What should I do if I smoked cigarettes for others and they just threw them away on the spot?

I have witnessed with my own eyes that during the Chinese New Year gathering of relatives, my cousin saw his elders and enthusiastically gave them cigarettes. The elders took the cigarettes with disdain, threw them directly on the table, and then took them out of his pocket. Smoke up. The younger brother is a smart kid. One of his jokes not only resolved the embarrassment, but also made the elders embarrassed.

This younger brother usually seems carefree, but he still understands the proper etiquette, especially respecting his elders. It is true that he has not made much money in the past few years. He is almost thirty and has no house and no partner. They all think that he is not doing his job properly and his elders are a bit powerful, so they don't have a good attitude towards him.

This elder arrived last and was brought here by the driver. The arrival of an elder can be said to be a brilliance. Everyone is waiting for him. When he arrives, everyone is like a star holding the moon. The younger brother finally said hello to the elder, poured tea and smoked the elder. The younger brother's cigarette was not bad either. He handed it to the elder with both hands, and then took out the lighter and prepared to light it for the elder.

Unexpectedly, the elder threw the cigarette directly on the table, took out his good cigarette from his pocket and smoked it, ignoring the existence of his younger brother! The younger brother still said with a smile: "This is a good cigarette. I have never smoked it before. Give me a try!"

The elder pretended not to hear, and the younger brother went to the car and took out two cigarettes that the elder smoked, handed them to the elder, and said to the elder: I know you love smoking, and I didn’t prepare anything else for you. Here it is. If you bring two cigarettes, don’t dislike it. If you leave out the (bad) cigarettes, just smoke it! I usually smoke this cigarette too much and it makes me sick to my stomach when I smell it. Of course, I bought this cigarette now, not the rest from smoking. If you don't like it, you can just throw it away. I don't mind.

My father hurriedly reconciled the situation. He also knew that the elders were reluctant to throw away the cigarette, and he also saw that my younger brother was wronged. My father said: My children’s thoughts have been received! It’s not easy for these children. Their father died early when they were little, leaving them helpless and struggling on their own. It’s quite heartbreaking to watch. The baby also understands and knows how to buy you something. He has to work hard for it, but he comes to me empty-handed (my father is joking to lighten the atmosphere).

The younger brother said: Uncle (my father), I am very casual with you. I accept whatever you do to me because you are qualified, but you always only know how to care for me and treat me as your own. Children who treat you well will not look down upon you. You almost raised me. Do you think I can come to your house empty-handed? I think I'm back at my own home, I'm used to it, haha...

At this time, the elder's face was filled with embarrassment. He knew that he had gone too far just now, and his younger brother did care! I think when someone gives you a cigarette, first of all, regardless of the quality of the cigarette, it is at least the other person's respect for you. When someone offers you a cigarette with good intentions, but you still accept it, you are not a smart person, but you do not respect yourself. You take yourself too seriously, which actually means you look down on yourself. This is my ignorant point of view, which makes everyone laugh.

Is this embarrassing? What's even more embarrassing... I once went to a boss to talk about cooperation and handed him a five-leaf god. After he took it, he threw it into the trash can, took out the Bao Huazi from his pocket, and then ordered... …I come to you to talk about business because I want to win. If we have money, we can make money together, not to beg you for [a flash of inspiration]. If we can cooperate, we will have a happy cooperation. If we can’t cooperate, I will talk to someone else...

Later, a few years later, I heard that he was bankrupt, owed a lot of money to others, and ran away... I felt happy when I found out about it at the time, okay, I admit that I was gloating [face covering] [face covering]

This has happened to me too.

One time I went to do errands with a friend. On the way back, my friend answered the phone and someone invited him to dinner. My friend refused to go and said it was inconvenient for me to be in the car. The man generously forced me to come along and said The atmosphere is better when there are more people, so we arrived at the hotel together.

There were six people at the table, and they all seemed to be respectable people. The person who called to invite us came to see us. He warmly greeted us to sit down, introduced us one by one, and handed out a circle of cigarettes. .

I was in an awkward situation. I didn’t know anyone except my friends. Seeing them chatting animatedly, I stood up and offered them cigarettes. I smoked cheap cigarettes that cost 16 yuan. , when it was handed to a person named Vice President Zhang, he took the cigarette and put it on the table.

After a while, the waiter started serving the food and asked who owned the loose cigarettes on the table. Vice President Zhang picked up the cigarette and threw it directly into the trash can, and took out a pack of expensive cigarettes from his pocket. He put the cigarette on the table and said that he was used to smoking this cigarette but not other cigarettes.

At that time, my friends and their friends were very surprised, and I was even more embarrassed. My friends quickly came out to smooth things over and said that Vice President Zhang’s quality of life is really good and he is a person who knows how to enjoy things. I happened to have a good gift from a friend here. Cigarettes, Vice President, have one. Passed it over, Vice President Zhang took it and ordered it.

I regretted coming over at that time. Why was a courier driver wearing work clothes joining in the fun? He couldn't leave. He seemed to be discussing some business. The friend who invited me noticed something strange about me and came over to greet me enthusiastically. Chat with me and ask how the business is going. I said your industry is very profitable. Are you tired? You can eat food and eat food.

After the meal was finished and the wine was drunk, we sat and chatted. Vice President Zhang picked up the cigarettes on the table and handed them out to us. He handed them to me and told me to try the cigarette. It was good. I took it and lit it, not knowing what the smoke was like.

My friend asked me to go to the bathroom, and I wanted to go with him. But he stopped me, so I just sat there and listened to them chatting and smoking.

My friend came back and seemed to have stuffed something into my pocket. A message came on my phone. It was from a friend who just went out. I bought you two packs of good cigarettes and put them in my pocket. I understand that my friend went to buy cigarettes to help me save my face.

I took out the cigarette and handed it to Vice President Zhang. I saw something obviously strange on his face. He must have been embarrassed. My friends suddenly calmed down and looked at us. He took the cigarette. , didn’t even order it, and played with it in his hand.

After I finished handing out the cigarettes, I put the good cigarettes in my pocket, took out the cheap cigarettes I used to smoke, lit them myself, and said, I’m used to smoking this, and I can’t get used to smoking anything else. Look at this fate. .

Vice President Zhang looked restless.

My eldest brother went out to work in 1985 as a handyman in a hotel called Yingbin Restaurant. He was a young man who had just left home and spoke his hometown dialect. Boss Zhao took him to the head chef and said that it was recommended by Liu and asked him to train him well.

My eldest brother was quite nervous. After all, it was his first time to see such a big scene. The kitchen was bigger than our shabby thatched house, so he handed the chef a cigarette with trembling hands. The head chef took it and looked at it, and then showed it to the guys. Everyone let out a storm of laughter.

Then the head chef put the cigarette under his nose and smelled it, closed his eyes and took a deep breath, then slowly opened his eyes, showed a sly smile, and flicked it with his thumb. It fell right into the trash can next to the cutting table.

My brother felt very sad and embarrassed. He borrowed 5 cents from someone else to buy a cigarette. He rushed to the trash can and picked up the cigarette. He never smoked and asked The dishwasher borrowed a match and lit it.

He choked and coughed. While coughing, he said, "It turns out that this is the smell of cigarettes. It smells so bad. No wonder the head chef doesn't want it."

That store sells northern food, which is not spicy. My brother is a person who doesn’t like spicy food, so he went to the market and bought half a catty of chili peppers and 1 tael of green Sichuan peppercorns, and sauteed them with oil until fragrant. Chop it into hot sauce and add a spoonful to every work meal.

Boss Zhao also had a work meal with his employees that day. Seeing that the noodles in my brother’s bowl were different from others, he asked him how he made them and whether they were delicious. My brother said it was spicy, if you like it. I'll make you a bowl.

My brother knew that northerners like to be jealous. They eat noodles with vinegar and eat dumplings with vinegar, so he cooked a bowl of hot and sour noodles with bone soup for Boss Zhao. Boss Zhao slapped his thighs after eating. Never tasted this before. The colleagues watching on the sidelines were jealous.

The next day, my brother was transferred to another store by Boss Zhao. That store had a Sichuan cuisine department. The boss asked my brother to study hard and patted him on the shoulder and said he had a future. Teach him to the head chef and train him well.

My brother handed a cigarette to the chef. The chef stuck the cigarette in his ear and said he couldn't smoke during working hours. He asked my brother to change clothes quickly and practice knife skills.

The first step for a chef to practice knife skills is to cut potatoes and radish shreds every day, and then use these shreds for work meals. The waiters in the front office are afraid when they see the new employee, because next they will shred radish and potatoes. .

After finishing his work at noon, the chef took off his apron and ran to the back to smoke. After a while, he came back and asked my brother where he bought this cigarette. Why haven’t he seen it? My brother said he bought it at the uncle’s cigarette stall at the entrance of the alley. Yes, the chef said it was not bad, it was very smooth. My brother quickly served the remaining half box with both hands respectfully. The chef readily accepted it and asked him to practice hard. This sentence gave my brother a great encouragement.

The girls in the front room had had enough of carrots and potatoes. My brother asked the chef if he could lend him 2 yuan. He was going to buy meat and cut it into shreds. The chef asked him with a smile, were you doing it to practice your knife skills or to please the girl?

I borrowed it if I answered truthfully. My brother said he had both, and he wanted to practice his knife skills and please the girl. The head chef patted my brother on the shoulder and said he had a future.

After practicing for more than half a year, the salary my brother earned was not even enough for himself. He even wrote a letter saying that he would not go home for the New Year if there was no travel expenses. My parents were lost for a long time and stood there every day. Looking at the village entrance.

My brother’s craftsmanship has improved greatly because of the Chinese New Year.

Everyone in the store left, leaving only the chef and my brother. The chef worked outside all year round, and his wife ran away with him. He didn’t want to go back and face gossip, so he sent money and money to his family. Gift.

Boss Zhao socializes a lot. Friends come to the store for dinner every day. He often asks the head chef to accompany him. The head chef leaves the simple dishes to my brother. My brother likes to make fish and chicken stew at home. Stir-fried shredded pork, but my family is poor and I don’t have the chance to cook it even once in a year and a half.

Both the boss and the guests praised the delicious food he cooked and said that the young man worked hard and had a bright future. None of them went back to their hometown to spend the New Year with their parents. All those people gave my brother lucky money.

My brother was so happy. He had never seen so much, dozens of yuan. He thought about it and kept 30 yuan as pocket money, and gave all the remaining money to the chef. From then on, the chef scolded him. He worked harder and harder, either because his movements were slower, or the oil temperature was too high, or his technique was wrong.

I was scolded until I cried when I fried fish-flavored shredded pork. It was either too sweet, too spicy, or too spicy.

Under the scolding of the head chef again and again, my brother's skills improved rapidly and he climbed from the position of the third chef to the third position.

The first store my brother stayed in closed down in 1998. Boss Zhao kept some employees and assigned them to various branches.

At that time, my brother was already the head chef of a new store. The head chef who taught him how to cook at the second store was promoted to the executive chef of all stores. The head chef who threw my brother’s cigarettes led He brought his 17-year-old son to my brother's shop as an apprentice.

The lobby manager took the father and son to the kitchen and handed them over to my brother. He said that Boss Zhao had ordered them to be well-trained, and then went out.

My brother was teaching the newbies how to arrange dishes. The father and son greeted my brother politely. The head chef handed me a cigarette and his son lit a match. My brother gladly accepted it, and the head chef said I'm sorry. I was young and energetic, and I couldn't see the mountains. I hope you can bear with me.

From now on, I hope you will take more care of my dog. The adults will not remember the faults of the villains. My brother Pretending to be surprised, I asked him what he was talking about. Do we know each other? Have we met?

My brother said that as long as he is willing to learn and work hard, I can teach anyone. The head chef shook my brother's hand firmly and said goodbye.

Maybe it’s because he was influenced by his father since childhood, or maybe it’s because the boy is smart and perceptive. He learns faster than the apprentices in the store. My brother also likes him. Later, he and the executive chef visited the store, and The chefs in each store exchanged experiences, and my brother always took this apprentice with him.

On the day when the boy was officially promoted to head chef, his grandparents and his parents were invited to the store. Boss Zhao and the executive chef were also present.

During the dinner, the family raised their wine glasses to toast my brother. The head chef told Boss Zhao that he threw the cigarettes my brother handed him into the trash can. His father said that I failed to educate the child well, which made him so arrogant and domineering. Thank you to my brother for being generous and ignoring past grudges.

What should I do if I give someone a cigarette and they throw it away on the spot?

If someone throws away the cigarette you handed them on the spot, it means they think you have insufficient status and do not recognize you.

1. Keep calm and continue sending to the next person.

2. Make fun of yourself, bend down to pick it up and apologize, saying: I’m sorry, I didn’t hold it firmly.

3. Praise the other person for his good habits and tell him that I also want to quit smoking.

No matter how high your status is, always remember that the earth is round, and don’t leave any trouble for yourself or your descendants.

Many friends lead to many paths, fewer enemies lead to fewer regrets. Be merciful and merciful, do things with a high profile, and be a low-key person.

It is recommended that you directly retaliate and throw away the cigarette you sent in front of your face. That does not give you any face at all, and there is no need to save face for the other party. It has happened to me before that a junior handed a cigarette to an elder and the elder threw it directly under the table. You see how we fought back.

During the Chinese New Year two years ago, several of our cousins, led by my uncle, went to pay homage to the uncle’s aunt’s grave. Since we were close together and we hadn’t seen each other for a long time during the Chinese New Year, It was inevitable that we would have a few drinks, so we always drove a tricycle when visiting relatives.

When we arrived, a relative who came back from the city, who should be our uncle according to our seniority, came back early in a car driven by his son. Since we were juniors, a cousin who went with me saw my uncle coming back and quickly took out cigarettes and passed them to everyone to smoke (I don’t smoke, and I didn’t pass out cigarettes). My uncle and his son looked at the cigarettes but didn't reach out to take them. I began to think that they didn't smoke just like me.

After everyone drank for three rounds during the meal, the uncle began to brag about where his son was working and how much it cost per month. He bought a house in other places this year and planned to settle down there. When we go out to work after the new year, we can join his son. As he spoke, he took out a pack of Huazi from his pocket and started smoking it himself. Because he was an elder, it was reasonable for him to smoke the Huazi cigarettes he took.

After a while, my cousin took out the cigarettes for everyone to disperse. Because he didn’t take the cigarettes for his uncle at first, he probably thought he didn’t smoke. I saw him smoking Hua just now. After getting married, my cousin knew that he smoked, so he handed him cigarettes first. At this time, my uncle said that he was not used to smoking other cigarettes and had no intention of reaching out to take it. My cousin was embarrassed to hold the cigarette in one hand, and probably because he had had a few glasses of wine, so he replied: If you're not used to smoking, I'll smoke it today. This cigarette is no harder to smoke than your Huazi.

When the uncle saw that his cousin’s tone was serious and that so many people were watching, he reached out and took the cigarette. Then the trick came. He took the cigarette but did not smoke it. He put a large portion of the cigarette outside the table. When the table moved, the cigarette fell directly to the ground. Then he took out another Huazi from his cigarette case and said while lighting the cigarette, he would still smoke this one.

Even if we were stupid, the young man who went there could see that he was looking down on others, so after that cigarette, we just ate our own food and drank with each other. As for the youngest uncle, whether he likes to drink or not, whether he likes to eat or not, no one will toast him or pass him cigarettes anymore. Until the end of the meal, my uncle sat there alone and felt very awkward. No one wanted to talk to him anymore.

After dinner, we went to visit the grave. A few of us took paper and cannons and walked quickly, leaving my uncle behind. We went to the ground to visit the grave and then went back. From then on, when I went to visit my uncle's aunt's grave, I would avoid going on the same day as my uncle in the city.

In fact, when someone offers you a cigarette, you don’t have to accept it if you don’t smoke. If you don’t smoke this brand, you can take it first. If you don’t smoke, others won’t say anything. When someone offers you a cigarette, it's like you're showing friendliness. It's very wrong for you to just leave someone else's cigarette on the ground. I hope all my friends will remember that you must never take a cigarette that is handed to you in front of others.

After graduation and returning to my hometown, my distant uncle came to my house to visit my dad. My dad asked me to take out the good cigarettes and send them to my uncle. Unexpectedly, my uncle took them and looked at them. I threw it on the table and said I don't smoke such low-quality cigarettes. I was so angry that I didn't expect my father to be unusually calm. Afterwards, he made my uncle feel ashamed with a move.

My father has been unwell in recent years, and his distant uncle has not been back for many years since he moved away from the town many years ago. That year happened to be the time when the house in his hometown was to be transferred, and he had to come back to handle the relevant matters himself. , when I came back, I heard that my father had a serious health problem, so he came to my house to visit.

After graduating from college, my original plan was to find a job in a company in the provincial capital. However, due to my father’s health, I had to take care of my mother alone, which made me a little worried, so I was not in a hurry to find a job. Instead, I returned home first, helped my mother do whatever she could, and spent more time with my father.

My father heard that my uncle was coming to visit us, so he asked my mother and I to go to the market early that morning to buy vegetables. I love her very much, and my dad and I used to often have a drink together and chat.

But that day, the moment my uncle walked in, I felt a very uncomfortable feeling.

My home is an old community in a small town. My uncle has been here before, but after entering the door this time, I wanted to greet him enthusiastically. Unexpectedly, he said: Why is this community still there? I've been looking for such an old house for a long time but couldn't find it. Why don't you buy a house in the center of the city?

I was speechless and swallowed the friendly "uncle" I just said. I rummaged through the shoe cabinet to find some slippers for him. One pair. He asked me if I had shoe covers. Shoe covers are more convenient. I said no, so he said, "You see, you don't clean the place very much, so you don't wear them at all."

After saying that, he walked straight in.

Dad was busy in the kitchen. When he saw his uncle coming, he came out to greet him enthusiastically and asked me to take out the good cigarettes at home and entertain him well.

I rummaged through the boxes and cabinets and finally found the good cigarettes that my dad had hidden. Then I took out two packs, opened them, and handed a cigarette to my uncle. At this time, my dad was cooking. During the break, I came out to chat with my uncle, but unexpectedly I encountered the scene of my uncle throwing away cigarettes.

He looked at the cigarette, picked up the cigarette case, then his expression changed, and then he threw the cigarette I handed him on the table, and then uttered an infuriating sentence Dialect: I don’t smoke such low-quality cigarettes.

After saying this, I felt a surge of anger in my stomach. Just as I was about to retaliate, my father slowly sat down next to my uncle, and then said calmly, "This cigarette may not be to your liking, yes." My distant relative brought it to me because I was sick and wanted to smoke less, so I couldn't bear to smoke.

After saying that, the old uncle anticipated something, then he picked up the cigarette case and looked at it. His face instantly turned red and he stopped talking. That day, the old uncle left without eating. For other things, leave early.

While eating, I curiously asked my dad who gave me these cigarettes and why my uncle stopped chewing after looking at the cigarette box.

Dad smiled and said, your uncle may not have been back to his hometown for a long time. He is used to living in a big city, living a wealthy life, and has acquired many bad habits. Don’t be so angry.

I asked a friend to buy these cigarettes before. The place of production is your uncle’s side. And do you remember that your uncle’s son, your brother, also works in a cigarette factory there.

I understood somewhat, but I still asked with hesitation, could this cigarette be produced by my brother?

Dad smiled and stopped talking.

I remembered my uncle’s embarrassed expression when he left, and I felt a little relieved for a moment.

If someone gives you cigarettes, but you don’t say thank you, but just throw them away, you don’t take the person who smoked them seriously.

Many times we say that speaking etiquette, behavior, and conversation can determine whether a person's quality is high or low. When he is rich, he does not look down on others, and when he is poor, he does not give up on himself.

Details determine the success or failure of a person's development. In fact, many wealthy people do not treat the people around them with arrogance. On the contrary, they are humble, kind, and able to tolerate more differences.

This incident also made me understand that when we express our views and opinions, we do not necessarily have to vent them by shouting, but we can use peaceful language to convey a more direct effect.

First, people should keep a low profile. If they smoke, people will respect you out of respect for you, even if they smoke cheap cigarettes. Second, if you don’t know how to smoke, you should refuse in person. You should not behave in a dishonest manner that will make it difficult for others to step down. Your character has been learned in public. Third, these actions are purely a matter of character, and their personality is questionable. Fourth, you don’t pay attention to every move, word and deed of a person. You think it doesn’t matter. Others see it clearly and clearly.

As the old man in the countryside says, "If someone respects you a foot, you should give him a foot in return." If you give someone a cigarette and they throw it away on the spot, it means that they don't see you at all, and they may even think "you are "What a green onion", for such a person, you respect him, but he in turn treats you like this, there is no need to have any intersection in the future, just "block" him from your life.

In life, some people say, "You must always know how to make compromises", but I think no matter what, life is not easy, why can't we live happily?

When you give someone a cigarette, even if the other person does not smoke, you cannot just throw the cigarette away. This is a matter of common sense in dealing with people. The other person does not even take this common sense into consideration. It shows that the other person does not even respect you. I can't give you anything. Since I don't even have respect anymore, I don't think there is any need to continue to interact with each other. In rural areas, this kind of thing is the rhythm of never interacting with each other.

When I saw your question, it reminded me of something I experienced. When we were chatting in front of my house during the Spring Festival, I took out my cigarettes to disperse the cigarettes for everyone, and many people took them directly in their hands. Two of them said, "I don't mind being shabby even if I smoke this kind of cigarette during the Chinese New Year. It makes my throat hurt from smoking this kind of cigarette, so I won't smoke it." Well, if you don't smoke it, I won't give it to you. , I give you cigarettes because I respect you, but you refuse because you think my cigarettes are of low quality, so I won’t give them to you. My cigarettes make me feel better after all.

So, regarding your question, I think since you gave the other party a cigarette and the other party threw it away on the spot, there may be other people around, and the other party made you lose face. In this case, it is okay. You choose to "block" the other person from your life, and you don't even understand the basic respect. There is no need to continue to date this kind of person. His character is not up to par, let alone what he does.

This is my answer.

I don’t smoke. I have offered cigarettes to guests who come to my home many times, and I have never encountered anything like this. If something like this happened, although I would be very unhappy, I don't think there is any need to worry about it. Those who offer cigarettes can remain silent or laugh it off. Because for a person who doesn't even have the basic qualities of respecting others, no matter how powerful or rich the other party is, it won't be any better. What's more important is that a cigarette also meets a person! Only personal opinion.

I once gave a cigarette to a colleague, but the colleague didn't even look at it, just threw it on the ground, and said, you can also give me cigarettes.

The first time I encountered this situation, I was confused. Fortunately, I responded in time and saved face. Point 1 is my personal experience.

I participated in more than one internship when I was in college. The so-called internship is nothing more than working in a company. Although the salary is not much, it can always gain some experience.

Moreover, some companies treat their employees very well, and working in the company is also very passionate. However, when I worked in one of the companies, I overacted and stole the spotlight from some people.

The thing is like this. At that time, a certain company happened to accept five students from our school, and the boss of the company said that this was fate, so we might as well make a comparison.

Compare to what? Comparing our five employees, which employee performs better, I will give you an additional subsidy of 5,000 yuan. At that time, our brains were a little hot after hearing this.

It should be noted that we can receive a salary of 1,000 yuan a month during the internship period, which is already a very remarkable thing.

The boss of the other company actually promised to give 5,000 yuan for good performance, which is equivalent to getting 5 months of work. In fact, the boss of that company is not short of money. Just to stimulate our fighting spirit.

According to the normal process, we will work hard. In fact, there is no need to work hard, it is just to do the things we are assigned to do well.

But one day I suddenly realized that something was not right. Something was wrong. An employee at the station next to me was working overtime to express himself. After get off work, he was still working overtime to express himself.

There is no need to explain what this means. Everyone who has been there knows it. Yes, he got involved. Once the employees get involved, then the rest of us may not have a good life.

However, other employees did not take the 5,000 yuan seriously, although they only said so on the surface.

After all, 5,000 yuan is still a huge amount of money, so we all worked very hard at that time.

Because I am engaged in this major myself, I have certain insights into the content of this major. Sometimes I can put forward some opinions when my boss holds meetings.

If you ask me if I mean to express myself, I can only say shamelessly, yes, I am also expressing myself. After all, who would not be tempted by 5,000 yuan.

In this way, I gradually became a celebrity in the eyes of the company, and my boss patted me on the shoulder and said that I had done a good job.

In fact, no matter how you look at this matter, it is nothing more than normal competition within a workplace, but I didn’t expect what happened next was beyond my imagination.

Because some seniors in the company smoke, although I don’t smoke, I carry a pack in my pocket.

I gave each of these elders or colleagues in the company a cigarette, including but not limited to people who came from the same school as me and came to this company for internships.

After I handed him a cigarette, he threw it directly on the ground without even looking at it. By the way, he also said, you have the nerve to throw such a bad cigarette in the trash can. Forget it, I'm even afraid of dirtying my mouth.

That friend of mine, of course I thought he was my friend, after saying this, my whole mind was confused. What’s going on? What’s going on?

In fact, although I didn’t know what was going on at the time, after thinking about it later, I almost understood it. It was most likely that I was too pushy during the work process, so that I stole his limelight and let him He mistook me for a serious contender.

Although I didn’t realize what was going on at the time, I still had some intelligence, so I was immediately convinced that the other person was trying to slap me in the face or deny me face.

It’s just that this matter has already happened, and it seems difficult to expect it to change.

So I could only suppress my anger and asked him, since this cigarette is not easy to smoke, why don't you take out one of your cigarettes and let me see what it looks like.

After that, I was laughed at by him, and even said some things that were unlikely to be put on the table, and then it came to an end.

Some people say that’s not right. He has already clearly expressed his intention to target you. Why don’t you confront him tit for tat?

It should be noted that if there is a tit-for-tat confrontation, what is the difference between two quarrelsome children.

In this case, the method I adopted may be more clever. I don’t need to be glib or to accuse him from the moral high ground. I just need to smile and everyone will be happy. Can understand what is right and what is wrong. Point 2, what should you do if you encounter this situation?

Whether in the workplace or in life, we will always encounter similar problems. We would like to give someone a cigarette with good intentions, but we never expected that the other person would not accept the favor and even do it in front of everyone. He said bad things about himself.

My little heart is beating fast, and I feel that my whole mental state is not good. Have you ever encountered this situation? The answer is yes.

No matter you have encountered a similar situation or have encountered this situation directly, listen to my advice and just do the following things and you will be able to turn over.

That is, never get angry. No matter how bad the other person says or how arrogant and domineering the other person is, you have to pay attention. The more impulsive the other person is, the calmer you will be.

Then you will have an advantage. It’s that simple. When you act calmly enough, or even act calmly to the extreme, to a certain extent, you have already stood on the moral high ground. You have gained an advantage that others simply cannot gain.

Because everyone with a discerning eye can see who is right and who is wrong. If you kindly take out a cigarette and invite the other person to smoke, it doesn’t matter if the other person doesn’t smoke.

He even told you that this cigarette is not good, that this cigarette is not good, and that this cigarette is not smoked by people of his level.

The more intense he behaves, the more incoherent he speaks, the more aggressive he is, and the more he regards your kindness as a thing without reward, the more advantage you will have.

Moreover, the colleagues around you who have this advantage can also see it. The thing you are most afraid of is that the other person is impulsive, and you are more impulsive than the other person.

Originally you still had some truth, but in the end you said something you shouldn’t have said, and you didn’t even have that little bit of truth.