Reflections after watching "High Quality Communication" by Zhai Hongshen
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Zhai Hongshen talks about communication and emphasizes the importance of efficient communication. First of all, Zhai Hongshen encouraged the students in the class to communicate with each other and shake hands with each other. He said that communication is the transfer of emotions, the transmission of information, and the interaction of feelings. Emotions are very important. Only with good emotions and a good atmosphere can we communicate effectively.
Later, Zhai Hongshen talked about Guiguzi and his four students, Su Qin, Zhang Yi, Sun Bin, and Pang Juan. A few students have pretty much messed up China. What exactly did he give to the students? The first thing he taught was "捭昘". What is 捭合? "捭" means to open, to open one's heart to take positive action and take the offensive; "closure" means to close one's heart, to be silent, and to turn the things that come in into one's own. One yin and one yang, one attack and one defense, one speaking and one listening, knowing when to speak and when to listen, the "捭昷" method can speak about people, the country, and the world. Once a person has mastered communication, persuasion, and speech skills, and has mastered his influence on others, he will be able to combine vertically and horizontally, combine vertically and horizontally, and create something out of nothing; he will be able to turn decay into magic, war into friendship, and the impossible into possibility - talk and laugh. In the meantime, the rafts and oars disappeared into ashes and smoke. Then, he naturally asked the audience to applaud him - this is also a kind of mutual communication. Applause is not only for the speaker, but also to show his own quality and status, to show that you are good, that you are still alive, etc. , is communication.
Next, Zhai Hongshen said that communication requires more than just teaching some skills. A narrow-minded person cannot speak with a big picture, and a person without a sense of mission cannot speak with a sense of responsibility. . He also said that in this era, because of the Internet, a lot of knowledge can be retrieved without even requiring much knowledge reserve. Knowledge is learned, and ability comes from practice. Communication is a skill that should be practiced and can be practiced. At the same time, a person's mind, virtue, and realm are cultivated.
Zhai Hongshen once again mentioned Guiguzi: "The mouth is the door to the heart." He gave an example. A woman asked, "My husband often doesn't like coming home?" Why? Zhai Hongshen replied: Because it means suffering when people go home. Who wants to suffer? The result proved to be this: before going home, her scalp was numb, and she had to process the information on her mobile phone and think about her lie - she didn't believe it to be honest anyway. Soon after getting married, I found that what I was looking for was the "Secretary of the Discipline Inspection Commission" who would review me every day. Would I like to go home with such a family atmosphere? This long period of time is caused by the husband and wife not communicating well.
"The Long March was so difficult and we all had bonfire parties." Why should it be so lifeless? The most taboo thing in communication is a dead look on one's face. Because a person's appearance comes from his heart, and his mouth is the door to his heart. Management, finance, etc. can be replaced by others, but your own structure, mind, and realm are irreplaceable. When these are improved, high-quality communication will naturally begin. There are many places you can look for tips and tricks, just search on the Internet. For some people, wherever they go, the atmosphere is good. "Never be a polluter of the atmosphere, never do anything that ruins the show." Just as he was saying it, someone answered the phone, and Zhai Hongshen took advantage of the situation to do push-ups. Communication among Chinese people begins at home, and they are filial when they come in and timid when they go out.
He also gave an example. People with high academic qualifications may not necessarily learn swimming quickly, and graduate students may not learn swimming quickly because some are unwilling to go into the water. This is a matter of attitude. If you want to change your mentality, state, and attitude, it is called "abnormal" for short. If you want to succeed, you must be "abnormal"! The greatest power in the world is the power of change! Only change is constant. Come to class, not to take notes, but to change! If you refuse to change, no amount of memory will be of any use. Communication must start from the heart! It’s not that knowledge is useless, it’s that you are useless. "Because I am useless, I am useless" (it can be understood as: If you don't use it, you are useless; it can also be understood as because you are useless, it leads to useless use).
He mentioned: It is not knowledge that is power, but the use of knowledge is power! Still the same sentence: To change, "Don't let my face ruin the feng shui of the family, the atmosphere of the team, and the atmosphere of the company. Never be a polluter of emotions and atmosphere!"
Be joyful. , thereby establishing right views, right thinking, right speech, right effort, and right mindfulness. Some people seem smart, but why can't they get things done? Because if you focus on problems rather than opportunities, you will let opportunities slip away and eventually lose your goals. He gave an example: He recommended reading a book. Two days later, a student said he had read it and asked what he had gained. He said he had corrected 37 words and planned to write a letter to the author saying that he was not responsible. Asked again, what is this book about? The answer was: I just didn’t pay attention. This kind of people only find fault with people, and they waste the ideas in that book. Of course, there is a job for this kind of person: professional proofreading. But most people can't think like this. Without positive thinking, it is easy to find fault with each other. A couple divorced less than two years ago. They recalled that the first time they had a big fight was because the toothpaste was not squeezed out properly: the man used too much force and squeezed out too much toothpaste. The woman happened to see it and said, "You are sick, so..." "Squeeze out the toothpaste." "You're the one who's sick, don't you just have a broken toothpaste?" The woman just picked up the toothbrush, and the toothpaste suddenly disappeared. Suddenly the toothbrush fell on the man, and the man sprayed the foam on the woman's face. , the two of them started fighting! Later, it escalated and I had to divorce. I still didn’t communicate well, and I still didn’t have positive thinking. How can we have right thinking, right mindfulness, and right diligence? Learn to have fun first. For example, when it comes to studying, don't take learning as a hardship, be willing to engage in it, and then use it to make positive efforts. Xuele is the key to building a learning organization. It is true that there is a road to the mountain of books, but diligence is the path. But there is no limit to the sea of learning and hard work is a problem. Studying doesn’t have to be a chore. When a person's mentality is good, he thinks positively and his actions are positive. When Maradona was playing, his opponents kicked and pulled him, but he still scored. Asked why he was not angry about these kicks and pulls, he replied: "This can reflect my value as a star." "Why not take revenge?" "The best revenge is to score a goal!" This is a positive mentality.
Zhai Hongshen specifically used his own experience as an example to illustrate that if something unpleasant happens in time, if you change your mind and adjust your mentality, you will have unexpected gains. He said that he changed into the wrong shoes on the train, and because of his positive attitude, he gained a business and gained a new friend. Always have this awareness: "Be respectful and polite to others, and we are all brothers in the world"!
This video lecture has a relatively large amount of information, but it is rich in humor and does not feel boring. As mentioned in the lecture, taking pleasure in your degree and taking pleasure in your work, then this kind of mindfulness will lead to right effort! When we study and watch these videos, we need to have this sense of "learning and enjoying".