What's the taboo of death in the family?
Don't be afraid to have no relatives around you when you die
In the old days, people attached great importance to carrying on the family line, and thought that when the old man died, his children and grandchildren must be present, so that when he left, he would not be alone. Old people don't always have to worry about it in the underworld, and their souls can be at peace. If the old man dies in the presence of all his relatives, it is the greatest blessing. According to legend, the Bai people believe that the old man died in the arms of his children and grandchildren, who are repaying the kindness of raising him, commonly known as "receiving gas."
Taboos for mourning
In a mourning home, white cloth and white paper should be hung on the gate to let people know that someone in the family has died, and send a message to relatives in other places or overseas, so that children can hear the news and attend the funeral. Among them, it is especially prudent to report the funeral to the relatives in marriage. After the parents died and the date of the funeral was set, the dutiful son was going to visit relatives. When mourning, pay attention to the filial son not entering the house, kneel outside to salute first, and report the news of parents' death and the time of funeral to relatives.
During the period of filial piety, children are forbidden to participate in recreational activities
In ancient times, when their parents died, children were generally required to observe filial piety for three years. During these three years, they were not allowed to hold weddings or auspicious celebrations. In ancient times, people who paid attention to "ruling the world with filial piety" and were officials, no matter how big the official was, had to take time off to go back to their ancestral home to observe filial piety after their parents died, which was called "Ding You". If officials don't go back to their hometown to observe filial piety, they may be impeached by the censor, punished, or even never hired in serious cases.
If an official marries, gives birth to children, splits up, has fun, etc., it will be regarded as unfilial and will be impeached. In modern society, many people shorten the time of filial piety to one year or even shorter, but they are afraid of their children having fun.
During the period of mourning, children should not wear red with green
During the period of mourning, children in ancient times paid attention to dressing in Dai Xiao and wearing white mourning clothes within 1 days; After a hundred days, wear dark clothes such as black and blue to keep filial piety, and avoid wearing red and green and heavy makeup. In modern society, although many friends don't wear mourning clothes for such a long time because of work and life, they wear the word "filial piety" instead; However, you still can't wear red with green.