What are the characteristics of people who live alone?
First of all, stick to your career.
I saw a share on the internet. A boy feels that the purpose of his efforts is to make his economic strength stronger. Don't all girls like this? Then why do you want me to look better?
I don't know if this brother has any misunderstanding about girls or love. Who says money can despise everything? As long as you have money, girls will definitely like it?
What if there is a boy with similar assets to yours who is more handsome or talented?
Isn't this a very simple truth?
Therefore, this extreme right thought cannot stand scrutiny.
Of course, there is nothing wrong with focusing on your career, but feelings and career are two different things. Doing a good job doesn't mean that you can manage your feelings well, so if you want what you want, you have to plant what you want. If you want to fall in love, you can't just rely on economic strength to play games. You should work harder emotionally.
You can think that marriage is a transaction and economy is the foundation, but that is only the foundation. The emotional building has only one foundation and can never be built.
Therefore, we have to pay more attention to other aspects on the premise of ensuring excellent economic capacity.
In fact, I have met many boys who have a successful career and can keep their appearance, hobbies and feelings in order. They undoubtedly look more attractive and attract the attention of the opposite sex more easily.
In addition to hard work, take part in more social activities at ordinary times, pay a little attention to the care of your appearance, pick up your old hobbies again, and maybe you will find different scenery.
Second, perfectionism.
Many people have good conditions in all aspects. Do you think he can't find a partner? I don't believe it. But why is it always alone?
On the surface, I often say that there are girls around you. Remember to pay attention to me. But in fact, this one is too short, that one is too fat, this one is too introverted and that one is too active. In short, it is not 100% satisfied.
This is a common problem: the more you think about it, the harder it is to find it because there is no perfect object that meets the requirements.
Falling in love is actually a bit like choosing clothes. Looking at many beautiful clothes, you need to try them on if they suit you.
Many clothes you don't like very much may be amazing to wear, and the more you look at them, the more you like them, while many clothes that look good don't have to be tried on to suit you.
Therefore, when you are in love, only when you take the first step and start talking can you know whether the other person is suitable for you.
Indeed, it is not easy to change your perfectionism at once, but as long as you are willing to try to break the shackles step by step and show an attitude of accepting new feelings, sweet love will definitely perceive the signal.
For example, even if you can't meet the heartbeat standard, don't refuse to communicate in a hurry; Appearance is not your type. Get along with your personality first, and maybe you will find the treasure slowly.
In short, sometimes giving each other a chance is actually giving yourself a chance.
Third, close yourself.
This is the most fundamental reason why most single men and women can't get rid of their bills.
The closed self can also be divided into two situations: the first is the otaku type; The second type, closed heart type.
Let's start with the first one. Oh, it's so comfortable at home. Today is the weekend. I slept until noon, got up to eat, played games, read books and exercised, and the day passed like this.
It seems that a person's life is quite fulfilling, but I'm afraid I'm bored and don't want to go out, and then I'll lie on the sofa all day.
You can live alone and be bored, but day after day, when you want to take off the bill, you find that there are no resources around you.
I thought for a moment, this kind of psychology that would rather lie at home than go out to socialize is probably afraid of being alone, of socializing itself and of being lazy!
Although these situations are common, they should not be allowed to drift. The more afraid you are, the more you have to overcome it, otherwise when can you take off the order?
Of course, letting you go out is not to wander around the street, because you won't meet such a little girl.
Let's move on to the second one, closing the heart.
Although contemporary social animals don't talk much about love, they often feel in the news that the feelings in society are not as pure as those in their parents' days, and people can't believe that one person will love another for life. Marriage is a transaction.
So slowly, in their hearts, love is no longer an unattainable Bai Yueguang, but an ordinary white rice.
In fact, I can understand this mentality, but it is also very impetuous. When you settle down and look at ordinary couples and couples around you, there are actually many beautiful loves.
They may not have so many thrilling experiences, but they can support each other; Although not so rich, we can still work together; Although not handsome, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
As the saying goes, it is better to open your heart and give fate a chance to find a place to stop when it comes.
Fourth, eager to succeed.
Many boy friends, obviously in their early twenties, are urged to get married by their families, so many young boys are rushing to get married when looking for a partner.
It used to be said that love without marriage purpose is hooliganism. Actually, I think this sentence is problematic. I fell in love because I like it. If we talk about it properly, I will naturally want to get married. And if you fall in love for the sake of marriage, it is difficult to find the right one.
Therefore, in the matter of falling in love, we should not be too eager for success. We're coming up here to express your intention to get married. If you don't want to get married, don't fall in love. It is estimated that many people will be scared away.
If you want to take off the bill, you must feel the process carefully, feel the girl's personality, get along with each other, and have a common hobby ... These feelings are all right, and naturally come.