Is it really bad to get engaged in the twelfth lunar month
In fact, people say that you can't get engaged in the twelfth lunar month, because there is an ancient saying that you can't get married in the first month and get engaged in the twelfth lunar month, otherwise the husband and wife can't grow old together. From the perspective of geomantic omen, the reason why you don't marry a daughter-in-law in the first month is that you will get together with every member of your husband's family when you go to your mother's house in the first month. If you get engaged in the twelfth lunar month, it will cause a very unfavorable situation to your husband's family, so most people will be more taboo about it.
But in fact, from a practical point of view, we are not engaged because every household is very busy when the twelfth lunar month comes. At this time, there are many festivals, and the elders at home need to visit relatives and friends and take care of all kinds of etiquette. If the child is engaged, the pressure will be too great. Although engagement is very important, many people prefer to get engaged in their leisure time, not to mention the cold weather at this time, so many people prefer to get engaged in advance or postpone it, rather than in the twelfth lunar month.
Precautions before engagement:
Before the engagement party, parents of both sides had better meet to discuss the engagement date, bride price and dowry, engagement process and other engagement matters in detail to avoid temporary differences and conflicts.
The scale of the engagement party depends on personal circumstances. If you want to keep everything simple and make the wedding a success, you can get together for a potluck. If you want to hold a large-scale engagement ceremony, you need to spend more time preparing.