Always quarreling with my brother, the relationship between brother and sister is not good, how can I ease the relationship between our brother and sister?
That's how I got here.
When I was a child, my brother and I grew up in different places. He grew up with his parents and I grew up with my grandparents.
So I have no emotional foundation since I was a child, and because of this, when he was sent home by his parents and wanted to live with me, we had many contradictions and often fought.
Sometimes we can't even tell who is right and who is wrong. Two small quarrels can make us fight, which is simply incompatible.
This situation has been going on for a long time. At that time, nothing was really compromised. Even if he sometimes asks me for help, I always answer in one word, get out.
There is a feeling that brothers are enemies.
Later, when I was older and more sensible, I felt that this was a joke of outsiders between the two brothers and began to exercise restraint.
I began to ignore him in order not to fight with him. I will ignore all his provocative actions unless I exceed my bottom line for him.
This is telling him that because we are brothers, there are some bottom lines between us that can't be touched. For example, I was fighting with someone and he was watching a joke. At this time, I will definitely fight him when I go home and scold him.
After I ignored him for a long time, he couldn't lose his temper and gradually became quiet.
And after I think about this, when he has something to ask me for help, I will help him if I can, and explain my predicament to him if I can't.
After all, we are two brothers, and we will support each other for life.
Later, he was more sensible, maybe he wanted to understand something, and he also knew how to protect me when he had conflicts with outsiders.
It's getting better day by day, and when I come to my senses, our relationship is already very harmonious, and we occasionally call each other and chat.