In a marriage relationship, is the biggest price for a woman who marries the wrong partner a divorce?

We all want to live the way we like, but we all live the way we hate the most. Maybe things in the world are always unsatisfactory, maybe you are just ruined by your partner. inside.

Warren Buffett said: The most important investment in life is to find the right person to marry you. ?

In fact, for a woman, marriage is the most critical turning point and the most critical step in her life. If you choose this step wrong, every step you take in the future will be wrong. .

Choice is more important than effort. Effort is meaningful only when you choose the right person.

What is the right person? It's not perfect, nor is it suitable, because in this world, there is no truly perfect or absolutely suitable person. The so-called right person refers to character, opinion and responsibility, as well as wisdom and sense of responsibility.

The kind of person you choose is equivalent to the kind of life you choose.

Emotion is not a slogan, but sharing, love and understanding that can be implemented in the details of life.

Marriage can not only directly affect a woman's appearance and lifespan, but also her personality, her love for life, and her vision for the future. These are the driving forces for a person to live actively. The scariest thing is not that you are not loved, but that you have lost this free but precious driving force.

Remember what Nietzsche said: If you fight with the dragon for too long, you will become the dragon yourself. ? The evil dragon does not necessarily refer to a certain person or thing, but also includes the current lifestyle and state. Being entangled with all bad things will definitely make you worse in the end.

Women's changes have always been like this, subtle and subtle.

When I was chatting once, I asked Sister Ji, I said: Have you ever felt that you have become a completely different person in the past few years? You are completely the opposite of what you were before. personal. ?

Sister Ji just nodded and said nothing more.

To be honest, Sister Ji is the person around me who has changed the most before and after marriage. If I had to use four words to describe her before marriage, I can only think of heartless. At that time, she was just like a child, optimistic, sunny, kind and lively. No matter what kind of blow she experienced, she would just smile and get over it.

But now, she has become a nagging and complaining person, and any stranger can feel the negativity, negativity and paranoia in her.

He is so unreasonable and aggressive at home that people can’t get close to him, and even can’t help but want to stay away.

This is all thanks to her husband and mother-in-law. Sister Ji has been married for four years and has two children. All her patience has been worn out by the children, and she can’t even spare time to go to the toilet. Come out and clean up and clean up after the child every day, causing her to be like a spinning top.

The older one hasn’t been taken care of yet, and the younger one is crying and fussing. Even though it’s so difficult, no one is there to share the burden for her, so she often breaks down and cries at home, and her mood is extremely unstable. I don’t want to yell at my kids.

Including when I was pregnant, I had to support myself to take care of the children, wash and cook even though I suffered from morning sickness.

My husband never shares the burden, and will only think that you are being pretentious. The family and children are your responsibility, and the mother-in-law turns a blind eye to Sister Ji's discomfort, and instead often finds fault with her.

My husband is still a person who can’t figure things out. It took Sister Ji four years to change his mind. Parents always come first.

Naturally, the husband would only discuss it with his parents when something happened, and he would never love or care about them. If the child fell down in front of him, the husband would only complain to Sister Ji who was busy with other things. :? Come on, your son fell down, come and see what happened. ?I won’t put down the phone in my hand.

I don’t know how to cherish the fruits of other people’s labor, but I always destroy them behind the scenes. Whether you have freshly washed sheets or freshly mopped floors, they will immediately cause chaos for you.

Her husband does not make much money, but Sister Ji is not dissatisfied. What makes Sister Ji dissatisfied is that her husband does not want to make progress. One person has enough to eat and the whole family is not hungry. Sister Ji is frugal at home, but he is playing games. There is a lot of extravagance. Then you can't say a word to him, otherwise he will immediately lose his temper at you and say that you only care about money.

After four years of marriage, Sister Ji is like a robot, and her husband is still very stingy and is reluctant to even add fuel.

This kind of life finally changed Sister Ji's temperament and turned into a resentful woman. She became more and more irritable. She denied all marriages and men in the world, and often looked disheveled at home. When she nags and complains to her husband fatally, she looks like an unreasonable lunatic.

She is full of hatred for life. If she talks about her husband, Sister Ji can be paranoid about it for three days and three nights without giving you a chance to interrupt.

These are all unbearable, but there are too many grievances, disappointments and dissatisfactions accumulated in her heart, and it is precisely because of her anger that she has changed beyond recognition. How could she not know that after only four years of marriage, I had turned into a "vindictive woman"?

Yes, no woman does not want to be a gentle, virtuous, cute and beautiful little woman, but the key is that she has no support behind her, and her living environment and conditions do not allow it.

There is no such thing as a resentful woman, only a resentful woman who is forced to become one.

So a smart man knows how to enrich his wife. Prosperity is not material, but spiritual, because a smart man knows that his wife is the best feng shui of the family and determines a From the warmth of the family, you are the ultimate beneficiary, and conversely, you are the ultimate victim.

Having said that, what a woman wants is just someone to rely on, someone who can care about her, understand her, and help her share her burdens.

Then she will become a little sun, warming the family and fulfilling the man, making the two of them become better and better and full of expectations for life.

If you encounter such a situation, you must stop making it worse for yourself. I am not advising you to divorce, but if you cannot change the situation, you can only try to accept it and treat it as if it is for yourself. Be responsible and learn to "guide" and "train" at the same time. Whether you think about it or not, life will go on.

Properly cultivate your own circle of friends and interests, and don’t dig deeper and deeper into the dead end.

The world is not as bad as you think, but your life is worse. I would rather you live a life of strangers under the same roof than have such a negative attitude towards life.

You can't change others, but you can love yourself well. Loving yourself will make you a person who is not easy to bully.