriage will be impossible.
gina
Also known as Xiaoding or Wen Ding, that is, engagement. If you get a good omen after asking the name, the man will ask the matchmaker to give a gift to the woman's home and inform her to fix the marriage. At the same time, the man will choose an auspicious day to go to the woman's house and give the bride a gold ring.
I don't know a surname
Commonly known as the big engagement or the end of the engagement, the man chose an auspicious day to hold an engagement ceremony at the woman's house. Recruitment usually takes place within ten days to one month before the wedding. Besides preparing the bride price, there are 62 gifts. The names of the bride price all have auspicious meanings, and the numbers are even, which means in pairs.
Please. period
Commonly known as date selection, the man chooses the wedding date and obtains the consent of the woman's family.
Kiss. welcome
Officially hold a wedding. Write all the characters of the couple on red paper, ask the Japanese teacher to choose the auspicious day of the ecliptic, and the matchmaker will give it to both parties for approval before holding the wedding.
Women should prepare things.
1. Egg tea: Before the bride gets on the sedan chair, invite the groom and the married person to dinner and only drink tea (eggs can be stirred with chopsticks).
2. Pig's heart: the wedding night is eaten, and when eating "pig's heart", the two will be "concentric".
3. Lead coins, lead powder, brown sugar, eggs, oranges and grains.
4. Fans: Two fans, one with a red envelope and handkerchief tied to his tail, throw it out of the car when getting off the sedan chair and let the younger siblings pick it up, commonly known as "letting go of his temper", that is, he will not bring his wayward temper to his husband's family.
5.handkerchiefs
6. Green Bamboo Sweep: A green bamboo with roots and leaves stands for "green feet", which means that the descendants of the Wenggu couple are lucky to be alive. There are "knots" in bamboo, which means that the bride has "knots". It can also mean that the bride is "newly married".
7. Sugarcane: Two sugarcane with leaves and roots, meaning "one head and one tail" and "endless". (The reward of mothering is now brought back on the wedding day)
8. Charcoal: "Charcoal" is the same as "Zhuo", which means "reproduction" and "many children and grandchildren".
9. Fire cage: one.
10. Taro: It means "rooting".
1 1. Lotus plantain flower: meaning "Lian Zhao Er".
12. Pomegranate: Pomegranate means "many children and grandchildren" because of its many seeds.
13. Osmanthus fragrans: It means "early birth".
14. cock: a cock and a hen (or a pair), about two or three months old, as gifts for the first transfer (mothering). Bring back the modern wedding custom on the wedding day, or use plastic chicken instead.
15. Descendants' Bucket: Also known as "Tail Bear" (because it is at the back of the wedding procession), it is three kinds of red barrels (jiaozi Bucket, Sobbing Bucket, Baby Bucket), plus the bride's toiletries and a red envelope, wrapped in red cloth. Those who choose their children and grandchildren's buckets must be "rich, expensive, talented, childlike and long-lived", that is, "Wanfu" people. Widowed people are not allowed to be employed, otherwise the new couple will be unlucky.
16. Uncle Lantern: A pair of red palace lanterns, also known as "bride lanterns".
17. Red circle: even number (as a gift for mothering, now bring it back on the wedding day)
18. rice cake: a gift for my mother, now brought back on the wedding day.
Men should prepare articles (due to different local customs, the following articles are for reference only)
1. Bagua rice screen or black umbrella: It is used to ward off evil spirits, and it is used by the bride and groom to cover their heads when getting on and off the sedan chair. If the bride is pregnant, she should use a black umbrella to avoid miscarriage.
2. Sedan jiaozi or Apple: Twelve glutinous rice dumplings (about a catty each), or twelve apples. (The woman can only accept six tablets)
3. Pig leg: half a pig or hind leg for the woman to sacrifice. (The woman only accepts parts other than bones)
4. Whole chicken: a sacrifice for a woman.
5. Fresh fish: fish sacrificed by women.
6. Six red envelope gifts: opening ceremony, uncle's gift, eating old people's gift, holding face, combing hair and pressing skirt. In addition, prepare a number of red envelopes with different amounts in case of emergency.
7. Pig's foot noodle line: also known as "dish-making ceremony", it is to thank the groom and mother-in-law for their kindness to his wife.
8. Red eggs: several, even. After the woman accepts it, she must wrap every two red eggs in red paper and give them to the man's marriage seeker.
9. Happy flowers: the first flower (spring flower)-for the woman's female elders to insert in her head.
10. corsage-flowers, sponges or ribbons can be inserted on the chest or waist, with men left and women right, men wearing red and women wearing pink.
1 1. Holding flowers-it is appropriate to match the dress, hairstyle and color to set off the overall beauty.
12. Tiles, ovens, charcoal or sandalwood or jasmine grass: it means "carrying on the family line". After getting off the sedan chair, the bride must cross the oven (burning charcoal or sandalwood or jasmine grass) and break the tiles, which are called "raw charcoal" and "broken tiles".
13. tangerines: two, circled with red paper, for the sedan chair.
14. Tangyuan: When the man sacrifices; When the bride and groom enter the room, they must eat "jiaozi Soup" (the bride's jiaozi) and invite relatives, friends and neighbors to share the joy.
15. Eight Immortals or Red Cloth: Hanging in the main entrance of the main hall.
16. Yi Xi: Hanging on the door of the bridal chamber.
17. gifts for bride tea: gifts for relatives and friends who eat bride tea, such as handkerchiefs, soap, wallets, underwear, etc. My father-in-law is a ring, and my mother-in-law is Jin Chai.
18. Marriage certificate and seal: watch the ceremony and prepare two marriage certificates and seals (husband, wife, witness, introducer, groom and bride).
19. firecrackers: four strings, starting from the wedding ceremony, the wedding ceremony and the banquet.
20. firecrackers: the leading car must be set off at all intersections and bridges along the road before it reaches the woman's house and the man's house.
2 1. 12 post (Zhang post, mother-in-law post): Generally, the groom can't invite future parents-in-law, uncle and mother-in-law, but must submit the invitation of 12 post in person according to the ceremony to show his respect.
22. Fireworks and color spraying: When the bride and groom enter the banquet hall, it can increase the atmosphere.
23. Wedding candy and cigarettes: used to send off guests after the banquet.
24. Golden gun and candle incense: used by the bride and groom to worship the church.
25. Red paper: All the mirrors in the bridal chamber must be covered with red paper, and they can only be removed after four months.
26. Car colors and ribbons
27. complimentary reading hand
28. iconic silk
29. Rules
30. thank you
Step 1 anchuang
Before the wedding, the man's parents will choose auspicious days and auspicious times according to the eight characters of both parties, which means wishing the new couple an early birth. Also, before the wedding day, you should find a boy who belongs to the big zodiac (such as dragon) to sleep with the groom's official in advance to avoid future couples sleeping alone, in order to seek marital happiness!
worship
The day before the wedding, the man will worship the heavens and the earth and tell his ancestors that the wedding will be held in order to be safe and smooth.
wedding
The groom, matchmaker and best man (six or twelve people) go to the woman's house with the car. On the way to the woman's house, the wedding motorcade set off firecrackers to celebrate.
Note: On the way to the wedding, if you meet someone else's limousine, you can set off firecrackers or exchange flowers, which can be called "Xi Chong Xi" by various matchmakers, which can resolve the ominous.
Eat sisters table
The bride has dinner with her brothers and sisters and close friends in the boudoir to show her reluctance. Everyone says something auspicious, hoping to find a good husband.
Invite the groom.
Before the wedding motorcade arrives at the bride's house, it is necessary to let her know, and the woman will also let her know. A boy is waiting to meet the groom with a tea tray full of oranges or melon seeds candy. The groom will return a red envelope in return before entering the woman's house.
Eat sweet soup
Women prepare dumplings and sweet tea for the groom and guests.
lovable
After greeting the bride's parents, the groom will hold a bouquet of flowers in the room for the bride to get married. At this time, the bride's sister or female friend should stop the groom from deliberately obstructing him and forbidding him from seeing the bride. After the groom pleads, the woman can make a condition for the groom to agree. Usually after some bargaining, he will make a deal with a red envelope of 999 yuan, which means that he will be out of the hall for a long time.
Headscarf yarn
After the groom gives the bouquet to the bride, the bride's father puts down the veil for the bride, and then the matchmaker or good-natured woman takes the bouquet out of the hall. The bride and groom face their ancestors and gods on their left, the bride's mother and uncle light incense and candles, the couple burn incense and worship in front of the gods and ancestors, and then bow to say goodbye to their parents.
Note: On the wedding day, when the bride goes out, it is not appropriate for the aunt to see her off, so she should avoid it, because "aunt" is homophonic with "orphan" and "sister-in-law" is homophonic with "sweep", which is unlucky.
go out
The bride should be covered by a female elder or matchmaker with a bamboo curtain or a black umbrella, and the sun can't be seen on her head to protect the bride's car. Because the bride's position was bigger than anyone else that day and she couldn't see the sun. On the other hand, she hopes to live a happy life like this female elder.
Step 10 fan worship
Before the bride gets on the limousine, a lucky boy in the zodiac holds a fan (put it on a tea tray) for the bride, and the bride returns a red envelope as a gift.
Step 1 1 splash water
After the bride gets on the limousine, her parents will splash a bowl of water, rice and white rice on the bride, indicating that her daughter spilled water and wishing her food and clothing.
Step 12 fan throwing
After the car starts, the bride will throw the fan out of the window, which means that she will not bring her bad temper to her husband's house, and she must cry after throwing the fan.
Note: When the bride becomes a monk, everyone should try to cry. If you don't cry, it's taboo.
Step 13 burner
The wedding motorcade will set off firecrackers on the road to announce the good news. From the woman's house to the man's house, firecrackers were set off along the way, and when they arrived at the man's house, both parties (the wedding reception team and the man's house) set off firecrackers to celebrate.
Touch an orange
When the limousine arrived, the groom got off first. The man got a red lacquer wedding tray from a boy, in which two big oranges (tangerines) were put, indicating good luck and sweetness. The bride opened the car door and invited the bride to get off. The bride gave the boy a red envelope, commonly known as "meeting the bride". These two oranges should be kept until the evening when the bride peels them herself, which will bring longevity.
Lead the bride
When the bride walks out of the limousine, a blessed elder of the man will put a bamboo curtain on his head and help her into the hall. Attention! Avoid stepping on the threshold, the threshold represents the facade, so the newcomer must not step on the threshold, but should cross it.
Note: the zodiac is a tiger, so you can't watch the ceremony and enter the new house.
Step on the tiles on the brazier.
When the bride enters the hall, she must step over the brazier and crush the tiles. The brazier is used to ward off evil spirits, and breaking tiles means that the past time is like breaking tiles.
Meet the bride
On the wedding day, the bride and groom held a ceremony to pay tribute to the bride. The two bridesmaids appeared as "Zan" and "Zan" respectively. The procedure to satisfy the bride's consciousness is as follows:
Zan: The groom is standing in front of the sedan chair.
Tong Zan: Lift the sedan chair and the couple will get up.
Praise: the groom bows (handing over the bride)
Zan: The bride and groom went straight to the front of the drawing room.
Zan: The bride and groom are in place.
Tong Zan: The bride and groom go on a pilgrimage.
Zan: Bow down and burn incense.
Tong Zan: Kneel down, kowtow, kowtow again, kowtow three times,
Then there are the three common worships in TV series: one worships heaven and earth, the other worships Gao Tang, and the husband and wife enter the bridal chamber after two worships.
Step 18 into the new house
After entering the bridal chamber, a rice screen was placed on the bed and a bronze mirror was placed on the table, which calmed the alarm. The couple sat on the chair with the groom's trousers, indicating that they would be married from now on. Then the groom lifts the bride's veil, and they raise their glasses and eat dumplings made of lotus seeds, peanuts, longan or black dates, symbolizing the early birth of your son.
Note: avoid sitting in a new bed. No one can get a new bed on the wedding day, and the bride can't lie down, so as not to be ill in bed all year round.
Step 19 ceremony and wedding banquet
Newcomers can choose to attend the ceremony at home (that is, sign the marriage certificate), or attend the ceremony at the wedding banquet if there are banquets from relatives and friends. At present, most people use the combination of Chinese and western wedding, mostly entertaining guests in the evening and holding ceremonies at the same time. At the wedding reception, the bride can take off her wedding dress and put on her evening dress, and make a toast at each table.
Seeing guests off and drinking tea
After the wedding reception, the newlyweds stood at the gate of the restaurant to see the guests off. They must thank the guests who came to the wedding reception with tea trays full of incense and candy.
Tea: Generally, after the banquet guests leave, the married relatives and friends of the man's family drink the bride's sweet tea, say auspicious words and give out red envelopes.
Step2 1 build a new house
Generally speaking, after the wedding reception, relatives and friends will come to the bridal chamber to make a scene to add to the atmosphere. The main reason for the trouble is that ancient marriages were arranged by parents, and there was no contact between men and women before marriage, and some of them had never even met, let alone understood and knew each other. Now suddenly become husband and wife, it must be very strange, with such a bridal chamber process, you can change the indifferent atmosphere, so that both husband and wife can reduce the feeling of being raw as much as possible, so that the young couple can enter a state of intimacy as soon as possible. Up to now, there is still a saying among the people that the more noisy, the happier, and the third day of marriage is no big or small.
except for...
Marriage must obey the orders of parents and the words of matchmakers. Before marriage, the matchmaker arranged the match, but men and women didn't meet. Only the woman wrote the year number and gave it to the man. If the man thinks that there is no "gram" in the "eight characters", he asks the original media to post red and give the woman silver or cloth. This is called "engagement". Commonly known as "Chuan Geng". From then on, on holidays, the man must give the woman clothes, fruit bags and other gifts, commonly known as "sending the festival". The man chooses an auspicious day, and then asks the matchmaker to send the "auspicious red stickers" together with gifts such as red envelopes and candy to the woman's home, commonly known as "reporting the day". At the wedding ceremony, the man "married" and gave the woman 18 kinds of gifts such as pork, rice and fish, and sealed red envelopes ranging from 128 to 42. The man hired a hi-sedan, with red couplets on the door, a man's book and a woman's bottom couplet, and the words "Good luck" on the top. There is a male hen in the sedan chair. The cock belongs to the sedan chair bearer and the hen belongs to the mother's family, commonly known as "leaving the hen". We should also organize honor guards and gongs and drums teams. The guard of honor consists of 24 people, holding their hands high, with lanterns, flags and umbrellas in front and gongs and drums behind. When the woman was "married", the newly married mother and daughter cried and watched the woman cry. Before the bride gets on the sedan chair, she wears blue trousers and a blue veil, and her brother accompanies the sedan chair to the man's door. The bride walks to green trousers, blue veil and bright red dress. When the bride goes to the man's house, she will set off firecrackers, and the court official will kill the chicken and spread salt rice to ward off evil spirits. Hang a rice screen, mirror, ruler and scissors at the door to ward off evil spirits. When the bride got off the sedan chair, she took her mother and scissors and walked around the bride three times. She carried the bride out of the sedan chair and took an umbrella to protect her from the wind and rain. When she can't see the sky, she goes to the main hall. The groom crossed HongLing obliquely, and Mr. Zongbo was the master of ceremonies. She first worships heaven and earth, then her ancestors, and then her parents and elders. Finally, the husband and wife pay homage to each other, commonly known as "paying homage." Then send the bride and groom to the bridal chamber and make a toast. Mr. Zongbo sprinkled red dates into the red account, praising China, East, West, North and South. The woman's house is called the "guest of honor", and the man's house has a banquet. Ginger and onion are not allowed in the dish. During the dinner, someone will take care of towels, tea, alcohol and tobacco. Before the guests go home, some places reopen their seats and have more wine and vegetables, commonly known as "eating the next seat." Some people like to eat bar wine, which varies from place to place. After the banquet, the groom pays New Year greetings to his husband and elders, and the husband gives back red envelopes, commonly known as "worshipping grass". Then blow and blow to send the guests back, and the guests will return the money. In the evening, men, women and children can enter the bridal chamber, eat bride's tea and have fun, which is called "three days". Pregnant women and menstruating women are forbidden to enter the bridal chamber. Finally light firecrackers to put you to sleep. The next morning, the bride handed her mother-in-law a "falling red" towel to prove that she was a virgin. Seven days later, the groom accompanied the bride back to her mother's house, commonly known as "returning to the door."
After the matchmaker knows about marriage proposal, the man's house is called marriage proposal and the woman's house is called marriage consent. First of all, give each other a life table, match the year of birth with the star house, and get married if the life matches. It's called marriage. Writing Geng stickers in Khmer Rouge and exchanging them on auspicious days is called "changing stickers". On this day, men should prepare rice, red dates, sheep, wine, cigarettes, wedding cakes, wedding buns, clothes and ornaments. And sent to the woman's house with Geng Tie. The woman's family attaches one or two gold and silver ornaments to the post, and answers them with objects, which is called pressing the post. Whether men or women, call their relatives and friends, matchmakers, prepare meals and drinks, which is called making up your mind. After that, I will pay an appropriate training fee every year until I get married.
The bride price varies according to the family's economic situation. The local gentry and wealthy businessmen are well matched. With the approval of the media, they will exchange Geng's posts, gifts and clothes. The man buys, the woman adds clothes, and each does his best. Most middle-class families only talk about clothes and accessories, not gifts. Generally speaking, gifts and clothes need to be agreed in advance. This situation is more common in rural areas with economic distress. Gifts range from tens to hundreds of yuan. Clothes are usually single, sandwich and cotton. Jewelry includes bracelets, rings, hairpin rings, etc. , mostly silver or gold plated. Most cities are covered with gold or red gold. If it is red gold, it must be matched with gold, commonly known as escort.
Before getting married, the man let the matchmaker know the intention of getting married. If the bride's family allows her to get married, she will hold a correspondence ceremony on an auspicious day, usually one month before the wedding. When communicating, you don't need to prepare clothes and accessories separately, but you need to send items of different sizes. Sending a few silver coins is called "long-lived money". At that time, making money was called drinking tea, which meant reproduction and chastity. Don't accept bride price, you need to send dozens of dollars together and ask for tea money. Some will discount the tea and banquet to be prepared by the man's family when welcoming the wedding. In rural areas, if the woman's family doesn't agree, she has to go back and forth several times. Every time I go, I have to prepare 50 ~ 100 steamed buns, and the matchmaker will take them to persuade me. When the woman's family is going to get married, she will inform her relatives. In addition to giving the dowry, she will also be invited in stages to prepare the dining table, which is called a farewell party. The day before the wedding, the man's family prepared 50- 100 pieces of steamed bread for the woman's family and gave the bride a set of clothes called makeup. When getting married, the man chooses a lady who knows etiquette and is suitable for his own life to sit in a sedan chair, two men sit in a sedan chair, a groomsman sits in a sedan chair or a horse, and the drums lead the way, which is called a wedding ceremony. The woman's house is also called seeing a woman off. One or two women take a sedan chair or a car, and two men take a car or ride a horse. And send the dowry to the man's house, which is called seeing the bride off. When the bride arrives at her parents' home, people usually treat her with tea, and those who have extra money or have a long journey will treat her with wine and food. After that, the younger brothers of the bride put flowers on the groom's hat and tied them with the green and red silk that the groom had already put on. The bride, covered with red gauze, was carried into a sedan chair by her parents. After the groom saluted in front of the god of heaven and earth, he drummed loudly and set off slowly. When you get married in a town, you usually take two or three sedan chairs, and some surplus people use six or seven sedan chairs. Rural cars account for the majority, and poor families only have carts, horses and donkeys.
When the gentry and businessmen in different towns get married, some put up colorful tents in front of the court, and some put up cloth tents. Generally, large towns and villages have rental places. The shed has a built-in screen, a desktop in the middle, and a shrine of heaven and earth. In front of the shrine, there is a bucket with five arrows, a bow hanging from it, scissors, a bucket and a mirror below. Light candles on the left and right, and set up big chairs to receive gifts. The groom put gold flowers in his hat, put on red and green silk, tied a bronze mirror on his chest and led the bride to the door. The sedan chair is flat on the west side, and a pile of grass is burning by the door. Holding grains, red dates, walnuts and money, guests recite auspicious words such as "Celebrate in Xi 'an, be happy from now on, live a long life and be rich and glorious", and throw away what they hold, which is called throwing obstacles. The groom's mother and sister-in-law took a copper bottle full of rice and sprinkled red gauze, rock sugar and powder on the curtain. Put sugar in the bride's mouth, give the copper bottle to the bride to hold, and apply powder on the bride's face, which is called powder. When getting off the sedan chair, the ground was covered with a red carpet, and the bride walked on the carpet, assisted by two unmarried (filial) wives, and went to Huatang to worship heaven. When saluting, the groom obeys, the bride stands with a mask on her face, and only obeys when forced by her helper. When the bride entered the wedding room, the assistant untied her bun and pulled out the hairpin. At this time, no matter when it is winter, there must be an audience tearing up enough paper to take the meaning of "opening up the atmosphere". This is called opening a window. After that, the bride and groom worship their ancestors together, followed by their parents, relatives and elders, which is called "worshipping people". When the bride visits, relatives must give gifts, ranging from money to goods. Some people can't eat it all in one day, but they worship their relatives the next day. Towns are more complicated and villages are simpler. When you enter the bridal chamber that night, a happy lantern is placed on the table, and the bride sits opposite each other, which is called a happy lantern. In the evening, there is the custom of making trouble in the bridal chamber, laughing and making trouble, listening to house theft and saying that it is difficult for the bride, all in order to get rid of the bad weather and get together so that the bride and groom can have a smooth wedding night.
On the second day of marriage, the bride and groom go to Yue's home to meet the bride's parents, relatives and younger generation, which is called "recognizing size". After the ceremony, a banquet is held, which is called "Huimen". After that, the bride stayed at her husband's house for nine days, stayed at her mother's house for nine days, and told her to go back for a long time. In the city, on the ninth day, the Yue family gave a banquet and invited their husbands and matchmakers to drink. The bride stays with her husband's family for a month, and her family welcomes her back for a month, which is called staying for two months. In the countryside, I live in seven or eight rooms after returning to the door, and then live opposite the moon. After the wedding, the deacon leads the groom to thank him along the door and bow away. This is called "bye". At this point, the marriage is all over.