Is there a difference between cousins?

My aunt's children are cousins. Generally speaking, there are two kinds of relatives on my father's side. My uncle is a cousin and my aunt is a cousin. There are cousins on the mother's side. You can also use simple symbols. In the case of taking the father's surname, the cousin with his surname is not a cousin.

How to distinguish cousins from cousins;

The first one is "the same surname under the same roof, but different surnames under the same table". Of course, unless there are special circumstances, such as uncle and father sharing the same surname, that is, father and mother sharing the same surname, this situation is another matter.

The second is "taking men as the standard and women as the standard". Men are the children of uncles, that is, cousins; Women are children of my aunt's family, including my uncle. Although my uncle is a man, his relationship is based on his mother's relationship and he is naturally a cousin.

According to tradition, or in general, cousins are closer than cousins. The reason for this is the following：

1, the surname difference between cousins.

The biggest difference between cousins is their surnames. Because in our country since ancient times, children's names are all taken after their father's surname, and a small part of them are taken after their mother's surname. Because they all take their father's surname, the time is far and long, and even after several generations, they still have the same surname. This relationship will be closer.

On the other hand, cousins are related to their mothers. At first, cousins and cousins were almost the same, but due to different surnames, over time, cousins rarely contacted each other.

2. Cousins are far away.

The home or village between cousins is generally far from the mother's family, so cousins live far away. In the past, they only came and went during the Spring Festival, and their relationship became weaker and weaker. But cousins always live in the same circle anyway. I often look up and don't bow my head. I can often help and interact with each other and feel closer.

3. Influenced by traditional ideas.

In ancient times, China has always been a "male system" social system, and always followed the patriarchal society. In the past, many rural families had genealogy, and women were not allowed to enter it. Their relatives have their own blood, and their roots can be easily found in the genealogy.

Genealogy will be handed down all the time, even several generations or more, and cousin's name will appear on the genealogy. But cousins, so they belong to different families. As time went on, my cousins gradually forgot.