How to cultivate children's good will quality and guide them to form a determined character?

Some parents always complain that my children are too unconscious and never take the initiative to learn; Some parents also said that everything my children do has a beginning and an end, and they always give up halfway; Some parents feel that their children are hesitant and indecisive; Some parents are distressed that their children can't control themselves. In fact, these are all children's will qualities, and will plays an important role in people's character. There is a popular saying that personality is fate, and a person's personality is directly related to his life development, life, work and even body. As a parent, I definitely want my children to have a good personality. This section will discuss how to cultivate children's strong will and strong character. 1, let parents know that perseverance can benefit their children for life. 2. Understand the elements of personality, in which will plays a particularly important role. 3. Understand the methods of cultivating children's good will quality. Discuss how to cultivate children's good character. First of all, let's understand what a person's personality means. Some of our children are straightforward and cheerful, while others are withdrawn and introverted. Some are open-minded and generous, and some are suspicious and petty; Some do things neatly and quickly, and some look forward and backward, dragging their feet; Some have a clear vision of the goal, are persistent in doing things, some are half-hearted, give up at the sight of difficulties, and so on. These are all manifestations of a person's personality in his attitude and emotion towards people and things. To sum up, we can understand that a person's personality mainly consists of four aspects: one is his attitude towards reality, the other is his will, the third is his emotion, and the fourth is his reason. These four aspects form a unified whole and become a character. Everyone has his own personality characteristics, and naturally there are good and bad points. A good personality should be good in all four aspects mentioned just now, and will plays a particularly important role, because will can adjust attitudes and emotions and promote and ensure the full play of reason. For example, a pupil doesn't like learning mathematics at first, but he has good willpower, awareness of learning and can persist, thus adjusting his dislike attitude towards mathematics and forcing himself to like this subject gradually. When your math scores are not ideal, you can control your emotions, be in no hurry, and carefully analyze the reasons for your unsatisfactory results. If we persist in this way, the pupil will learn mathematics better and better. This example is to show that will plays the most important role in the four aspects of personality. Therefore, when we cultivate children's good character, we must grasp the most critical aspect, that is, pay attention to the cultivation of children's good will quality. Let's discuss how to cultivate children's good character. Will plays a particularly important role in a person's attitude, will, emotion and reason, so today we will focus on how to cultivate children's good will quality. Will quality includes four basic elements: consciousness, persistence, decisiveness and self-control. According to these basic elements and the reality of primary school students, parents are advised to pay attention to the following aspects: 1. Cultivate children's honesty Our country has always regarded honesty as a moral standard to evaluate a person. In our traditional virtues, honesty plays a central role. In society, a person's good reputation is like having intangible and priceless wealth. There is a well-known story "Sean respects teachers". Once upon a time, a teenager passed by a Gao Qiao while playing and saw a white-haired old man sitting on the bridge feebly, not even knowing that his shoes had fallen under the bridge. The teenager immediately ran to the bridge to pick up the shoes for the old man and help him put them on, but they fell off as soon as they were put on, so after three times, the teenager patiently helped the old man pick up the shoes and put them on. The old man was so moved that he reached out and patted the boy on the head, told him to come back here before dawn and gave him a gift. The next morning, the boy came to the bridge, and the old man was already waiting. He said angrily, "How can you let the old man wait for you?" Come back tomorrow! "The next day, the old man still said that he was late. On the third day, the boy made up his mind and came to the bridge in the middle of the night. After waiting for a long time in the dark and cold environment, the old man came at dawn. Looking at the boy covered in dew, the old man finally nodded with satisfaction and said, "son, I am so happy for you to see you so kind, honest and trustworthy!" "He gave the boy a book and told him to go back and study hard. Sure enough, the young man gained a lot of military knowledge from the book, became the teacher of Emperor Liu Bang, and helped Liu Bang win the world and made great contributions. The old man's name is Huang Shigong, and the teenager is Sean. This story tells us a truth, that is, be honest and trustworthy. No matter what you do, you should treat it with an honest heart. Parents should also tell their children that honesty and trustworthiness include many things, such as not lying, being punctual, making promises to others, explaining why they can't, doing homework and not cheating in exams. Parents should also know that honesty is easier said than done, but it is not easy to really stick to it. It is not difficult for a person to do something about honesty, but it is difficult to keep it all his life. It is not easy to be a sincere person in life, because there is nothing false and utilitarian in the future, and it needs to be paid and dedicated. People who are sincere in self-denial may be cheated occasionally, but they will always be popular. Some people will say that honest people can't get benefits in the real society, and even get into some trouble because of honesty, while dishonest people can make ends meet and get many benefits. " Honest people suffer ",don't be too honest! However, we should think that an open-minded and upright person has a clear conscience. As the saying goes, "It is not surprising to knock at the door in the middle of the night without doing anything wrong all his life. "Honest people live freely and easily, isn't it the best, although sometimes it seems fame and fortune. Therefore, as parents, we should talk to our children about the importance of honesty and how to do it. We should discuss with our children how to treat the phenomenon that some people don't talk about honesty in current society and guide them to form the habit of honesty. Parents should firmly believe that if your child, under your guidance, has a firm will and keeps his promise from an early age, he will eventually win the trust of all people in society and become a noble person. I think this is exactly what parents expect! 2. Let children learn to be decisive, which is a kind of character and a kind of temperament, which will make people experience the pleasure of being resolute and vigorous. Only those who make a decisive decision can adapt to this era that requires decisiveness. In a person's life, if you seize the opportunity decisively and firmly, you may taste the joy of success; Hesitant, thoughtful, afraid of wolves before and afraid of tigers after, will miss many opportunities and even leave eternal regrets. Opportunities are everywhere. This is fair to everyone. Life is not without opportunities, but without grasping them. Do everything decisively, don't hesitate, and do whatever you want. If you miss the opportunity, you will never come back, and you can't rely on charity from outside and others to make a profit, so you should be decisive. The indecision of primary school students is often manifested in delaying or even giving up, because they are afraid that they will not do well in their study and life; If you want to take part in an activity or competition, you will hesitate because you are afraid of being inferior to others, and you dare not make bold decisions about your wishes. As parents, we should know that decisive personality plays an important role in children's success. Children should know that only decisive people can succeed. At the same time, we should observe children's performance in daily life, actively communicate with teachers, understand children's situation at school, and create conditions at home to cultivate children's decisive character. If you want to make decisions about things at home, listen to your children's ideas, adopt them if you can, and let your children have confidence and dare to make decisions; When going out for activities, children want to know and get what, encourage them to ask others, choose and buy by themselves, and let them practice the courage to express their demands; When doing homework at home, which answer to choose, encourage children to make bold choices according to their own ideas, and let children gradually develop the habit of making bold judgments and decisive decisions. It is very difficult to guide children to learn to overcome their own lives. There are many difficulties and obstacles to overcome, but it may be more difficult for people to overcome themselves often in life. We often think that the greatest threat comes from the enemy, but in fact our greatest enemy is ourselves. For example, one's own knowledge is not wide, which affects the judgment of things; My inner prejudice affects the correct evaluation of people and things; They lack self-examination and self-reflection, which hinders their correct understanding and continuous self-improvement. Why do you say that you are the biggest threat to yourself? This is because a person's thoughts and actions will affect everything, and sometimes they will bring pressure and obstacles to themselves without even knowing it. There is a story that Bonn and Jialin are twin brothers. In a fire accident, both of them were burned beyond recognition. Bonn always feels that he is pointed at as soon as he goes out. His ugly appearance made him lose confidence in life and finally committed suicide. Jia Lin firmly believes that others will accept people who are as ugly as themselves, and that most people will never look down on themselves because of their ugliness. With this belief, Jia Lin strives to survive. One day, Jia Lin saved a drowning man, only to learn later that she saved a billionaire. The rich man thanked Jia Lin and started business with him. Through honest management, Jia Lin has developed from a driver with a deposit of less than 654.38 million yuan to a transportation company with assets of 320 million yuan. The different fates of the Galindo brothers tell us a truth. In adversity, if a person can't get through this, he will be devastated and disheartened. However, if we can overcome ourselves, we can take setbacks as stepping stones and let ourselves stand higher. In order to make children successful, parents should tell their children that they may encounter many unexpected difficulties in the future. They should always overcome them and challenge their determination and courage. They should never lose to themselves, so as not to lose to the outside world and achieve greater success. 4. Pay attention to cultivating children's strong willpower. The so-called willpower refers to the psychological strength that people consciously overcome difficulties and stick to it in order to achieve a certain goal. Only when a person has a strong will can he overcome difficulties and succeed. If he wants his children to do something in the future, he must cultivate their good willpower. So, how to cultivate it? First of all, we should start from small things to cultivate. Some children think that it doesn't matter much whether a class or an assignment is done well. These have nothing to do with will. Don't you know that if you don't stick to this kind of small class and an assignment, you will develop a weak will, which will eventually lead to a "complete collapse" in your study? On the other hand, people with strong learning will must take every lesson and every problem seriously, and they have a tenacity of not giving up until they reach their goals. These children can accumulate small victories and win success in their studies. When cultivating children's willpower, we should pay attention to the following points: First, because children's ability to distinguish right from wrong is not very strong and they are easily influenced by the outside world, they often indiscriminately imitate the actions and language of the negative characters in TV movies. Therefore, some vulgar things in daily life should be avoided for children, and at the same time, they should be taught to distinguish between good and bad things and prevent bad behavior. Second, children often encounter failures in their studies. At this time, parents should seize the opportunity, teach their children how to face failure, and help them calmly analyze the reasons and see what methods can overcome the difficulties. Don't give help and care at every turn, otherwise the child will be weak and unable to bear the wind and waves. Doing so is from the accumulation of common failure, gradually transformed into the training of controlling one's own emotional relationship, resulting in an ability to resist setbacks. The above is what parents should pay attention to when suggesting to cultivate their children's perseverance. The following are some good practices of successful parents in cultivating their children's perfect personality: 1. Pay attention to protecting children's self-esteem and have the opportunity to let children speak in the family. 2, trust children, patiently persuade, don't be too rigid. Don't scare children with terrible stories, otherwise, children will become timid all their lives. 4. Don't deliberately make children afraid of themselves in order to make them easy to discipline, which will turn them into cowards. 5. Tell children stories of great men's patience and instill enterprising and brave spirit in them. 6. Don't do things for your child, otherwise the child will have no ability to do things and form an inferiority complex. 7. Willing to answer children's questions. Parents should not laugh at their children's illogical questions, but should answer them in good faith. 8, can't deceive children, also can't tease children, otherwise children will deceive others, or form a shameless, rude and other bad character. Today's talk is mainly about the importance of good personality to children's success, and puts forward methods to cultivate children's good personality. However, please note that different children have different personalities. We need to guide our children to learn to be brave according to their reality. For example, for timid children, we should guide them to learn to be brave. While protecting their brave spirit, we should guide them to learn to be calm and careful. Thinking: 1. What is your child's good personality? How is it formed?