Good teacher and good book recommendation ~ "Education in the details of life"

Label: a book to educate children.

? A good mother is better than a good teacher?

Parenting books that parents must read?

How to say that children will listen?

? Read a child's mind?

Editor's recommendation

☆ The average score of all books in Douban is above 8, and that of a single book is 9.4. Cai Yingqing, a literate writer with high readers' favorable rate, is a newly published work of Family Education.

☆ Hong Lan, a famous parenting expert and neuroscientist in Taiwan Province, played more than 1 10,000 videos in Netease open class. His translated works "True Happiness" and "Good Boy: Three Points Destined by Heaven, Seven Points Depended on Parenting" are both bestsellers, with sales exceeding 65,438+000,000 copies.

☆ Integrate the concept of "life aesthetics" into education, and put forward the concept of "education aesthetics" that "a good life is education". "Educational Aesthetics" is increasingly loved and respected by the new generation of white-collar parents.

Yin Jianli, Mainland China, Cai Yingqing, Taiwan Province Province. Tsai Ing-wen's position in Taiwan Province Province is equivalent to that of Yin Jianli in the mainland. With the continuous introduction of Cai Yingqing's works, her educational ideas are gradually accepted by more parents, and the sales of her works are also rising.

It's really good for readers to say yes.

Real comments from readers—

Love three things very much. One is this cup holder. The cups of the whole family are placed in a frame, and the whole countertop is fresh and beautiful. The second is to read the poetry calendar every day. This was recommended at the end of last year, before the Chinese poetry conference. According to solar terms and seasons, use a day's poem. Put it on your desk and spend ten minutes reading every day as accumulation. Thirdly, Tsai Ing-Wen's writing always soothes my mind and makes me slow down and calm down. It's really Xiao Fu. (@ Fortunate Fortune Castle)

Every time I read Tsai Ing-Wen's book, I can't bear to read it all at once. And put it back on the shelf. I want to read it again later. It is lucky to meet such a true love author. (@ Honey's life notes)

There are two favorite teachers, and their books are basically put away in a conspicuous position on the bookshelf for easy access at any time. One is teacher Jin Yunrong, and the other is Cai Yingqing. They are not only excellent mothers, but also have achieved their own careers. They are my idols. (@RosaAroma Rosa Aromatherapy)

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From "Life Aesthetics" to "Education Aesthetics" —— The favorite educational idea of a new generation of white-collar parents

"A good life is education".

Jiang Xun said: Actually, my mother taught me aesthetics, and no one can replace it. Because no one can replace maternal love, no one can replace the mother's educational work. "

Instead of signing up for countless long classes, making strict and rigid rules and preaching and reasoning repeatedly. ...

Just live-live with him, live a beautiful life with him, feel life with him, and learn to live with him. A good life is a good upbringing.

Fans have steadily increased and sales have continued to rise.

Cai Yingqing is an elegant and intellectual writer, a famous education expert and aesthetician in Taiwan Province Province. With the continuous introduction of works and the accumulation of word of mouth, more and more readers are attracted by her philosophy of life and educational ideas, and eventually become loyal fans. At the same time, the sales of her new book are also rising. We believe that a good author and a good work will eventually have a good market return.

Content introduction:

Hong Lan said, "It is not difficult to raise children. It has only one principle, that is, set an example: if you are filial to your parents, your children will be filial to you in the future; " Whatever you don't want your child to do, don't do it yourself, that's all. "

Cai Yingqing said: "I have always regarded cultivating myself as more important than cultivating children. Before expecting a child's ability, I want to know or learn that kind of life deeply. I want to be an interesting mother before raising an interesting child. "

"Cultivating yourself" is more important than cultivating children, and words and deeds are better than all preaching. Give children enough peace and food, give them quiet time, accompany them to eat, keep a calm mood and teach them to do housework together.

"Education in the Details of Life" Hong Lan and Cai Yingqing had a gentle and wise dialogue on 27 typical issues that parents and teachers care about. From this, we can see that education is not methodology, but life itself; Every minute that adults get along with children is a subtle education for children. Pay attention to details, get along with children with equality, respect, gentleness, love and wisdom, take care of each other and grow together.

The maturity of adults can be reflected in raising children. I hope we can all take training ourselves and a child as one of our life goals. Participating in the growth of life means giving and thanking.

Brief introduction of the author

Hong Lan

Ph.D. in Experimental Psychology, University of California. He was a postdoctoral researcher at the University of California, a researcher at the Shaq Institute of Biology in San Diego, and a research professor at the University of California.

Teacher Hong Lan said: Mother is the soul of the family. When you educate a boy, you only educate the boy, but when you educate a girl, you educate the whole family and the next generation.

In recent years, I feel that education is the foundation of the country and reading is the foundation of education. I gave a speech on promoting reading in more than 0/000 primary and secondary schools in Taiwan Province Province. For more than ten years, he has devoted himself to translating and introducing books in the fields of cognitive psychology, neuroscience and life sciences, translated more than 50 books and published articles in major newspapers and magazines.

There are many books, including happy learning is a matter of course, different people have different opinions, education creates the future, independent learning creates the future (published by world culture) and so on. Another translation, True Happiness, and a family education book co-authored with Yin Jianli, Good Boy: Three Points Destiny, Seven Points Depend on Education, are very popular with readers.

Cai Yingqing

Famous parent-child writer, life aesthetician and best-selling author in Taiwan Province Province. Cai Yingqing has always regarded cultivating oneself as more important than cultivating children: before expecting children to have any ability, we must deeply understand or learn that kind of life. Before raising an interesting child, she said that she should be an interesting mother first.

Masterpieces of parenting include Mother is the First Teacher, My Works are Mothers, Meeting in Love, Little Chef-My Happy Investment, etc. The representative works of life aesthetics in simplified Chinese characters include Poems with Details, Love and Food Can't Live Up to, I want to learn to live, and I want to put down what I'm doing and sit down and read.

Cai Yingqing, who looks very weak, speaks of upbringing and life with a gentle tone and shows consistent firmness and enthusiasm.

-"Two sides of the book"

There are two favorite teachers, and their books are basically put away in a conspicuous position on the bookshelf for easy access at any time. One is teacher Jin Yunrong, and the other is Cai Yingqing. They are not only excellent mothers, but also have achieved their own careers. They are my idols.

-Weibo reader RosaAroma Rosa Aromatherapy

An aesthetics class was actually given to me by my mother, and no one can replace it. Because no one can replace maternal love, no one can replace the mother's educational work.

Jiang Xun

catalogue

00 1 choose good and stubborn, and take the road that is good for children.

Foreword 2: Down-to-earth, make the harvest of education better.

The first part of a good life is education.

002 Daily life Sometimes, develop correct life values.

-How to give children a thorough rest?

0 13 At school, children should also eat well.

-How to make children learn life education in diet?

Family is the best place to enlighten and cultivate manners.

Children's politeness is just a way to deal with outsiders?

Squat down and talk to the child and look out from his point of view.

-How to communicate with children in words?

Use good and correct language to be a communication model for children.

-How to make children learn to speak politely and aesthetically?

Cultivate the ability of lovers, starting with family service.

-How to cultivate children's service spirit and work skills?

The second part is to love children in the right way

Don't let the world revolve around children just because you love them.

-How is the child's egoism formed?

072 "What you have, what he has" is actually unfair.

-How to deal with the problem of "fairness" between brothers and sisters?

08 1 If someone is there but no one takes it, it is not the responsibility to take care of it.

-How to leave time for children and give them the companionship they need?

088 fair and reasonable punishment, the child will accept it calmly.

-What kind of punishment can make children understand and correct their mistakes?

Look for answers from common sense and experience before "following the book".

-What should we think of the authoritative educational opinions of experts?

106 put the safety of taking care of children in the first place.

-How to find and appease children's fears and worries?

1 16 learning expectations and goals should match children's abilities.

-How to free children from the tension of being evaluated?

124 It may be more cruel to cheat in the name of love.

-Will parents cheat their children out of kindness?

The third part is the communication and cooperation between parents and teachers.

134 love and care are the most important educational qualities provided by kindergartens.

-How to choose a suitable kindergarten for children?

14 1 It must be that the extreme proposition of being ahead or learning slowly is not natural enough.

-How to correctly understand the workload and writing level required by children?

150 Let children understand the border of closeness through positive examples and teaching.

-How to master the measure and distance between teachers and students?

157 make good use of the influence of teachers to guide parents to grow together.

How should teachers communicate with parents about children's problems?

166 parents should have a good discussion about their children's mistakes and punishments.

-How to deal with bullying and conflicts between children?

175 don't teach children to learn to be tricky and utilitarian in the name of goodwill.

-What's the impact of stopping living and exam packaging on children?

182 unused but still used wastes should be better distributed.

-How to use educational resources carefully so that more children can be taken care of together?

The fourth part releases the real freedom of learning.

There must be solid learning and practice behind the creativity of 192.

-As long as children break the rules and are different, are they creative?

199 help children "learn" first, and then determine "not interested"

Can you do it? Is it the only criterion to judge whether you are interested or not?

2 1 1 Let the child develop normally before the "early" culture.

-How to treat and cultivate children's early interests and talents?

Children's reading also needs time management.

As long as children want to study, should they be satisfied anytime and anywhere?

The hours of reading and the number of books are not exactly equal to the accumulation of knowledge.

-Besides quantity, how to further improve children's reading quality?

Reciting is for the convenience of "keeping it in your heart"

-How to distinguish the meaning of "back" and "back" in learning?

Wonderful. Read first.

Sometimes, develop correct life values in daily life.

-How to give children a thorough rest?

Bubu teacher

Training animals will be rewarded with food or comfort.

Parents nowadays are like animal trainers, because some entertainment is not expensive.

And use it as compensation for children's hard work at school, without restrictions.

But the solution to this problem should be to adjust the daily extrusion.

Instead of using two days of excessive relaxation to make up for five days of guilt in a week.

Rewarding everything is a utilitarian education, and it is difficult to teach children to cherish themselves.

Miss Hong Lan.

The function of coffee or refreshing drink is just to open your eyes.

The inside of the brain is closed, which makes people tired, unable to sleep, but uncomfortable.

Therefore, when a child appears listless, he should be told to go back to sleep.

Fundamentally change the normal work and rest mode of mental fatigue,

Or don't do the same job for a long time to keep a clear head,

Don't easily get into the habit of relying on external forces to refresh yourself.

Excuse me, Mr. Hong Lan.

What children need to rest is not just "empty" or "carnival"

All the children I met came to class during the holidays. Although it is morning, some children look sleepy and their limbs are not lively. It was only after asking that they all stayed up late because they watched TV, movies or played games the night before, and of course they were not in good spirits the next day. I have discussed with many parents that they always allow their children to sleep the night before the holiday, because they feel that their children are very tired in class on weekdays and are sorry, and they want their children to relax. Even parents who attach great importance to the law of life on weekdays often reward their children with this.

"Sometimes life" is originally a way for us to keep healthy. If parents want their children to go to bed early the night before school starts, but allow them to stay up late the night before the holiday, this is not equivalent to providing their children with two sets of living standards. Will it make them sleep naturally because of the holiday and feel that getting up early on school day is a painful thing? I'd like to ask Mr. Hong Lan if his parents take care of him.

Is it right to "reward" children like this?

Training animals will be rewarded with food or comfort. Parents nowadays are also like animal trainers. Because some entertainment is not expensive, they take it as compensation for their children's hard work at school on weekdays. But the solution to this problem should be to adjust the daily squeeze, not to make up for the guilt of five days a week with two days of excessive relaxation.

I'm worried that if children form the habit of partying all night after work, will it affect their values on life? Will the "habit" formed by these "rewards" become an "entertainment addiction"? How should parents be alert to the warning that "addiction" is slowly forming?

For example:

How long do you play video games every day?

Be sure to go to the supermarket to buy a little thing every day.

There must be drinks when eating.

Be sure to get together with friends or go out for dinner the night before the holiday.

Be sure to travel on weekends and holidays, and go abroad in winter and summer vacations.

For the brain, what is called "emptying"? Why do all people who use electricity and television to change their lives claim that they are resting in an "empty" state? Can this really have a comforting effect on the mind? Why do children who relax after carnival or TV marathon look more tired the next day?

When I was in college, some physical education class had classes at 6: 30 in the morning. Now most college students are night owls. Don't say it's half past six, you can't even have an interesting class in the morning. I heard that some teachers want to buy McDonald's breakfast for the whole semester, and no one will come to class until noon. Is this phenomenon enough to remind parents who are raising their children to pay more attention?

Rewarding everything in daily life is a utilitarian education, and it is difficult to teach children to cherish themselves.

By forcing the body to refresh itself, it may trigger warnings about learning and health.

I remember Mr Hong Lan once said in his speech that "the brain works at night". How important is "rest" for physical and mental recovery and maintenance? What kind of influence will it have on learning? Now, when parents see their children listless, they immediately think of any way to "refresh themselves". If they are not focused, they are willing to let their children take medicine instead of looking for a more correct way to rest. I want to ask the teacher to explain to us that "refreshing the brain" is a "reluctant state" or "natural rejuvenation"

When I work with the children, I find that the children look listless. Sometimes they need to eat something to replenish their strength, and sometimes they have to change jobs to cheer up. In fact, I didn't really let them "empty", but all the methods I tried worked. Teacher Hong Lan thinks that parents should take care of their children's body and mind so that they can have sex.

Instead of "If you persist now, you will be free at the weekend" or "If you work harder this semester, I will take you abroad during the winter and summer vacations"?

I have seen high school students buy "bulls" and other drinks, and I am worried, but my parents don't seem to care. I would like to ask the teacher to explain to you what is the difference between "looking excited" and "really energetic" I asked some college students to know that they would drink alcohol and refreshing drinks at the same time, saying that they could "relax but still have the strength to stay up late."

Night ",I thought it was impossible to exist in one body at the same time, but I didn't expect that children had already forced two with drugs. "When we force the body like this, how does the brain use resources, and what problems will arise? What should parents be wary of?

Balance and discipline should be emphasized in work and rest, hard work and labor.

I remember in middle school, our tutor used Mr. Zhu Guangqian's article to guide us to understand the importance and balance of work and rest. Especially before the long vacation, the school will carefully remind that the discipline of daily work and rest cannot be relaxed. Found the article introduced to us by the teacher at that time, and the quotation was later-

Different kinds of jobs are more like melons, which can get the effect of adjustment and rest, but one can't work all the time. In fact, there is no need. Overworking makes work a kind of hard work and can't be very efficient. Sometimes we give up our work completely, do some idle activities and enjoy the happiness of a little free man. All work has a practical purpose; Activities with nothing to do and no practical purpose can be regarded as recreation. What we call "recreation" is "fooling around", which is really not good; When westerners say "divert attention", it means "use your energy on the other hand". It is called the occupation of work, which shows the use of entertainment. The so-called occupation, without proper Chinese translation, seems to contain two meanings: occupation and sustenance. In the process of work and entertainment, one thing "occupies" our body and mind, and our body and mind are "pinned" on that thing. Where the body and mind are suppressed, the energy will be vented.

Does Hong Lan think that modern parents should also refer to the past explanation of the word "entertainment"? The pressure of life in the future must be increasing, and the business-oriented society is constantly tempting consumption with various entertainment methods. If you don't teach children the difference between rest and entertainment from an early age, you just misinterpret the meaning of "overwork". Is it a major defect in education?