What are the taboos of family separation?

1, brother, who will speak first? Taboo: When brothers are separated, mother and uncle speak first, because generally speaking, this matter is presided over by mother and uncle, which has been the case since ancient times. This is called the mother's uncle taking care of the nephew, and they are all the same. In case of special circumstances, the host can't be played by his mother's uncle, so he has to choose another person from his own family (mother's maiden) instead. The identity of the host shows that the folk customs in southern Fujian have the legacy of the matriarchal concept in the past. Separation needs a middleman, that is, a notary, who is usually a prestigious boss (elder) in the separated family. At the same time, please ask your uncle to be a supervisor to prevent parents from being partial or brothers from seizing power.

2. What can I do on that day? On the day of separation, we need to distribute according to the amount of property. This is because the former fields were shared by everyone, mainly fields, houses, farm tools, furniture and other property, which were distributed equally according to the number of sons. If the father owes a debt, he should also distribute it to his son for repayment through consultation. This is the so-called father's debt and son's compensation, and it is only natural. But the extension of fingers has its length, and the distribution of property cannot be completely equal. For example, the allocation of a house is usually to give the eldest son a big room with the best quality, and the others are allocated in turn. The younger son is often a small house with a head and a tail, so there is a saying that the younger son has ears.

3. Parents' preference for separation: Parents' preference means that when a family is separated, parents' preference is very important, just like the older generation said that their fingers are sticking out. Generally speaking, before the separation of brothers, the relationship is very good and they don't care too much about things. On the contrary, it is the sisters-in-law who are blushing for something, some of whom have estranged and buried old grievances, and the two brothers no longer walk together because of women and men. Therefore, there are no good brothers in southern Fujian, but sisters-in-law.