What’s the point of visiting parents’ graves?

Question 1: Is there any particularity for a son to visit his father’s grave during the Qingming Festival?

1. Nowadays, when visiting the grave during the Qingming Festival, people put paper on the graves of their deceased ancestors. Cut flag.

It is said that there will be a meeting in the underworld during Qingming Festival, and people without descendants cannot participate. Those attending the conference must hold flags given by descendants to enter. Therefore, during the Qingming festival, people now place paper-cut flags on the graves of their deceased ancestors.

2. The time to visit graves during Qingming Festival should be before Qingming Festival, not after.

In terms of time, there is a folk saying of "three in the first and four in the back". In other words, it is okay to visit graves from three days before to four days after Qingming Festival. In fact, this statement is wrong. It is an excuse made by people who are busy with work and career.

3. You can also visit graves on Tomb Sweeping Day, but you should go earlier, usually before 8 o'clock in the morning. Otherwise it will be meaningless.

4. There is another saying about visiting graves on the day before Qingming Festival. Some people call this day "Cold Food Festival". It is best not to visit the grave on this day. Visiting graves during Qingming Festival is a good way to pay homage to ancestors and show filial piety. I rarely go to my ancestors' graves, so it is a good thing to take advantage of the Qingming Festival to take a look, add some soil to the graves, and repair any holes or collapsed areas.

5. Don’t move around when visiting graves during Qingming Festival. Don’t throw away those stones that are swaying and looking untidy and replace them with beautiful and neat stones. The general principle is "don't mess around, just add, don't subtract." Just don't mess with the ancestral graves easily. Just add more soil and stones, don't remove them. Unsightly stones can be covered with an additional layer.

Visiting graves during Qingming Festival is a good way to pay homage to ancestors and show filial piety. I rarely go to my ancestors' graves, so it is a good thing to take advantage of the Qingming Festival to take a look, add some soil to the graves, and repair any holes or collapsed areas.

Question 2: I usually want to visit the graves of my late parents. What’s the point of paying attention to tulips and winter jasmine? I’m eager to decorate the ancient city. The ancient city with more than 2,000 years of history has a solemn look on its face. He was honest and honest, lowering his head and thinking quietly. Tolerant, kind, accustomed to the ups and downs of the secular world, and carries the whims and thoughts of generations of residents.

Question 3: What’s the point of a son not visiting his parents’ graves for three years? I’ve never heard of this custom. They try to visit their parents’ graves every year as much as possible. How can there be a son who doesn’t visit his parents’ graves for three years?

Question 4: Why is it that when a girl visits her parents' graves, she has to go back to her parents' house for dinner? Is there any particularity? Generally there is no such saying, but when a married girl comes back to visit her parents' graves, she should go to her parents' house first. It is better to have brothers. Accompanied by sisters or relatives, you must first turn your back to the tomb and worship outward, and then you can worship your parents. The memorial ceremony usually requires a lot of incense. After the ceremony, tin foil and paper money are burned, and then you can return home accompanied by relatives. Dinner at my parents’ house.

Question 5: Is there anything special about visiting the graves of deceased parents during the Spring Festival? First, express condolences. Secondly, you should express more of your suppressed emotions and talk more about your recent affairs in front of the grave.

Question 6: What is the time for tomb-sweeping? The Qingming Festival falls between April 4 and 6 every year in the Gregorian calendar. It was also called the March Festival in ancient times. It is one of the important traditional folk festivals in my country. In 2006, it was included in the first batch of national intangible cultural heritage lists. It was officially established as a legal holiday in 2008. The Qingming Festival began around the Zhou Dynasty and has a history of more than 2,500 years.

However, there are some taboos and taboos that should be avoided during the Qingming tomb sweeping period. Don’t ignore the 30 most basic principles of tomb-sweeping during the Qingming Festival:

1. The Qingming Festival is to honor the ancestors

The Qingming Festival is an activity to honor the deceased. The Qingming Festival is very important. In China, or in the eyes of the Chinese, ancestor worship is bound to filial piety. If you do not participate in ancestor worship, you are an unfilial person and a person who has forgotten your ancestors.

Worshiping mountains during the Qingming Festival means sweeping tombs. Many cemeteries in Jiangnan and the south are on mountains, so they are called worshiping mountains. In the north, it is commonly known as tomb sweeping or visiting graves.

2. Are there ethnic differences in tomb-sweeping during the Qingming Festival?

Tomb-sweeping during the Qingming Festival is called "respect for the times" of ancestors. It is the biggest day for ancestor worship and tomb-sweeping in our country. Therefore, most of the Han people and some ethnic minorities in my country sweep tombs during the Tomb Sweeping Day. However, remind friends that some ethnic groups also carry out similar activities on other days.

3. What is the usual procedure for sweeping tombs during the Qingming Festival?

According to custom, the order of sacrifice and sweeping is to first sweep the tomb, that is, clean the cemetery.

The second is sacrifice. This procedure is very important. One is to express grief, and the other is to relate to the ancestors, because the mountains have spirits but no owners, and the ancestors have owners but no spirits. It is necessary to relate to the ancestors. Feeling can better capture the aura of mountains and rivers. This is Feng Shui.

When sweeping the tomb, people bring wine, food, fruits, paper money and other items to the cemetery, offer the food in front of the tomb of their relatives, burn the paper money, put new soil on the tomb, trim the tomb, and break a few new green branches. Insert it on the grave, and press some paper money on it to let others see it and know that there are descendants of this grave, and then kowtow to worship. Afterwards, they can sit around and have a meal and drink; they can also fly kites, or even compete with each other and engage in related activities. Women and children also need to fold some willow branches nearby and tie the removed steamed food offerings with wickers. Some people braid willow sticks into a basket shape and wear them on their heads, saying, "If you don't wear willow during Qingming Festival, you will become a yellow dog in the next life." That is: modifying the cemetery - offering incense - serving meat - toasting - paying homage - setting off cannons to say goodbye...

4. Is the earlier the Qingming tomb-sweeping the better?

What is involved here There are two timing issues:

First, should the tomb be swept on the Qingming Festival or at any time before or after? The sooner the better? As long as it's during the Qingming Festival, it depends on your convenience. Of course, there are some local customs in various places, and we must respect these customs. Also, for some customs, there are some differences in the time between sweeping the graves of relatives who have died within a year and sweeping the graves of relatives who have died for more than a year. Remind friends to abide by relevant local customs.

Secondly, is the earlier the specific departure time on the day of tomb sweeping the better?

The answer is yes, not necessarily. It depends on your own situation. It is best to do it between 5 and 7 o'clock, which is Mao hour. In the ancient calendar, it was one. Of course, it's usually not that early.

5. Can pregnant women go to visit graves during the Qingming Festival?

Generally speaking, pregnant women should avoid mountain worship activities during the Qingming Festival, and that’s not all. Strictly speaking, it is best for women not to participate in such activities when they are on their period, especially during the Qingming Festival after 3 p.m. Remind friends: Our motherland is vast, and the customs of tomb-sweeping are slightly different in the north and the south. For example: in the south, children usually go to the tomb-sweeping ceremony, while in some places in the north, the daughters usually do not go to the tomb-sweeping graves. If they are married daughters, they go with their husbands to go to the tomb-sweeping graves.

6. Can I worship my ancestors at home during the Qingming Festival?

The Qingming sweeping ceremony should be held in person at the cemetery, but due to various reasons, many people cannot return to their hometowns to participate in the Qingming mountain worship activities. , then you can also worship your ancestors at home. The method is to put food for worship on the balcony or living room at home, facing the hometown, burn three sticks of incense, bow three times, and silently recite relevant words. Then, paper money is burned to offer sacrifices. This one is very important.

7. What kind of flowers are appropriate to buy during the Qingming Festival to commemorate the deceased?

Usually chrysanthemums, because in ancient my country, chrysanthemums were regarded as flowers of sustenance, with the meaning of longing and remembrance. White chrysanthemums are the most suitable, and they can also be paired with some green grass, such as lilies, green leaves, carnations, etc., to make them more beautiful. Yellow chrysanthemums are known as longevity chrysanthemums and are more suitable for visiting patients.

8. Why should you look at your forehead on the morning of Qingming Festival?

On the morning of sweeping the tomb, before washing up, look at your forehead in the mirror to see if there is any dark complexion. If there is, it means that your fortune is low, so it is better to avoid tomb sweeping on that day; if you must go, you can wear jade, peach wood, etc. with you to alleviate the problem.

9. Is it necessary to fast before sweeping the tomb?

It is best to fast before sweeping the tomb: When you set out to sweep the tomb, it is best not to eat food or eat vegetarian food. Clothes... ...gt；gt;

Question 7: What are the requirements for visiting graves? After visiting the graves of parents and peers, do you still need to visit the graves? It is a way of paying homage. Nowadays, people no longer have too many taboos. Dress more solemnly, anyone can go, the deceased is the most important.

Question 8: What’s the problem if someone else visits your parents’ graves? It’s just a relative. It doesn’t matter what other people say. If others visit your parents’ graves, they will think you are a traitor, which will make your life difficult in the future. Your parents may stalk people visiting graves. Every place has its own superstitions, but it’s better not to believe in these superstitions and scare yourself.

Question 9: What’s the point of visiting the graves of deceased parents on February 2? First, express condolences. Secondly, you should express more of your suppressed emotions and talk more about your recent affairs in front of the grave.

Question 10: What kind of flowers are suitable for visiting parents’ graves? White chrysanthemums, white lilies, calla lilies, etc.