Career growth: self-awareness, what shortcomings can I change?

Everyone has shortcomings, just as everyone has advantages. Shortcomings are actually not terrible, because no one is perfect, and each of us will have some shortcomings more or less, which is harmless. As the saying goes, everyone loves everyone, or has achieved great success, but also has some minor shortcomings. But if possible, we should try to change our shortcomings, because everyone has the habit of pursuing perfection. Of course, some shortcomings may be innate and cannot be changed, but many times, some of our shortcomings can still be eliminated through conscious transformation. Careless people can become careful, and impulsive people can become rational. Interpersonal icebreaking completed the new case, and Wang Xiaodong's department had a rare leisure on Monday. At noon, everyone didn't work overtime in front of the computer, but went to the small table in the conference room to play Tarot fortune telling. This is a suggestion made by a female colleague Wei Wei. Girls always believe in constellations and tarot cards. Wang Xiaodong and his colleagues also felt that there was nothing wrong with having a little fun at noon, so everyone asked Wei Wei to tell their fortune in order. When it was Wang Xiaodong's turn, an unfavorable death was drawn. Wei Wei said that cards correspond to interpersonal relationships. Death is not a good card, as everyone who doesn't know tarot cards knows, but reversal seems to have another saying. "Sister Vivian, what does this card mean?" Wang Xiaodong asked Wei Wei curiously. The meaning of "probably seems quite good, there are twists and turns, but it can be reversed to a good direction! Ha ha, Xiaodong, you still believe this. " Everyone is clamouring for a word. Suddenly the manager came in and said with an expression, "I have no consciousness at all." If I work easier, I will get carried away. There is a new case coming, follow me to the third meeting room to see the information introduction! " The third conference room is a video conference room, which is generally used in particularly large situations. After Wang Xiaodong arrived at the company, it was the first time to attend such a meeting. He was a little nervous and hurried to the conference room with a notepad. The atmosphere of the meeting was very serious. The customer at the other end of the video is sitting tight and speaking in a serious tone. Look at my colleagues around me, they all look very nervous. When the meeting was over, everyone got together in groups to discuss the problem. Only Wang Xiaodong sat in his seat and browsed the relevant web pages aimlessly, but no one paid any attention to him. Wang Xiaodong felt embarrassed, so he was busy everywhere, but there was nothing he could do. How inappropriate. "Liu Ge, today's case" Wang Xiaodong was really uncomfortable and wanted to chat with his colleagues next to him. "As the manager said just now, I have no opinion." The colleague next to him said coldly, and his tone was a little impatient. Last time I told the manager the information, it was this Liu Ge who was reprimanded by the manager. On that occasion, his own practice probably embarrassed him. No wonder he treats himself so badly. Wang Xiaodong is depressed. When it was time to get off work, his colleagues left one after another, but he just sat by the computer and didn't leave. "Xiaodong, what's the matter?" Vivian, who counts tarot cards for everyone at noon, came over. "In a bad mood, I feel" Wang Xiaodong didn't go on, just sighed. "You are a very capable guy, but you seem to get along with everyone. I feel that you always don't talk much, and you rarely communicate with everyone in meetings. This is not good. You have been in the company for so long that you should get familiar with everyone, which is also good for your work. " "I know, but I don't know how to start!" Wang Xiaodong looked embarrassed. "Then start by greeting everyone every day. When you can help others, you will gradually like you and be willing to talk to you more! Come on! Get off work! " Wang Xiaodong cleared the table and went downstairs with Wei Wei. Yes, I don't seem to be able to communicate with people. This may be the biggest shortcoming in my current job, so today is very embarrassing. Wang Xiaodong repeatedly recalled the scene of that day in bed, and his instinct made him feel scared. If the interpersonal ice with colleagues cannot be broken, his future work and development will be affected. The next day, Wang Xiaodong cheered up and came to the company. It was a sunny day, facing the rising sun, Wang Xiaodong and every colleague in the department smiled warmly. Wei Wei saw him and secretly sent him a V gesture. Of course, interpersonal relationships can't be changed overnight, but smiling is the first and simplest step. This step is done, and the next thing will be much easier! Can't be closed passively. As a newcomer to the company, under normal circumstances, everyone will not approach you actively, and it is unwise to get to know everyone passively by communication at work. Although it is difficult to break the first step of interpersonal communication, it must be done. Because you want to get along well in the workplace, you must get along well with the people around you and establish common interests, which is of great benefit to your cooperation, and this relationship will win you more praise and recognition to a great extent. Take the initiative to break the deadlock Every newcomer in the workplace is like an iceberg. It is difficult for others to understand you from observation, and it is also difficult to communicate and communicate at a deeper level. And if a person wants to complete the transition from a newcomer to an elderly person as much as possible, this ice-breaking process is essential. This requires us to take the initiative to let everyone know you and get familiar with you through active behavior, and then recognize and like you. Listen to other people's opinions. Many times, we are dealing with problems by ourselves. Of course, the spirit of independence is widely recognized in many cases. But when you encounter interpersonal problems, you might as well listen to the opinions of people around you. The so-called outsider sees clearly, and the problems that you can't see yourself may be seen by people around you. Listen to other people's opinions moderately, and you can quickly realize your own problems, correct your shortcomings and solve problems in a targeted and focused manner.