In the past, the engagement was first sent by the matchmaker. If both parties are interested, the man sends a gift and goes to the woman's house with the matchmaker to ask about the date of birth, which is called an invitation. The woman's book is sent to the man on red paper, which is called "posting". A man asks a fortune teller to get married. If the eight characters match, he puts the boxer in front of the kitchen god and will be safe within three days. He asked the matchmaker to send marriage certificate, gold and silver jewelry, clothes, dowry, wine, cakes and so on. Until the woman's "decision." The two sides hosted a banquet for relatives and friends and held a "drinking ceremony". The wedding date is chosen by the man, and the matchmaker is asked to inform the woman, which is called "sending a marriage certificate". Before the wedding, the man gives a rockhopper gown, and the woman gives a dowry the day before the wedding. On the eve of the girl's wedding, please "send her mother" to shave her head and call it "open noodles". At noon on the day of the wedding, a "sedan chair wine" was held. When the man's sedan chair enters the door, the girl to be married needs to sleep under the bed. After three times of urging, she got up and dressed, ate "sedan chair rice", and vomited back to her parents' bedside at the first bite, indicating that she did not forget the grace of raising. Then, wearing a red handkerchief, my brother "carried" or "led" the sedan chair, and my mother and sister cried and sent each other away. Mother poured a basin of water where the sedan chair stopped, and my brother returned halfway with the sedan chair. At this time, the ashes in the sedan chair were dumped and the crying stopped. "Send Mother" to the man in red cloth and carrying a bucket of children and grandchildren. This is the morning when Japanese people worship God, and it is called "Enjoy first". Generally, the groom does not go to the bride's house to meet the bride, but mostly takes "seeing her mother off" as the messenger. When sending a sedan chair, choose a boy with both parents to sit in the sedan chair, and his parents will carry him back halfway. When the car enters the door of the woman's house, there is a permanent obstacle. After "opening the paper bag" (coin), put it in. The bride welcomed the man back, stopped in front of the sedan chair hall, put a saddle in front of the sedan chair and asked the bride to get out of the sedan chair. A girl bowed three times in front of the sedan chair and led the bride out of the sedan chair. Out of the sedan chair, she stepped on sacks across the saddle, and the sacks were sent and received alternately, which was called "handed down from generation to generation" and five sacks meant "five generations under one roof". The bride stood on the red carpet before entering the hall. Invited by compliments, the groom stood on the left side of the woman, with the main incense on the table, "Lang Toubiao" reading a congratulatory message, the bride and groom saluting "prostration", Lang Toubiao holding a candle to lead the way, "farewell mother" holding the bride, and following the groom into the "bridal chamber". At this time, an old man took a happy fruit bowl and threw thousands of kinds of fruits in Huatang for the children to eat. Later, the well-off women among the elders are invited to enter the new house and take off the head handkerchief worn by the bride with a scale, which is called "towel picking". A pair of parents and a child urinated in the new toilet and gave them red eggs as a sign of "premature birth". Pregnant women should not sit on the edge of the bed in the new house (to avoid the bride's infertility within 3 years). After picking towels, the bride tidied up the decorations, went to the kitchen to cut pork for ancestor worship, and handed the tie cloth to the chef. Please cook for her and call it "cooking". Then pay homage to in-laws, elders and sugar tea, saying "Look at the size". The elders give money, which is called "visiting cymbals". After the ceremony, the groom made a toast to the elders (uncle first), and the bride, accompanied by "seeing her mother off", changed her clothes several times and made a toast to the guests. In the evening, relatives and guests "sing wine" and "He Lang" in the new house. Before going to bed, the bride must take off her coat and trousers to make the groom get good luck. Before noon the next day, people send gifts to their parents' homes, which is called "picking the mother's plate". During the three days of their wedding, relatives and friends can sneak into the new house at night to take out things and ask the couple for cigarettes and candy the next day. This is called a "noisy room". On the third day after marriage, the brothers of the bride's family visit the bride at home through old clothes and sewing tools, which is called "peace of mind". After the wedding, the groom accompanied the bride back to her mother's house, calling for "returning to the door", and the mother's house held a banquet to invite her son-in-law.
In the old fishing village, the groom went out to sea to give birth, but he was caught in a strong wind and could not catch up with the wedding date as scheduled. He used to keep 65,438+0 cocks in the bridal chamber, and the cocks were tied with red stripes. When the groom comes back, he lets the chicken out, which is commonly known as "Aunt pays homage to the bride and rooster accompanies the bridal chamber".
In the early years of the Republic of China, "civilized marriage" was advocated, but the old chapel did not advocate it. Only the wedding will be held, the officiating guest will deliver a speech, and the groom will answer. The bride and groom wear dresses and bow to their parents and elders. The husband and wife exchange bows and ornaments, and sign and seal the marriage certificate, which is only accepted by a few people in the town. After liberation, the Marriage Law was promulgated, which advocated freedom of love, marital autonomy and new things. Men and women who meet the conditions for marriage need to apply for registration at the local government and get a marriage certificate. Weddings are similar to civilized marriages, with sedan chairs cancelled and simple banquets. In the 1970s, collective marriage was advocated instead of banquets, and wedding candy was distributed. Some "travel to get married". However, the habit of asking for bride price has been repeated. In recent years, there have been a lot of ostentation and extravagance, gorgeous new houses, some wedding cars, banquets and banquets, and the wedding cost is very high.