What do you think of children taking their mother's surname or their father's surname?

Some time ago, my cousin gave birth to a second child. In the hospital, I quarreled with my husband's in-laws because of the child's name. It turns out that my cousin and her husband discussed that Dabao, the first-born child, takes his father's surname with his son, and if Bauer is a daughter, he takes his mother's surname. As a result, Bauer was born a girl, but her in-laws didn't want her children to have her surname. They also cursed their son: "No backbone. It has been a rule for thousands of years that children take their father's surname. If they take their mother's surname, do you still have dignity? " My cousin almost fainted with anger.

Actually, my cousin doesn't have to be too angry. The son's surname is father and the daughter's surname is mother. Who knows the "crisis" hidden behind seemingly love and respect?

Different surnames will alienate children or make them laugh.

Not to mention that the son takes the father's surname and the daughter takes the mother's surname, only that the two children have different surnames. What troubles will there be? First of all, different surnames will make children feel that they are either "divorced" from this family, or "I am a father" or "I am a mother". In this way, if there is any stumbling in life, the two children will easily form hostility, which will lead to estrangement.

In addition, the two children have different surnames, so they are easily mistaken for brothers and sisters when they go out, and they will also be mistaken for children after their second marriage. In other words, even if others know that they are close, they will laugh at whether their parents are divorced. Really, this kind of thing will happen. A classmate of mine fell in love with her husband Xiuen, and both children had surnames. As a result, the children changed back before they went to primary school. Children's classmates always laugh at them because they are too troublesome and have to explain a lot to the people around them when they go out.

Men follow men and women follow women, which in itself reveals the meaning of male superiority or son preference.

Then, when it comes to "sons take their fathers' surnames and daughters take their mothers' surnames", there is something wrong with the way men take their surnames and women take their surnames. Why don't sons take their mother's surname and daughters their father's surname? After all, is it not that men are superior to women, or that men are superior to women? Therefore, behind love, it is actually the right and dignity of men to protect their children's surnames for thousands of years, but it is a kind of "false generosity" to give their daughters' surnames to their wives now. If it is true, they will give their son to their wife's surname.

As far as I know, most people who really want their sons to take their wives' names actually have two sons, and the wife is an only child, so there is nothing the man can do. Therefore, this way of giving children a surname itself exposes that men are superior to women or prefer men to women, and it is only a matter of time before family conflicts are triggered.

Parents of the man and the woman are prone to conflict.

In addition, even if a man really loves and respects his wife, he is willing to let his daughter and even his son take her surname. But if the man's parents don't agree, there will be a big family conflict. Moreover, there are many only children now. If the wife is an only child, do parents also value the question of whose surname the child takes? If you value it, then it is easy for parents to have conflicts because of the child's surname.

In fact, many people understand this problem, so some reasonable old people avoid contradictions in advance. As I said at the beginning, my cousin's in-laws object to the children taking her surname. She asked her parents for help, but surprisingly, the two old people didn't approve of her changing her daughter's surname. They think this is not good for the two children, and whether there is a surname other than theirs. Anyway, half the blood of their women's family flows on their offspring.