Is online dating really unreliable?
Many friends often ask me this question. The reason why I ask this is because too many media have reported cases of online dating scams for money and sex. This leads to the conclusion: online dating is a scam and online dating is unreliable.
The veteran has repeatedly stated his views on Sina Weibo, Toutiao, Zhihu and other platforms: Online dating is just a way of falling in love. Just like offline love, when you meet the right person, It's just reliable.
Let me talk about some online dating cases around me. The first person to get married online was my junior brother. He graduated three years later than me and is an active pilot in the Air Force. He met his wife through QQ. Before getting married, the army sent two The cadres went to the woman's house for political review and home visits, and found no political or moral character problems. She is also the daughter of a retired military officer. A comrade who graduated at the same time met a girl from a public institution in Shenzhen on the Internet after the divorce. He also entrusted the veteran to help with the investigation. He did not find any bad deeds on her and had already obtained a marriage certificate. The veteran himself is faster and more incredible than them. His wife is his fan and consultant. From meeting to receiving the certificate, it only took 19 days. Before I received the certificate, two comrades called me and gave me a lot of advice, asking me to be careful and worried that I would be deceived. She and I have the same marriage experience, the same personality and moral qualities, and the zodiac sign and birth date are also very similar (I know a little bit about it. Her father is a master and married us). She didn't mention any conditions before receiving the certificate. The promise to give her a customized diamond ring has not yet been fulfilled... What can she lie to me, and what can I lie to her?
Let’s talk about another case of being deceived in online dating. I often hear reports from the news media, but I have never witnessed it with my own eyes. Finally, I found one in my circle of friends. He was a contractor, and when he had nothing to do, he chatted with a woman on the Internet (like Douyin), whom he had never met in person. She pretended to be miserable and asked him to "borrow" money, but he transferred 50,000 without thinking twice. Give her yuan. Later, she blocked him and disappeared!
When men and women fall in love, which one is more reliable, online or offline? I think the key is whether you meet the right person. Even if it is introduced by relatives and friends offline, you have to get to know and understand it yourself, rather than just listen to what the introducer says. Or you can fall in love freely by getting to know classmates or colleagues. You also need to slowly understand his character, education, family, etc. yourself. The love at first sight between me and her was actually not a gamble, but a matter of trusting one's own choices based on life experience.
No one is perfect, life will not be perfect, including marriage. If you don't know how to understand and tolerate, and you don't know how to compromise, you are not suitable for marriage. To avoid being deceived by online dating, the shortcut is to consult with experienced friends, which can avoid the risk of money and sex fraud.