How to set the stage for serving tea at the wedding?
Teapots and teacups: The number of teacups is arranged according to the number of elders present on both sides.
Cover bowls and cups: the number of cups is arranged according to the number of elders present on both sides. Tell the elders how to use the cup in advance, and don't drop the cup.
Color: avoid birthday characters, Dulong, Song Qing Bai Cui and other patterns. , and it is best to be simple but elegant or festive monochrome.
Etiquette:
Newcomers should offer tea with both hands, according to their generations, and the oldest elders, such as family members, grandparents and so on, should be respected first.
Everyone who drinks tea will give a red envelope or jewelry to the couple as a sign of acceptance, recognition and blessing.
Taboo:
Don't take a teacup without a handle. If you can't hold it stably and knock it over, it will be rude and embarrassing. Do not use the tea of slimming tea, because the traditional wedding emphasizes the meaning, and it is best to have a fat house. Being fat is a blessing, and losing weight is equivalent to reducing happiness, so it is better to use Tieguanyin, Pu 'er and fragrant tablets.
Materials:
Red dates represent good luck; If you want to spread branches and leaves, if you have a baby early, don't pick out the jujube pit, because the jujube pit is a seed and represents future generations.
Lotus seeds, do not cut, must be complete, because cutting in half means separation, unlucky; Don't peel (peel) it, because lotus seeds are white after peeling (peeling), which is just the opposite of marriage (red substance), so it is best to make tea with peeled lotus seeds. As far as weight is concerned, as far as the so-called yes-men are concerned, a pair of everything is enough.
2. The custom of offering tea at the wedding.
Ancient wedding tea, called tea ceremony, is also called "receiving tea".
Why use tea? Chen has an explanation in article 44 "Planting Tea" in the Book of Heaven: "Where a tea tree is planted, it must be moved and cannot be resurrected. Therefore, vulgar women must take tea as a gift, and righteousness is inherent. " In fact, tea seeds, cuttings or layering can be propagated. The ancients said that this should be the situation of tea planting at that time.
Ruan Kuisheng's Tea Guest Talk was published for nineteen years in Qing Dynasty. In Huainan area, the man gave the woman a bride price. "Under the precious coins, there must be tea, and a bottle of tea is distributed to relatives and friends." This marriage custom existed in the Song Dynasty at the latest.
This custom also exists in other places. And continue to modern times.
In the Qing Dynasty, Fogg's Listening to the Rain contains eight volumes: "In this wedding, tea is used as the currency, which is universal in Manchu and Chinese. It is not necessary." This shows that this is very common and serious.
Some people get married, sometimes they don't need tea, but the dowry should be called "tea", which means the engagement is irrevocable. Today, in Dongxiang, Gansu, before the engagement, the man asked the matchmaker to go to the woman's house as a matchmaker. After the promise, the man gave the woman a piece of cloth and several bags of fine tea, which was considered an engagement, so it was called "ordering tea".
* * * "Eating happy tea" is also called "making tea". After the woman in Xunhua, Qinghai agreed to get married, three matchmakers sent fucha, clothes, cosmetics, green ropes and red ropes to her home on an auspicious day in the ecliptic to show their engagement.
On the engagement day in Yunnan, both men and women should prepare some sugar, tea, fruit and rice cakes to entertain their in-laws. Linxia, Gansu Province * * * keeps the title of "ordering tea", that is, when the man gets married, he sends tea bricks or tea to the woman's house, and the woman accepts it and is allowed to get married.
The Han people in western Zhejiang call matchmaking a "walking medium". The matchmaker said that if the woman agreed, she would make tea and cook eggs for entertainment, commonly known as "tea."
In Jiaxing area, the matchmaker gives the man's gifts, such as dates, cakes, jewelry, clothes and gifts, to the woman, who is called "receiving tea" and cannot promise others. At the same time, the matchmaker is required to bring gifts back to the man's house and invite relatives and friends to drink to show their engagement, which is also called "peace of mind wine".
More interesting is the "tea making" in Huang Po and Xiaogan, Hubei. When the man informs the woman that he has decided to get married, besides fruit, all kinds of gifts must include tea and salt.
Because tea is produced in the mountains and salt comes from the sea, it is named "Camellia Sea Sand", which is the sound of "vows of eternal love" in the dialect. There is also icing instead of salt.
The security guard in Jishishan, Gansu Province usually gives the woman tea as a gift when she is engaged, so it is called "taking tea". In short, regardless of Han nationality or ethnic minorities, after the woman accepts the man's tea ceremony, the general marriage can no longer move.
However, in the past, the marriage custom of "returning to tea" was popular in Tianzhu, Jianhe and Sansui in Guizhou. The girl's marriage was arranged by her parents. If the girl really doesn't want to, she will break off the marriage relationship by "returning tea".
That is, the girl wrapped a bag of tea in paper and sent it to the man's house. She said to the man's parents, "I don't have the blessing to take care of the elderly." Please find another good wife. " Put the tea on the table in the main room, and then turn around and leave.
If you are not caught by your fiance or his family, the marriage will be cancelled; If caught, you can kill the pig and get married immediately. Therefore, it is necessary to find out the environment of men's homes in advance, enter and exit routes, and take advantage of parents' homes without meeting people.
If you want to get away from success, you need both courage and strategy. Successful people will be praised and revered by women.
Although parents will scold or beat their daughters, they still have to go through the formalities of breaking off their marriage. The next engagement, I have to respect my daughter's opinion.
It's not just engagement and divorce that can't be separated from tea. In some places and some ethnic groups, tea runs through the wedding. In Sima Qian's hometown of Hancheng, young men and women are called "talking" when they meet for the first time and fall in love.
After the negotiation, the woman poured tea for the man's parents to recognize each other, and the south also poured tea in return. On the day of engagement, the woman went to the man's house. During the free time of breakfast and lunch, the woman first poured tea for the man's parents and relatives, and then offered a cup of tea with both hands. The south is also like women serving tea one by one, with clear titles.
On the wedding night, the new wife, accompanied by her aunt, offered tea to the whole family, old and young. And pour tea for family members with the same surname.
Before playing house, the neighbors scrambled to take a sip of the bride's fragrant tea and said, "It's no harm to drink the bride's tea." Calling for tea is actually to see the appearance of the new wife, to appreciate whether her manners are elegant, and to make people stare at her shyness.
When playing house, husband and wife should drink tea arm in arm. If there is something wrong with the person who changes the house, it is an embarrassment for the newlyweds. The clever girl asks the bride to pour tea to help.
After the game, the newlywed wife poured tea to see the guests off. Among the Han people in Hunan and other places, there is a saying of "three teas", which is a general term for marriage proposal, blind date and tea brewed in front of the bridal chamber.
The matchmaker came to propose marriage, and the woman's home was sweet with sugar and tea, with kind words; The man went on a blind date, and both sides were satisfied. The woman handed me a cup of tea. After drinking tea, the man puts money or other valuables in the cup and returns it to the woman. The woman accepted it out of her heart. In front of the bridal chamber, red dates, peanuts, cassia seeds and longan are used to make tea, and rock sugar is mixed to entertain guests, which means that your son is born early and jumps over the Longmen. These three times of drinking tea are collectively called "three teas".
On the wedding day, Salars in Qinghai and Gansu crossed the village to marry their brides. In these villages, women married in the same village as the bride offer boiled pillow tea, warmly treat the bride and those who see her off, and express their warm welcome to the bride, which is called "respecting new tea". In the last village near the man's house, the women in the village will not only offer new tea, but also reveal some information about the wedding ceremony of the man's house to the bride. It is said that this custom has a long history, which was produced when the ancestors of the Salar nationality intermarried with Xunhua Tibetans.
On her wedding day in southern Zhejiang, the bride went to the man's house, set off firecrackers and sent two people to take her to nave. This is a girl whose parents are still alive, chosen by her husband's family. A bowl of sweet egg tea (eggs, ducks and eggs are all ok, no tea) is handed to the bride to eat, which is called "eating egg tea".
According to the custom, the bride can only bow her head to drink tea and not eat eggs. If you eat eggs, you will be considered unstable and discriminated by your husband and others.
After other guests (those who accompany the bride to her husband's house) eat the egg tea, the bride puts the red packets prepared in advance on the plate and writes "egg tea bag" to thank the tea giver.
3. What's particular about the heaven and earth table for wedding sacrifice?
The specification of the world table is a square table with four feet and four corners, which should be flat, stable and stable, symbolizing the world, east and west, north and south, and red cloth must be laid on the table to show good luck. The specific tribute varies according to the object of sacrifice, and there is no specific requirement, but you should burn incense and light candles.
So when you get married, put the table of heaven and earth and worship heaven and earth:
There must be incense and red candles when worshipping heaven and earth, which are lit before worshipping heaven and earth. The table of heaven and earth is covered with red cloth and sits north and south. Men in the west and women in the east stand facing the table of heaven and earth in the north, with the master of ceremonies leading the singing, and the newcomers kowtowing four times. The arrangement of tables (tables) varies from place to place, but the main things are not far apart. On the table (table) of heaven and earth, there is the main memorial tablet of heaven and earth. There is a bucket full of grain in front of the memorial tablet, and the word "full of gold and jade" is stuck on the bucket. The bucket is sealed with red paper and planted with cypress branches. Copper coins are tied to the branches, which are called "cash cows". A scale is inserted into the bucket, and the scale has sixteen stars, representing the Big Dipper, the Six Stars in Nandou and the Three Stars in Fulushou respectively, which means that good luck shines brightly and you are satisfied. Hanging a bronze mirror on the scale to ward off evil spirits also means that it is as bright as a mirror; Put her mother-in-law's expression on the bride on the table for a long time. Put another ruler, fair and comfortable, and have good conduct; And red dates and peanuts.
Put a bucket, a scale and a ruler on the table between heaven and earth, which is three media and six certificates.
4. Wedding refreshments
In southern Fujian, the order of offering tea for marriage is from the inside out, from the old to the young, introduced by the groom one by one, and offered tea to the bride one by one, and the bride is called whatever the groom calls.
The specific order starts from the family, starting from the oldest, such as great-grandparents (if they are still alive, the same below), grandparents, parents-in-law, uncles and aunts, eldest brother and sister-in-law, brother-in-law and aunt (some younger brothers get married before their brothers, but of course younger than the bride should also toast back to show respect)! Then there are the in-laws who come to the wedding banquet, such as uncles and aunts, grandparents, uncles and aunts. If they don't send representatives to the wedding reception, they can decide to respect them first, then cousins (from old to young), and then neighbors and friends. Finally, help.
5. How to set the table for the wedding?
Pay attention to the wedding banquet seats in Chinese weddings;
Tips 1。 Seats should be arranged according to the seniority of the guests at the wedding banquet, which is called "treat" or "follow-up". The principle of seating arrangement is to respect the upper and lower, respect the right and respect the left. Guests are sorted from high to low according to age, identity and status.
Tips2。 The chairman should put it in the middle of the upper room, and invite the "big relatives" to sit at the right head, the groom's father or uncle at the left head, and the rest according to seniority.
Tips3。 In addition to the main seat in the main hall, the next distinguished seat is placed in the new house. The bride's mother is invited to sit first, accompanied by the groom's mother or aunt. The seats of other seats should also be arranged in order.
Tips4。 After the seats were arranged, the best man announced that the banquet would be held with music and firecrackers. The groom should first propose a toast to the chief and say a few words of thanks. Then the first course in the kitchen will push the wedding banquet to * * *.
Tips5。 All tables and drinks should be the same except the seats where "male relatives" and "female relatives" are located. Generally speaking, there must be a steamed pork elbow. Moreover, the groom should always wait at the table to pour wine and send hot towels to "relatives" to show respect.
Tips6。 The matchmaker has already left before the wedding reception is over. This is called "running away". If he doesn't leave, the "washing media" will wipe his face into the bottom of the pot. After the wedding reception, "Shangqin" went to the back room to rest, ate some snacks, and was accompanied by the man's elders to say some polite words. The handyman moved his seat, and after sweeping the floor, Shang Qin should get up and leave. At the beginning of the day, men should "send away" clothes, shoes and socks and pay attention to red envelopes. "Farewell Kiss" is another lively scene. All decent men in the family should be sent to the door and set off firecrackers to show their respect.
As the protagonist of Chinese wedding, the wedding banquet is very important, and the arrangement of wedding seats is also very particular. I hope my answer will be helpful to the couple who plan to hold a Chinese wedding. But it can also be modified according to the actual situation!