How was Xue Pan "refined"?
? Xue Baochai's brother Xue Pan is a nobody, but he left a deep impression on every reader. In A Dream of Red Mansions, Xue Pan was involved in a murder case before he appeared. Zhen's daughter, Zhen, was taken away at midnight and kept in prison until she was a teenager. First sold to the squire's son Feng Yuan, and then sold to the Xue family. The Feng family naturally doesn't want to, and people and money are empty. Find the seller. However, "Xue family was a bully in Jinling. Relying on financial resources, many domestic slaves killed my young master (Feng Yuan), and the master and servant all fled without a trace. " This is what Feng's family said. When Jia Yucun decided the case, Xiaomenzi said to him: "This Xue Gongzi was nicknamed' Daibawang', and he was the first person in the world. He was still angry and made money like running water, so he made a splash and dragged the winning streak away ..." The author used this life-threatening lawsuit to let Xue Pan play through other people's mouths.
? Let's first count what Xue Pan did besides the life lawsuit mentioned in the above article:
The first thing: after Xue Jia entered Beijing to live in Jiafu, "in less than a month, Jiafu's sons and nephews have already recognized half." Drinking today, watching flowers tomorrow, and even gambling and whoring are becoming ubiquitous. " ?
The second thing: Xue Pan entered the Jia family's school, where he ran amok.
The third thing: no learning, no skill. On his birthday, the fake dad tricked Jia Baoyu into going out for a drink. When drinking, he made a fool of himself and pronounced "Tang Yin" as "Huang Geng".
Fourth: He seduced the singer Liu Xianglian, but Liu Xianglian tricked him out of town, beat him up and knelt down for mercy.
Fifth: On the way to a business trip, I met Jiang Yuhan and killed another person.
Sixth: After seeing Xia Jingui, I liked the new and hated the old, abandoned Xiangling and married Xia Jingui. Unexpectedly, I married a hag and went home. This time, for Xiong Haizi, it was a catastrophe.
When and how was this notorious Xiong Haizi Xue Pan "tempered"?
Let's look at Xue Pan's fourth official appearance in A Dream of Red Mansions. The author wrote: "Xue Gongzi, also a native of Jinling, was originally a scholarly family. Now this Xue Gongzi has lost his father since childhood, and my widowed mother pities him as an orphan, which is rather spoiled." He also wrote: "This Xue Gongzi, whose scientific name is Xue Pan, is ten years old and five years old. He is arrogant in temperament and arrogant in speech. I have been to school, but I know a few words. All day, only cockfighting and sightseeing. Although he is an imperial businessman, he knows nothing about economic circles. However, due to my grandfather's old love, the housing department gave money and food in a false name, and the rest was organized by my old friend. "
? Therefore, there is a reason for Xue Pan's exquisiteness. In a popular saying, "Behind every Xiong Haizi, there is a bear parent".
The formation of Xue Pan's character is related to his growing environment. First of all, his family is a rich second generation of imperial merchants, but his father died early and lacked strict discipline. In feudal families, the role of the father is very important, and the father is the authority in the family. You see Jia Baoyu is scared to death every time he hears his father call him. When he meets his father, he will be scolded or beaten. If Xue Pan had such a strict father since childhood, I'm afraid this Xiong Haizi wouldn't be so bear. This gives us modern people a profound enlightenment. Even in the modern era of advocating democracy and respecting children's rights and individuality, fathers are still indispensable in family education. A child's growth is inseparable from his father who is full of heavy love and majesty. Raising children is not just a mother's business. American psychologist said: "Motherly love is the earth, and fatherly love is the sky." Without the earth, children can't absorb nutrition, and without the sky, children can't fly with wings.
Secondly, since Xue Pan's father died young, Aunt Xue should shoulder the responsibility of education. In this regard, Aunt Xue obviously didn't do it, but just "indulged blindly". Relying on her family's money and the support of a large family, Xue Pan settled anything with money, even a life-threatening lawsuit, which further acquiesced and even encouraged Xiong Haizi to develop in a more responsible direction. Aunt Xue is devoted to being a loving mother? But she obviously didn't realize that love is not a doting without a bottom line, but a love full of wisdom and strategy. Aunt Xue needs to make up the lesson of family education. In fact, it is not only Aunt Xue who needs to make up lessons, but many of us modern people also need to make up lessons. I have seen or heard too many parents complain that "my Xiong Haizi doesn't listen to me, and I take care of his life in every way." This child not only refuses to buy it, but also opposes me everywhere. " The parents who said this may have forgotten how cute the child was when he was born. Why did it take a few years or more to become Xiong Haizi? I think every parent will find the reason why Xiong Haizi is "exquisite" when reviewing your parenting experience for more than ten years. As the saying goes, "Rome was not built three times a day." Xiong Haizi was not tempered in a day. Do parents, especially mothers, indulge their children as Aunt Xue thought when she was a child? An educator once said, "If you want to destroy a child, it is enough to give him everything he needs". Mother plays an important role in family education, and having a good mother at home is a good feng shui for a family. Therefore, a person must make up the lesson of parenting before becoming a mother. Unfortunately, our education is deficient in this respect.
However, Xue Pan was not born bad. In fact, his nature is still very good. He is still a loving and filial family boy. Baoyu and Xifeng were fascinated by Ma Daopo, and the Jia family was in a mess. This is because Xue Pan is thinking about several women in their family: "I am afraid that Aunt Xue will be squeezed, that Xue Baochai will be seen, and that Xiangling will be ashamed." This shows Xue Pan. After Baoyu was beaten, Baochai mistakenly thought it was Xue Pan's complaint. As a result, Xue Pan said a few cruel words, which made Aunt Xue and Baochai angry. The next day, Xue Pan took the initiative to apologize to his mother and sister. These show that Xue Pan is not a heinous and hopeless person. His behavior is completely the result of acquired lack of discipline and correct education and guidance.
The greatness of A Dream of Red Mansions lies in that there is no distinction between praise and criticism for any character written by the author. He just described the richness of the characters, showing us that readers can interpret the characters from various angles. Xue Pan is a good example. We interpret Xue Pan from the perspective of education. Although Xue Pan is a typical case of Xiong Haizi, we should not forget that Xue Pan still has the potential to be a good child in his heart. Just like a point that Soviet educator Suhomlinski has always emphasized: "Believe in children", as parents and educators, only by believing that children have the desire and potential to be good children can a good education be possible and valuable. ?