The child's rebellion is related to the "feng shui" at home.
Several times ago, we analyzed the causes of the "rebellious period" from the social environment and school environment. This time we will analyze the family environment, which is closely related to the above two points, and propose solutions according to the problems that will occur in the family environment.
Every family is different. Whether the family is harmonious or not and the atmosphere in the family will affect the children.
First of all, after all, parents are "leading by example", and their practices in the family will be followed by their children. Parents' usual living habits and parents' attitudes towards grandparents will affect their children. However, children will not be allowed to do many incorrect practices. Although it is correct in theory, it will arouse children's suspicion, incomprehension and eventually confrontation, that is, "rebellion." First of all, we should set an example and make demands at the same time.
The family atmosphere is also a key point. If the family is nervous every day, the communication between children and others will also be tense. If the learning atmosphere at home is very heavy, then learning is a very easy thing for children, because it has always been such an atmosphere at home, and at the same time, you should speak kindly. Many times, "rebellion" is because it is too strict. First of all, strictness is an act, a very strong emotional expression, and so is "rebellion". Because children can't find happiness in the things you mentioned, taking learning as an example, learning should be a happy thing. There is already a lot of pressure at school. As a result, when I get home, I have to accept the pressure from home, which makes the children unbearable and directly escape to express their pressure.
But how to express it? Someone taught him. It's a vicious circle. However, if children's happiness in learning is excavated and the mental stress in school is persuaded to be alleviated, then learning is no longer something that children resist.
There are also many special families, such as single-parent families. Children in single-parent families may lack fatherly love or maternal love. At this time, parents should communicate more and understand the embarrassment in their children's hearts, instead of putting pressure on their children with their own hard work. As long as you can communicate patiently with your child, think from the child's point of view, and give your child the care he needs, your child will certainly feel the hardship of his parents, and at the same time be grateful and rebellious.
We analyzed the causes of the "rebellious period" from three environments. I hope parents can get help, and I hope all children can get rid of confusion and move towards the light!