How can I bury my parents when they are dead?

Man-made ideas are self-aware and self-thinking. These are not exactly what you said. According to you, it's really inconvenient. What is the traditional concept of sweeping graves in China during the Spring Festival? These are all untrue customs and habits in Buddhism, but they must have been passed down for thousands of years and are not easy to change. You can't do this, but do as the Romans do. As for what your uncle and his relatives want to build. You have to solve this matter properly in an emotional and rational way. It must be your uncle once, twice and three times. No matter what happened before, it is the past between adults. Everyone's gone. Why are you still clinging to the old one? Right? It is so boring. When you talk to your elders, you must be open-minded and don't have any resentment or hatred to do it. In this case, the question will be too troublesome and even more boring. You should regard them as your elders, they are the real elders. People should be reasonable. Although there are local customs, the so-called customs are still decided by people. People are determined by their own paranoia, so what is the reason for the so-called custom? If you ask what this customs list is about, can you answer it? What customs can't be answered I don't know why I'm here, busy writing and chasing. What is this? This is superstition, obsession, and I believe it unconsciously. This is not superstition. What is this? No matter what ordinary people think, they must be ordinary people, so; Again, we should be patient in dealing with this matter, and we should not be moved by reason. Do they want to see death not reunite with each other? Well, you should have the mind and patience to deal with this matter. Don't worry, take your time. I wish you happiness and all the best.