How can I make myself generous?
Building strong interpersonal relationships means that people around you will support you and personally help you realize your ideas, instead of hitting you or holding you back from time to time.
honest
The best way to be strong inside is honesty. In this way, all the energy in your body is used to effectively push your brain to become stronger, instead of resisting attacks on your weaknesses.
3. Think more about others and less about yourself.
People with strong hearts always solve one problem after another for others. In this process, his own problems will be solved.
read
We all have only one life. But if you study, you can learn about another person's past life in a few days. Increasing your reading can improve your personality charm.
keep fit
Need a healthy body to cope with other aspects of life.
6. Learn, express and repeat.
Science tells us that 45 minutes after class, college students have forgotten 80% of the class content. The next day, they forgot all about it.
First, you have to listen. If you hear things that interest you, write them down in your notes. Then in an hour, talk to someone about it. The next day, tell others about it. On the third day, the same.
So-called learning is produced in this way. People with strong hearts learn how to learn.
With a strong heart, you can face setbacks more calmly, taste life more delicately, face temptations more rationally, be carefree when you are poor, and embrace poverty in rich villages. Whether young children or older adults, all the years they go through are actually a test. Happiness lets you know that there is love in this world, and hardship lets you know that life is not easy. Maybe you can't change anything now. However, only by making your heart strong can you be truly strong!
I saw a sentence the other day, which is quite reasonable. There is no wisdom, but if you can follow it, it does sound reasonable. But if you really follow it, you will always be a follower, because you don't have to think too much about following others, just follow it. Being an employee is good, but as long as you are beaten by the wind and rain, your eyebrows will rise and sometimes you will get hurt, which shows that you can't stand the inner blow.
If you want to be cheerful, you must strengthen your heart. Those great people are all people with strong hearts. No matter where they are, they will show a leisurely side, be able to take care of the overall situation and achieve a spirit of selflessness. In fact, the core behind this is that their hearts are strong enough.
Living in such a fast-paced society, the speed of change has far exceeded your imagination. Therefore, if you want to find a foothold in the complicated society, you must recognize the society, see yourself clearly, find yourself a soul, and let your impetuous heart slowly calm down. Only in this way can our hearts grow stronger.
To make your heart strong, you must first be independent from the care of your parents. As a special animal, people need to rely on their parents for many years (18 years internationally) to be independent, and many children in China need more time.
I have been cared for by adults since I was a child. I talk eloquently, reach for clothes, and solve problems with adults. So in the process of growing up, this experience has a strong inertia. Even if you are an adult, you will expect that the problems in life will not be solved and faced by yourself for a while, but will be handled by your parents or other more powerful people.
The first growth is to realize that no one will be unconditionally responsible for the problems in our lives, but for themselves.
As long as you keep acting and summing up in your life, you will soon reach this level, because dependence can't really solve the problem and won't make you really happy.
Secondly, you should take care of others and gradually become a reliable person in life or work. At work, you can not only do your own work well, but also hold some positions to manage and support others' work.
Many people, especially women, automatically grow to this level after having children. In life and work, taking on more things will gradually make you a reliable person.
Besides, you should be able to examine yourself. To achieve inner stability, believe in your own views and feelings, and listen to your inner voice. Many people rely too much on the external evaluation system. For example, someone will ask: Do you think I am right? Is there something wrong with me? People who rely on the external evaluation system expect others to give them an answer, a certification, or a basis for their lives. They also care about other people's opinions or feelings. Some friends often tell fortune-telling, or keep their friends' words and parents' words in mind to guide their lives. However, what he wants and how to act is unclear and unstable.
Others try to prove to a person who once looked down on them that this is also a sign of being kidnapped by other people's comments.
A person realizes his own value through self-improvement and the pursuit of success, but he must first make clear his outlook on life and values. Only by setting a correct goal can we find the direction in our hearts and stop getting lost.
Other people's opinions are all others' after all. Only you can clearly understand your thoughts and feelings. If you care too much about other people's opinions or feelings, you will easily lose yourself, or even get confused.
Also, admit your vulnerability. Dare to admit and accept your vulnerability, accept, respect, not deny, not suppress and ignore your feelings, including uncomfortable feelings.
Be true to yourself, especially those aspects that you have been reluctant to accept and admit. Everyone has such shortcomings, which is not terrible, because there are no perfect people in the world. As long as we face up to our own shortcomings, it is the mentality of the wise and the behavior of the brave.
For those uncomfortable feelings in life, don't escape, face and experience them slowly, and find yourself slowly.
Finally, realize that the world is just a projection of yourself. Stop arguing about right and wrong and winning or losing, and don't put the responsibility for your emotions and feelings on others.
All our thoughts and feelings about the world are our "projections" of the world. In other words, we first have an inner world, and then we know the outside world through the inner world, just like looking at the outside world with colored glasses, but we are actually filtered by ourselves.
Sometimes we like to argue about right and wrong, and each of our thoughts and feelings are related to our own experiences. You think you are right, and others think you are right. In fact, everyone is right, and the wrong one may be the one who wants to fight. Our understanding and feelings about the world are neither objective nor true. When you realize the projection of the universe, you will have the opportunity not to care about right and wrong, and you will not pass on your emotional responsibility to others.
If you really realize and experience this, a person will choose a "more effective" way to face the world, not the way he thinks is right. For example, apologizing is not because you really feel wrong, but to save a relationship.
1) When you encounter a problem, ask others what they think and feel, and you will find that everyone feels differently. If you learn about TA's family story again, you will find that everyone's opinions and feelings are related to their own experiences.
2) Understand why you are right?
3) Learn the theories of psychology, especially the attachment theory, and understand how your cognitive model is formed.
A strong heart needs to sum up experience from the accumulation of life, examine itself, change itself and improve itself. Only when you are strong inside can you be really strong!